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texastee wrote :
"I want a woman who can go from ball gown to ball cap."

What does that mean?
It means that they want to meet a person who can be comfortable in, and enjoys a variety of situations. My late wife and I would attend the ballet one weekend, and pitch a tent in a National Park the next. I have the picures to prove it :-)
- September 5th, 2009, 03:04 pm
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I don't know if anyone else has come across this, but it has happened to me twice. As a response to the 'latest book' question I had two recent matches who would say the title and author of the book, and rather then say what it was about or what they liked about it they merely said ''if you want to know what it is about look it up''.

Seriously?! How hard is it to briefly describe a book's plot and what you liked? Seems to me that the book question can tell you a bit more about the person.

I closed both matches.
- September 5th, 2009, 03:08 pm
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Michiganer wrote :
As a male, this has been a point of curiosity for me. Our species, and indeed, most species, cannot survive without sex, but an individual human has no physiological or emotional need for sex that rises to the level of being required for sustaining life. I have never seen such a need in a female profile, so the only thing I could take from it being in a male's profile is probably like Stinkerbell said--you're engaging in it just to get off and that IS gross. It probably also severely limits his responses from compatible females.
Really, you can't take the "Things I can't live without" literally :-) There are only three things we can't live without: water, food, and shelter. The things that people list are those they feel they need for their happiness. It may not be politically correct, but to be honest, I believe that every healthy adult needs physical intimacy to be fully happy. For most of us, that means some form of sex. Whether or not that is listed in your top 5 depends on many factors, including your age, health, and how forthcoming you are.
- September 5th, 2009, 03:14 pm
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MileHighArtist wrote :
I would agree with the other posters here, plus it's a pet peeve of mine when people put Water in their list of things that can't live without. Seriously?!
One of the 5 items I put in there was "My Liver". Now here's why... it's a component of how I view the world - humorously. That sort of thing may not be funny towards you... but I'm looking for somebody that would think the entry of "My Liver" is hysterically funny. If they don't appreciate something like that, then it's not a great match.

However, I do respect your opinion - it's part of your criteria, which is definitely valid.
- September 5th, 2009, 03:15 pm
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rereschatz wrote :
Spending romantic evenings alone cuddling on the couch or long walks on the beach. That may be a great date but these things tell me he's lonely or horny. CLOSE.
An automatic close? Wouldn't you expect a single person, living alone, to be somewhat lonely, and a bit horny as well? Besides, don't you like cuddling or walking on the beach? Sure, it sounds clichéd, but most clichés have some basis in reality. So why not cut these guys some slack? They may not be able to formulate a better expression of their emotional state, but (after all) they are guys, aren't they?
- September 5th, 2009, 03:28 pm
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OK, here's my pet peeve about profiles:

One of the most common peeves cited here is a sparse profile. I have seen some with as few as 5-7 questions answered, and those answeres were brief.

That's not my peeve, though. My peeve is that e-Harmony doesn't include a closing reason that indicates that a profile does not contain enough information for someone to make a decision. The people with these truncated profiles need to know that they have created a problem for themselves, and eH doesn't give us a way to communicate this!

eHarmony, are you listening?
- September 5th, 2009, 04:21 pm
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GypsyWillow wrote :
Upon first look at a profile, if it is not completely filled out that is a no. If they have answered questions with "You will have to find out", or "Only my friends know", I find it unacceptable. I also don't care for a profile with out a photo.
I have tried to get my photo to post, and it won't. Perhaps others have had this problem also, so be patient.
- September 5th, 2009, 05:09 pm
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genuineBob wrote :
OK, here's my pet peeve about profiles:

One of the most common peeves cited here is a sparse profile. I have seen some with as few as 5-7 questions answered, and those answeres were brief.

That's not my peeve, though. My peeve is that e-Harmony doesn't include a closing reason that indicates that a profile does not contain enough information for someone to make a decision. The people with these truncated profiles need to know that they have created a problem for themselves, and eH doesn't give us a way to communicate this!

eHarmony, are you listening?
+1000

Totally agree, and I have often been frustrated with the same thing.
- September 5th, 2009, 06:33 pm
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stinkerbell wrote :
Men who say that sex is one thing they can't live without. Huh? If you're on e-harmony you're presumably single and looking for a committed relationship. If you can't live without sex, then somehow you're engaging in it just to get off, and that's gross.
Michiganer wrote :
As a male, this has been a point of curiosity for me. Our species, and indeed, most species, cannot survive without sex, but an individual human has no physiological or emotional need for sex that rises to the level of being required for sustaining life. I have never seen such a need in a female profile, so the only thing I could take from it being in a male's profile is probably like Stinkerbell said--you're engaging in it just to get off and that IS gross. It probably also severely limits his responses from compatible females.
Dunno, but that wouldn't bother me. People have different needs and appetites, whether for food, activity, conversation, or sex. No big deal, and anyway I doubt anyone literally means "must have" in the same way as food, water, air, etc.

Actually what concerns me more are the sort of folks who seem a mite touchy at any mention of the word "sex", as though it might be somehow vaguely uncomfortable or repulsive for them (i.e. "gross")!
- September 6th, 2009, 12:10 am
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Men who say that sex is one thing they can't live without. Huh? If you're on e-harmony you're presumably single and looking for a committed relationship. If you can't live without sex, then somehow you're engaging in it just to get off, and that's gross.


Dunno, but that wouldn't bother me. People have different needs and appetites, whether for food, activity, conversation, or sex. No big deal, and anyway I doubt anyone literally means "must have" in the same way as food, water, air, etc.

Actually what concerns me more are the sort of folks who seem a mite touchy at any mention of the word "sex", as though it might be somehow vaguely uncomfortable or repulsive for them (i.e. "gross")!
I agree that there are folks who are touchy at the mere mention of the word "sex". I'm only touchy about it (as I'm sure most women are) when a man is obviously obsessed with it. I recently had a match ask me in his first written set of questions how often I like to have sex. Ugh. I closed that match immediately. Being asked something that personal by a virtual stranger is creepy, creepy, CREEPY.

MEN LISTEN UP: A woman who is intelligent and worth your time knows that you want to have sex. She is more than happy to give you as much of as you want only AFTER some time has gone by and she's gotten to know you.

Michiganer is right when he says that men who lead with that foot limit their chances with most women.
- September 6th, 2009, 10:27 am
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