lajollasands is offline lajollasands Post #181  September 4,2009, 4:35pm
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Perhaps, although it's certainly not clear in their marketing and Dr. Warren has also been quoted in interviews saying they are broadening their original focus, and even re-thinking their opposition to gays.

Regardless, my point is that a profile's mention of "God" or "Christian" often seems to me to indicate an insistence on someone whose Christianity is more of the "fundamentalist" persuasion (rather than simply Protestant or Catholic). And if that's such an important requirement for them, why not just go to one of the many sites that are dedicated to that exclusively?
The answer to that is: because EHarmony is a much better site than the other Christian sites. The indepth evaluation and matching is superior to all others.
 
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tour_guide is offline tour_guide Post #182  September 4,2009, 4:50pm
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What turns me off about a profile are:
- no information about the person - one liners
- bad spelling that not even spell check could correct
- no picture - give me a break, there is no excuse for not posting a current picture
- a non-current picture - who do you think you are fooling
 
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bison is offline bison Post #183  September 4,2009, 4:52pm
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I thnk it's great if people find comfort in religion. But, since being dumped because I was not of a particular Christian religion, I look more closely at profiles that are too passionate about God, Jesus, their Savior, their church. I don't bother with them anymore unless something else attracts me. And, please post a clear picture or two.
 
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No Picture is an automatic turn off for sure.
Beautiful women that have nothing else to offer that want guys that have Huge incomes.
Fat people that call themselves average. Are so many people overweight now that 25+ lbs. overweight average now?
Wow do you have a distorted point of view. Not all beautiful women = want money.


I do agree that we are an overweight nation (the term "Fat People" is just so prejudice), however, 25lbs on one woman or man is going to be carried completely different then 25lbs on another women or man. Personally if I was a man I would not worry about 25lbs over weight or 35lbs or even 40lbs. A tall woman say 5'8" can carry 40lbs distributed evenly on her body that you would never know that she was that much overweight. Now if your talking about a more average sized women say 5'5" tall 40lbs overweight it is going to be a different story.


It seems to me that you have some real issues when it comes to weight and women. What are you going to do have your girlfriend/wife weigh in front of you every morning? Or maybe you would be better off with an anorexic or bulimic woman who is psyched out about her weight as much as you are.

Are you aware that beauty is only skin deep. I don't know how old you are, but if you find the woman of your dreams and her genetics or other issues could cause her to gain weight. What are you going to do leave her. Say you have gained 25 lbs hunny, sorry your not my type anymore.


By the way you know that men are overweight too. In addition, they can have very hairy backs, big beer bellies and can be going bald among other things. But I never see women rip on men about these things like men rip on women about weight.


Are you aware that weight gain can happen to someone for many different reasons, not just being lazy and eating too much?


OK I have vented now, I'm just sick of seeing this issue about women and weight posted all the time.

Anyway this thread is about Profile Pet Peeves, not about how many women you have met on eHarmony that have lied to you about their weight.


I hate it when someone says on their profile that they are looking for someone that can be themselves. Then when OC starts, they can't handle it when you are yourself. = Close

No picture = Close

Profile not complete = Close

Tell you when you become my friend = Close

Men who don't work or are not self-sufficient = Close
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silverfox52 is offline silverfox52 Post #185  September 4,2009, 6:13pm
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The first thing that will make me close a profile is no picture. I have learned that asking for a picture gets no response. I don't mean to sound shallow, but looks are a definite part of chemistry.

Like several others have said, expounding on how important religion is to you is another turn off for me. I'm not knocking religion, but surely there is more to you than just religion.
 
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walks702 is offline walks702 Post #186  September 4,2009, 6:13pm
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Sounds overall generic+no picture is automatic. I use one standard to decide whether to engage and that is would I be excited to hear back from this person, or even just curious? That's a pretty vicious combination that doesn't leave much
Some turnoffs are love to live life to the fullest. My eyes start to glaze over from line one, which is where they usually put it, and it makes it hard to even read the rest. People who are really doing that are too busy with specific interests to even think about living life to the fullest, per se. Also stiff or preachy phrasing, "be it (this or) that". If it sounds like it's from any kind of pulpit, I'm throwing it back!
Self-admitted gift of gabbers are almost automatic. I usually try to quickly identify verbal compulsives and click on.
My 2 cents...
 
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AKarova is offline AKarova Post #187  September 4,2009, 6:34pm
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I don’t just want to close matches immediately, I do it!
To those who write in all caps, those who have their profile confused for a text and those with poor grammar. I’m not talking about a few misspelled words; I mean the ones who don’t know the difference between then and than. There was one I deleted who misspelled the name of her town.
I read a book in my early teens on hand writing analysis. According to it and others writing your name small is a sign of low self esteem. It seems to me that it would translate to the profile as those who don’t capitalize their own name.
I know that all caps, poor grammar, and no caps could just be due to laziness but I don’t want that either! That is why I delete those who have nothing to say as well, it doesn’t matter if it is laziness or lack of personality.
While we are on personality; my absolute BIGGEST complaint about profiles is the fact that EHarm expects me to squeeze not only who I am looking for but my multimillion character personality into text boxes that are limited to 640 characters!!!! I was trying to update my profile just now when I stumbled upon that gem. It is the reason that after this weekend I’m eHarm.
I know some of you are complaining about not getting to see a pic right away; with me you have to earn it!
 
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I close matches quickly (1) no picture; I agree; the person took the time to fill out the profile--a snap shot is so easy now. (2) sounding too religious; I want to know more about them (personally)--not just their spirituality. (3) a lack of originality--pat answers. (4) they had time to fill out the profile--unable to return request for answers in a timely fashion--even after a nudge
 
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lanacannon is offline lanacannon Post #189  September 4,2009, 6:44pm
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Spelling mistakes, poor grammar and ALL CAPS are almost instant deletes in my book.

I actually rather like the "only my best friends know" response. I know some find it to be a smartie-pants answer, but it's a pretty lame question to begin with. :-)
 
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doddz wrote :
Funniest thing I ever saw in a singles profile/ad was in a local "Christian Singles" paper (not EH). Woman claimed to be a wonderful loving and tolerant person, ...No porkers please!"
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On another dating site, I saw a profile that a woman had posted talking about how she was tired of guys who were just interested in sex, ect. She had two pics up, one of which was of her butt in a tight pair of jeans. Gee, I wonder why she keeps finding guys just interested in sex...
 
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