Hansky is offline Hansky Post #81  September 4,2009, 6:37am
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Interesting that people say they are turned off by metioning God or Faith, I just want to say that is a turn ON for me. Also, it shows courage.
To me, it simply shows whether it is an important part of their life and something they need to share with a husband or wife. Why would those people not state that up front? If it is not mentioned anywhere at all, it is probably not someone for me. It be as simple as "I enjoy church activities," just to give a clue.

On the other hand, I have seen profiles where literally every single question was answered with a Biblical or church answer. I have pretty strong faith and try to live it, but it might be hard to have a normal conversation with those people.
 
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photos taken with either a webcam or cell phone
Me, too. I want to see details, so having small, fuzzy, blurry, or poorly lit pics is a big turn off.
 
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alng wrote :
As a woman I never open a profile first, because I like to feel as if it were real life and I'm just not the type to approach a man; so if they write to me, they have an interest. I like to give as many people the opportunity to write to me.
Yup, THAT'S an interesting one (and I wonder how common that is)! Well, so much for 21st century equality (but maybe I can get her to come over and clean my house).

Actually, it reminds me of another pet peeve. You see an otherwise interesting and attractive profile, and somewhere it pops up that "I'm Special!" or "I'm Entitled!". Sure signs of your classic narcissist.... "Click" (buh-bye!).
 
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I'll add one more from my current matches. An actress/producer who has a dozen or more pictures and all but one are from her portfolio. I would like to date you, not the character you want to play.

In the past, I have had a few matches who professed to be models, fitness models, or whatever, and the same is true for them. I can see you are in great shape and look good from your normal, every day pictures.

This is more personal for me, but multiple bikini picture probably mean she is not for me. I'll look, though!
 
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"I want a woman who can go from ball gown to ball cap."

What does that mean?
Hello!
You can take this to mean versatile and comfortable in your own skin, in any situation. If there are certain social situations you shy away from, this is where you can apply it. The guy wants you to be able to tolerate a little foul language at a ball game AND know which fork to use in a white-tablecloth restaurant.
Good luck!
 
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What does that mean? OK you like baseball games so she should like sporting events, but the ball gown. In todays world what kind of event are you going to take your date to where she would be able to wear a ball gown. Just curious.
The other classic from women is "I can go from jeans to a little black dress." I usually respond with "I can go from jeans to a little black dress, but I probably don't look as good as you."

Living in the Southwest, except for very special "black and white" events and Halloween parties, I don't think there are any events at which a "ball gown" would be seen.

In addition to the above turn-offs, I want to specifically call out misuse of "its" and "it's," "your" and "you're," and the deadly trio, "there," "there're," and "their." And when did "independent" become "independant." But I think my favorite is sentences with "women" in place of "woman:" "I am a well-adjusted women," for example.
 
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I love to cook. I'm in a signed band and love to play music. I'm really into photography and will pull to the side of the road if something catches my eye while driving.
So there's your answer. That's wasn't too hard, was it?

We have other threads about this question. I've written that it's not a place to be rambling. Or to explain that you "like to live life". Mention a few (a very few) things that show your match what you're all about and give them a reason to read the rest of the profile.

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I would like to know if someone has children
Along with any previous marital status (divorced/widowed).
 
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If a guy's photos include those taken with either a webcam, cell phone or taken of himself in the mirror it's a definite close.
Lot's of folks just don't have recent pictures on their computer. I'd rather see a bad photo than none at all. You can tell a lot from a person's eyes!
 
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DesertAries wrote :
In addition to the above turn-offs, I want to specifically call out misuse of ... the deadly trio, "there," "there're," and "their."
I am particularly disheartened by the misuse of there, their, and they're. Those are so abused one would think that English grammar isn't taught in school at any level anymore. I'm not sure I've ever seen anyone use "there're" as a contraction.
 
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alng wrote :
As a woman I never open a profile first, because I like to feel as if it were real life and I'm just not the type to approach a man; so if they write to me, they have an interest.
Welcome to the 21st century, online dating and approaching a random person in public are not the same thing.

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This brings me to my other annoyance- the people that ignore the fact that I prefer Fast track- I am very aware some men are turned off by this, but this is a risk I'm willing to take. If you think that fast track means that you are going to fast, then clearly we are not a good match.
I do not need anyone to guide my conversation. I find this to be the most tedious, annoying feature of this site. I do understand some people like it, and it clearly comes down to personality. I am very gemini and I just don't like the restrictions and being tied to one process and being stuck while I get busy between responses, or when he gets busy between responses. I do forget who I am talking to and do lose interest- very frustrating.
I have said in my profile 'only fast track please' and I still get this guided whatnot responses- please people.
I am a great girl, but you'll never find that out if you insist on writing me through that process.

One of my wishes for this site is that they would include what a person's sign is. I mean seriously, I would know off the bat if I want to spend time getting to know these people.
Try match.com. There is no guided communication, you have very few questions that might restrain your verbosity in your profile and you can search by sign. If you would know off the bat whether you want to get know to someone based on their astrological sign, perhaps 29 dimensions of personality are too many factors for you.
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