MrMike33325 is offline MrMike33325 Post #281  December 7,2009, 5:44pm
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My biggest Pet Peeve is EMPTY answers or sections in the profile. Obviously if they can't fill out "My Hero Is.." or "My friends describe me as" they just aren't serious about meeting anyone online.
 
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curiouscat is offline curiouscat Post #282  December 7,2009, 8:28pm
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Nearly every man on eharmony says he is looking for an "honest" woman. I never can tell if they mean good ethics honest or candid and direct tell-it-like-it-is honest. Two very different qualities.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #283  December 7,2009, 8:40pm
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Words like "nice" and "kind" and "honest" are meaningless without explanation or an example of what you mean. For example my profile says that the most important quality I'm looking for is inner confidence, and explains that when a woman is truly confident in herself, it shows because she is always fair and honest with others and with herself.

Of course, you have to be careful here with painting too exact a picture. People will wonder whether they truly measure up to your expectations.
 
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Mekel is offline Mekel Post #284  December 7,2009, 9:07pm
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It occurs to me that this thread is exactly what I don't like about profiles. After the first two pages the vast majority of posts were unoriginal re-iterations of previous posts. Needless to say, it didn't take long before I closed match on this thread and skipped to the last page.

What I admire is quirky uniqueness, and that is one of very few things that will bring me to pursue communication.
 
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TiggerRhu is offline TiggerRhu Post #286  December 9,2009, 9:39pm
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One of the things that recently caused me to close a match right from the intro was the obvious LACK of any detail. Only a couple of the questions had answers at all, with those answers being single (short) vague sentences, yet the last item on the intro said "I'm basically an open book".

REALLY?

I just wasn't in the mood to dig, (don't want a relationship that always requires me to do that) so I closed. This guy needs a girl who enjoys the chase without knowing what she's chasing. I'm sure she's out there, I'm just not her. There was a close option worded something like "not enough information", and that's what I chose. Not that this makes him a bad person. I bet he's a great guy once he lets you know anything about himself.
 
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Tipitina is offline Tipitina Post #287  December 21,2009, 9:21am
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usmcdjb wrote :
I think it means someone who is diverse - equally comfortable dressing for and attending a very casual event, or a much ritzier type of affair.
Based on personal experience, you can bet that the girlfriend of the man who makes such a request will be spending more time in the ballcap than the ball gown.
 
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AGirlNamedJ is offline AGirlNamedJ Post #288  April 14,2010, 6:39pm
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Now, I am not the type to make excuses, BUT... I am new to eH, and was closed by every one of my first matches on the first day! Their reason... no photo. I did upload, but got a message that it takes 24 hours for your photo to be approved and then appear to matches. Please have patience with us newbies! LOL I admit my very first attempt at a profile was a little weak, as I had no clue what I was doing and no clue what I was really supposed to say in a profile. I got it together though when I started to read others. Just something to think about.
 
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AGirlNamedJ wrote :
Now, I am not the type to make excuses, BUT... I am new to eH, and was closed by every one of my first matches on the first day! Their reason... no photo. I did upload, but got a message that it takes 24 hours for your photo to be approved and then appear to matches. Please have patience with us newbies! LOL I admit my very first attempt at a profile was a little weak, as I had no clue what I was doing and no clue what I was really supposed to say in a profile. I got it together though when I started to read others. Just something to think about.
A very good point and I totally agree. I understand not knowing what to day and the delay for pic posting. I wait a week or so to close the no pic matches with minimal profile info.
You are somewhat rare in going back and filling it in. I get plenty where they don't and never do add a pic.
I also know women have lives and can't respond right away. Or that may be interested but pursuing another possibility first. So I don't close those quickly either.
 
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I would agree about not answering the question properly is not a good way to do a profile. Also not having a picture available or have it so you have to request the picture to be seen. Most of the time the person won't answer the request. I think being a Christian, for me it's bad when the person won't put enough about their Christian beliefs or how it affects their life. I also agree there should be more about you, even though be a Christian is very important to me. I want to know about you and your faith.

Also if some one puts some way of contacting them outside of eharmony on their profile, that they are trying to cheat eharmony. So I think that's dishonest so I will close that match. The biggest thing for me to close a profile (well if I see they don't have a pic) is that if they just don't have enough about them and short questions. I like to know about the person so I can weed them out the ones that are not what I want. So please tell me more about you and if you are Christian tell me what your beliefs are and how they effect you life and what your theological views are or even if you evangelize (tell others about Jesus Christ). If some one just says they are Christian and don't give more details then I am turned off by that because anybody can just say they are a Christian, please show me how you are one.
 
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