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I love the ones who post old photos (over 8 years ago) of their MUCH younger selves because they're too insecure you won't like the current 'them'. I've come across too many of those to count.
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The biggest gross out is a match who is almost my dad's age---ewwwww.
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Or a match who is more than 300 miles away, and writes they are 'happily anticipating a coffee date in the near future'
AS IF. CLOSE

Or the ones who post a ton of interests/religion in their profiles.... but when you actually meet -- 75% of it is false. They SAID they were "outgoing" etc. Then to find out they're really an introvert who solves murder cases and drinks only henna water???? Um, what was that again about being "outgoing"?????
- September 21st, 2009, 09:41 pm
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oprlvr wrote :
I love the ones who post old photos (over 8 years ago) of their MUCH younger selves because they're too insecure you won't like the current 'them'. I've come across too many of those to count.
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How do you know that's not how they look now? I'm often mistaken for being 5 and even 10 years younger than I actually am. (Sometimes they want to see my Driver's License.) I can't make myself look older without 'photoshopping' my pictures, and then that would be dishonest.
- September 22nd, 2009, 08:04 am
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oprlvr wrote :
I love the ones who post old photos (over 8 years ago) of their MUCH younger selves because they're too insecure you won't like the current 'them'. I've come across too many of those to count.
CLOSE

The biggest gross out is a match who is almost my dad's age---ewwwww.
CLOSE

Or a match who is more than 300 miles away, and writes they are 'happily anticipating a coffee date in the near future'
AS IF. CLOSE

Or the ones who post a ton of interests/religion in their profiles.... but when you actually meet -- 75% of it is false. They SAID they were "outgoing" etc. Then to find out they're really an introvert who solves murder cases and drinks only henna water???? Um, what was that again about being "outgoing"?????
There's an easy way to fix two of those problems. Go into your account and change the preferrences so you won't be matched with old geisers who live 300 miles away.
As far as the old photos, women do it just as much or more because they tend to be more vain then men. That's one evil about online dating.
About the out going thing. Are you saying you don't stretch things a little in you profile? It's what many people do. We like to think of ourselves as more than what we really are.
- September 22nd, 2009, 02:04 pm
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I don't like it when people say they like to cuddle. It sounds so corny!
- September 22nd, 2009, 02:55 pm
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And the inverse of that is when it's obvious they're not talking about spirituality (Buddhist, Muslim, etc.) or even christianity (Protestant or whatever), but they're using "God" or "Christian" as code for evangelical or fundamentalist ("My Way or the highway"!).

BTW, don't they already have dating sites exclusively for those folks
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I'm sure you are not suggesting the poster needs to hit the highway because she doesn't share your worldview on God.
- September 22nd, 2009, 05:51 pm
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Spending romantic evenings alone cuddling on the couch or long walks on the beach. That may be a great date but these things tell me he's lonely or horny. CLOSE.
Maybe it tells you the guy is romantic. Closing someone for the comment shows me you're very picky.
- September 23rd, 2009, 10:40 am
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Spending romantic evenings alone cuddling on the couch or long walks on the beach. That may be a great date but these things tell me he's lonely or horny. CLOSE.



ha ha.. I guess this person might also interpret that walking to the mailbox also means someone is having an affair with the mailman..

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- September 23rd, 2009, 10:59 am
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LOL I agree poor spelling and grammar is a turn off. Maybe investing in a dictionary might not be a bad idea. Funny post considering the subject matter.

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My pet peeves:
  1. pour speling an gramer
  2. SHOUTING
  3. Incomplete profi
  4. Stating I'm just here for the weekend or until xxx date. If you can't make a commitment, why should I?
  5. Photos where you are posing, shirtless, tells me you are stuck on yourself.
- September 23rd, 2009, 11:25 am
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I guess my biggest pet peeve is when it is all about "my kids, my children, my daughter, my son..." OK, we all know you love your kids. But every question should not be answered with "My Kids". The profile is supposed to be about you. If everything is about your children then do you really have room in your life for a partner? Especially if there is a statement to the effect of: my kids are number one always and forever.

No pictures: Gone.
Bearly any profile information: Next.
Anything that is at all negative or angry sounding signals baggage: see ya. Get emotionally healthy first, then look to get involved in a relationship.

Please pay attention to the picture suggestions. No pictures with all your friends, especially when they are more attractive than you. We will be looking at and wanting to meet your friends. And please no pics with your 20 something much more attractive daughter.
- November 16th, 2009, 12:51 pm
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Spending romantic evenings alone cuddling on the couch or long walks on the beach. That may be a great date but these things tell me he's lonely or horny. CLOSE.
Lonely? Umm, isn't that why we are here?
Horny? I would hope so. Isn't that also why we are here?
Gee, let me see if I can find someone who doesn't really want someone else in their life and isn't at all interested in a physical relationship.
- November 16th, 2009, 01:09 pm
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