Lisamree is offline Lisamree Post #191  September 4,2009, 7:08pm
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Why not answer all the questions gentlemen? (Not being sexist, but I'm only matched with men so it's all I see.) You are trying to make a positive impression on your match. By leaving out information she needs to know to take that next step, you come across as less-than-confident, reflective, or literate enough to express your best qualities.

Is that truly the impression you want to leave me with? Ask a trusted friend to look over the profile with you if you're unsure. But fill it out completely, please. Otherwise, I won't have it open for long.

"Other" for the reason you're closing the match. Really? Other? I don't even know why they have that choice.
 
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iNegotiate is offline iNegotiate Post #192  September 4,2009, 7:31pm
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Lack of photo is a pet peeve. The excuse that one is not photogenic is no excuse at all - most of us look like real people.

Another pet peeve are lurkers - they look at your profile every day, but fail to start communications. I'm wondering if they forgot that they had already checked out my profile, or just comparing me with the matches of the day?

The biggest pet peeve are photos of their motorcycle / sportscar / boat. Reminds me of the song "That Don't Impress Me Much" - so, you got a car...
 
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iNegotiate is offline iNegotiate Post #193  September 4,2009, 7:32pm
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oops double post
Last edited by iNegotiate; September 4,2009 at 7:33pm. Reason: double post...
 
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IndyLady is offline IndyLady Post #194  September 4,2009, 7:45pm
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My pet peeve is multiple references to being physically fit, working out, etc. My interpretation of that is YOU had better be physically fit, which I am not. I'm not unhealthy and after a day of standing on my feet/walking at work who wants to come home to "work out"?
 
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alng is offline alng Post #195  September 4,2009, 8:16pm
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CLASSIC CURTIS:
I thought I was sharing my opinions on a forum dedicated to doing just that. There was absolutely no need to welcome me to the 21st century. That was condescending at best and downright rude at worst.

You don't have to agree with ,me regarding my opinions, (operative word being MY) so I'll have to say no thank you to your unsolicited advice regarding trying Match.com.
Reprinting the fact that eharmony matches based on '29 dimensions of personality' are again something that I really don't need reiterated to me. I do think I have the ability to read and understand all these things for myself, and in turn do what pleases me.
As for using signs to pick a mate (paraphrasing) well I can use the sun, moon, stars, the entire constellation and a message from to cat to pick a mate if I like. It's called my perogative.

Apparently the fact that different people have different personalities is lost on you? Well we all do, so whether or not it seems like its 'too many factors for me' is really moot isn't it?
Try to be more appreciative of the differences in people next time or try really hard not to comment if you are going to be rude, or better yet, stick to responding to the original post and spare this poster your verbiage.

MILMAN:
You should probably should not highlight 'Every responder' and then conclude with 90%.
Since you insist on speaking for 90% of the people, I will have to conclude that I fall in the 10% category, so I think I'll answer my questions the way I like.

Of course I'd prefer if my post were read with better understanding.
How is giving a curtailed version of my profile to be sure that I include the things I deem important fall in the category (not that it matters anyway) of editing and reediting and not being oneself?
You don't know me, do you?
Then you should not care if I edited and reedited, anyway, because you have no idea who I am, and if I am deviating from who I say I am. Sigh!

So you don't read essays...you probably should, haha, but if monosyllables are your thing then so be it; and yes, I am writing my essays for the remaining 10% , and I'll continue to write them much to your chagrin...apparently
 
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melman is offline melman Post #196  September 4,2009, 8:36pm
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This thread is almost at 20 pages so I'm not really sure what you're whining about. (And make no mistake - you are whining and looking to pick a fight, instead of contributing to the discussion. So please knock it off or the mods will take care of it.)

I'll take a guess that you misunderstood what I wrote about the ever-annoying "You'll have to become my friend first" answer to "name something that only your friends know.

1. 90% of the matches I've been given, give this answer.
2. Everyone here that has voiced an opinion about this, hates it. It's unoriginal. It's lazy - the question is an opportunity to say something distinctive or humorous about yourself. There is no reason not to give a real answer.
 
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alng is offline alng Post #197  September 4,2009, 9:17pm
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Milman:
It seems as if you talk so much you can't even remember what you wrote.
This forum is about responding to what the poster said regarding people's profiles- not attacking posters like you did.
If you seem hell bent on whining to moderators involved about your post and my response then so be it. Perhaps that will teach you to be careful about what you say in the future.
In my post I did not attack anyone; i was merely sharing my opinion as were a lot of other posters. If you choose to spend your time ripping the posts apart, the least you could do is keep track of it so you can refer to it when someone decides to comment on it.

Perhaps with your 164 or so posts, you feel that you are a veteran (considering you know about moderators and all) but it does not give you the right to pick on any of the posters.
As in real life, if you choose to attack someone with your brand of rude, you should be well prepared for the repercussions of it.

The moderators can feel free to read my post, and yours and then decide you is attacking whom.
Again, if you can't handle someone 'whining' then try to stick to the topic at hand because some of us will respond.
I certainly hope this brings an end to your fuming. Try finding something constructive to do.
 
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ciaojan is offline ciaojan Post #198  September 4,2009, 9:18pm
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Funny thing seeing this....was on a Moon Light Hike tonight at Sweetwater Creek (here in GA) and we were all talking about this on the trail!
Some of the Pet Peeves that were mentioned are:
*Using an outdated photo (or a picture you take yourself on the
computer - this says 'I have no friends').
*Having a photo taken holding a giant fish - why do guys think this
is cool? I mean I like fish, I eat fish, I have even GONE fishing....
but definitely detracts from a profile picture.
*Using the word "Golf, or "Work" MORE than 10 times in a
profile......smacks of an obsession rather than a hobby or an
occupation. (I won't even mention Nascar......)
*And I am with the rest of you that have said it - a well put
together sentence speaks volumes! Everyone makes an
occasional spelling error.....(doesn't it show up red if it is
incorrectly spelled?) How much time does it take to look
something up in a dictionary, or to throw in a capital or a
comma now and then?
*And you are right went you say that an incomplete profile
makes you wonder, and sends up red flags.
*Read a profile today that was SO refreshing....instead of
saying he 'has a good sense of humor', or 'likes to make people
laugh', he actually wrote a few really witty things in his
profile! (Hope he writes back!)
But do the people who write these profiles KNOW they are
Pet Peevers??????????????????????????
 
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Hi everyone,

Can we please try to keep this thread on topic and keep the personal attacks out of the mix? Thanks!

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This is a great thread topic, and I think it has some sincere posts in it that could be really beneficial to everyone!
 
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ming_on_mongo is offline ming_on_mongo Post #200  September 4,2009, 11:10pm
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This kinda reminds of whenever I see profiles that say "I'm non-judgemental" or "I'm looking for someone that's non-judgemental". Heck, whether we go here or there, choose this person or that one, life is a constant series of judgements (and hopefully good ones).
So if it's that much of an issue, makes me think they're either sorta wishy-washy, passive aggressive, or they just don't handle any sort of criticism or conflict very well... not a good sign!
 
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