Alistair is offline Alistair Post #251  September 10,2009, 8:10pm
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Bad spelling and grammar of course. If you wanted to make an impression, you succeeded.
Incomplete profiles. That first page does not really have many questions - surely you can come up with a few things? If that is too much trouble then how will you cope with communicating?
Vague job descriptions. I loved the one which had: 'I work 40 hours a week".
Someone who never reads a book.
A lack of any meaningful interests. For example, spends most of her time with the children and grandchildren. Fine, but that is not what I am looking to do. Or another with just two interests, the garden and decorating the house. I mean, how many times do you want to paint the ceiling?
I do not want people to lie about what they do and what interests them, but surely there must be something that can be said?
I also get turned off by the "I look good in a jeans or a little black dress'. Maybe, but it doesn't really tell me anything about you, except that you own both.
For me, excessive mention of religion is a turn off. Not that I mind if the woman is somewhat religious, but I am not, although not bothered about it in a partner.
 
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bluskies4ever is offline bluskies4ever Post #252  September 11,2009, 2:36am
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Bouffy wrote :
I used to be bothered by no photos; But then I noticed the option to only share my photo with others who share theirs. Problem solved!

I generally don't like doing the whole matching thing in general. I like writing more so I'll generally just go straight to a fast rack if possible.

I don't like unclean profiles. Vulgarity and broken sentences are sad.
You go straight to a "fast rack"?

But you said you didn't appreciate vulgarity.
 
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tillygirl is offline tillygirl Post #253  September 11,2009, 11:08am
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With regard to men mentioning sex. How foolish can you be? As the other post said intelligent women KNOW you want sex so you don't have to tell us. We are all clearly aware how important it is to men. Be a gentlemen and don't beg or advertise for it. If you want a hook up, go to another site or better yet, hang out where drinking is taking place.

And next time you're at it, why don't you let the women come on to you. Good looking women or those with exceptional bodies are pursued by men all the time. Don't be one more. I find it very attractive if the man appears like he could care less about sex and/or isn't looking me up and down. A glance is fine, normal and expected. If I'm attracted to someone I have no problem pursuing that, talking about it or letting the guy know. Set yourself apart from the rest. Speak well, (don't cuss or use slang), be respectful, let the woman be attracted to you. You'll be surprised what you get!
 
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LillyLou is offline LillyLou Post #254  September 11,2009, 1:16pm
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I have to admit that mine was one of the ones that went incomplete with no picture the first night I joined. I had no idea that the entire process would take as long as it did. While I knew about the upfront questionnaire I was not fully prepared to fill out my profile. Once I read the questions, I wanted to give some thought to my answers and not just type anything just to get it finished. I completed it the very next morning, but I already had one match that closed me.

I actually thought it was his loss, we seemed to have a lot in common. But you can't assume that the first time someone joins that they truly understand what they are getting into before hand. I have never joined a dating site before. I don't recall an option once the profile questions were offered if I was ready or not to post.
 
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I really love all that you wrote about negativity in someone, and that you said about not having photos. You certainly have brought some balance to the issues. Thank you!!
Hansky wrote :
Any form of "Don't write me if..." Obviously, we all have our preferences (hence, this thread), but people who are so negative they have to make demands in their profile are not for me. I don't want to find out how negative and demanding they are in real life.

Photos - Obviously, I want to see them, and as others have stated, ones that actually show the person. If there is not one in the beginning and the person looks interesting, I give it a few days. No harm to me. I find the attitude of closing immediately for that as a very negative quality in a person. If a friend says they want to introduce me to someone, I don't say "NO, not now or ever. I don't know what she looks like now, so I never want to know." That is more for a friend who does that, and his personality exhibits that negative attitude all the way around. You are on here to meet a lifetime husband or wife, but you have that attitude? Says a lot.

No need to detail the rest -- one sentence responses; partial sentences; text format (I rarely get that).
 
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MOA is offline MOA Post #256  September 13,2009, 9:49pm
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My pet peeves with a profile is when a match does not complete their profile and makes lots of spelling errors.

I also don't like it when what has been filled out is just "empty text" and does not say anything about the match. Like when 3 of the 5 things I can't live without are water, air, food. Somehow, I just can't bring myself to click the start communicating button with an answer like that.

I took the time to put up a recent photo of myself, why can't you? Are you married and looking to cheat on your spouse? It makes a person wonder. I like Bouffy's solution to this one though.

And the match I received recently that got the "close match" response from me: Typically spends leisure time: walking, gardening, sex

Maybe that is why the match is single?
 
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MOA is offline MOA Post #257  September 13,2009, 10:27pm
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I like your solution to this one. With regards to no photo.
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texastee wrote :
"I want a woman who can go from ball gown to ball cap."

What does that mean?
This simply means they want someone who isn't afraid to get dirty and have some fun but can also clean up nicely to go to nice events such as romantic dinners or anything else formal of the like.
 
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captnc46 is offline captnc46 Post #259  September 19,2009, 9:53pm
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First off, I would like to say I agree with many of you in here about your pet peeves. Me2You and Anniedaynow, you both had many good points.
Here is one pet peeve that I have that I have seen in two recent matches (both of which I closed immediately). Look, it's all well and fine if you have an ex-husband that you still get along with or at least don't actually hate, BUT, to put them down as the most influential person in your life and then go on and list four sentences of reasons as to why and then actually list that ex as one of the five things you can't live without then I have to wonder, WHY ARE YOU DIVORCED? Ive just received a new match and she states her ex husband of 18 years is her best friend and the most influential person in her life, did someone slip crazy pills into my orange juice? Isn't being best friends one important key to a good marriage? Why would they divorce? If he had cheated on her why in the world would she still consider him a best friend? If you're married and you're best friends and get along so well and had been married for years then why oh why would you divorce. Cheat on me, give me a reason for a divorce but don't tell me you still love me and I'm still your best friend but you want a divorce any way. Maybe that's how the modern new age people of today do things, I guess I'm just old fashioned. I've played that game of dating someone who I found out was still sleeping with her ex behind my back, never again. Now when I meet someone who is still that close to her ex, I run.
One other thing. If you are a widow I know that has to be brutal to go through but maybe it shouldn't be listed in your profile. I think that should come later. Starting a relationship is hard enough without feeling like you are going to be competing with a ghost. At least let everyone get comfortable with each other and then have the conversation about ex's. And for heavens sake (this is for men and women) don't compare the one your dating to ANY of your ex's, deceased or not, at least not out loud.
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For me it would be:

1. No photo (because I either think you're married and don't want to get caught or not confident enough to put it out there).
2. Not completely filling out profile (hey, I did it!)
3. Guys who describe themselves as "hunk", "hottie", etc. (I run into it all the time)
4. Really weird usernames (ie. Fast Fingered Freddie, Hot Wheelin' Howie). These have actually come up for me on match.com with slight variations.
5. Bad spelling, especially when it's obvious.
 
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