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whatalife1683 wrote :
...I hate how EH has it set up about closing someone. I want to know the real reason I was closed. If I am not attractive, I can live with that response. If my profile was lacking something, I would like to know what could it have used...
No kidding! I hate having to press "other" or "based on statements...". I would be better to have the option of a small text field, even if it were only 30 characters. And I want to know what the "other" is, too! I presume the option about "chemistry" means that they just didn't find me physically appealing (don't like goatees, curly hair, glasses, whatever - it doesn't matter, as that's all personal taste. And I don't think that kind of attraction is really that much of a choice).
- September 4th, 2009, 03:09 pm
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gDate wrote :
Another thing - motorcycles. Please! Grow up! Click.
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Grow up? Having a bike doesn't automatically mean immaturity any more than owning a $150,000 car does. It's sad if that's all you've seen in motorcyclists. It's just a mode of transportation. It's more environmentally friendly than anything on 4 wheels, and lot more convenient in many ways. If I lived in a place where the weather made a bike more practical (it snows up to 6 months of the year here), I'd use that instead of a car as my primary transportation. No, I don't own a bike. But I see the practicality in one. And NOT a sport bike (for a variety of reasons).
Actually, I think of the "I hate motorcycles" issue as a good excuse for the fussy, inhibited, or over-controlling types to self-select themselves out ("ewww... my hair, my nails!"). It's not a problem, it's a feature!
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ming_on_mongo wrote :
And the inverse of that is when it's obvious they're not talking about spirituality (Buddhist, Muslim, etc.) or even christianity (Protestant or whatever), but they're using "God" or "Christian" as code for evangelical or fundamentalist ("My Way or the highway"!).

BTW, don't they already have dating sites exclusively for those folks?
Dear one, I shall try to be charitable, as that is what is expected of me as a faithful Christian.

Simply because there are Christian and Catholic Dating sites does not mean they are as good as eHarmony. I have gone on them, to check them out and have been utterly dissatisfied. Also, eHarmony was begun by an ordained Christian Minister/Pastor. I honestly do not think it is possible for a person to completely hide their beliefs when working/starting and running a company. Well, I guess it is possible for a spy or terrorist but then, usually, even a normally educated person can see through that person's lies.

I hope you or anyone else does not feel attacked by my responses, for this is not my intent whatsoever.
- September 4th, 2009, 03:26 pm
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Another thing - motorcycles. Please! Grow up! Click.


Actually, I think of the "I hate motorcycles" issue as a good excuse for the over-inhibited, and over-controlled types to self-select themselves out. It's not a problem, it's a feature!
LOL! I never thought of it that way.... Maybe I should pull up an old pick from when I did have a bike, even if it is 10 years old!
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And being worried about being fit doesn't mean not having time for another person. It is a lifestyle choice - and you obviously choose not to live an active lifestyle. No judgement calls there, just the fact of choices.
- September 4th, 2009, 01:13 pm

To Jon Canuck,, I am very active thank you,, and as for stacked I simply meant someone with a "coke bottle figure and not the 2 litre" LOL. You seem very tense. No judgement call there either. But in all honesty, that's mostly what I see in a lot of the profiles and I have nothing at all against any guy who is fit or woman either for that matter. But it is a turn off when that is all you ever see, it feels like no one is imperfect or truly being themselves. And that is merely my view.
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Nylit wrote :
And being worried about being fit doesn't mean not having time for another person. It is a lifestyle choice - and you obviously choose not to live an active lifestyle. No judgement calls there, just the fact of choices.
- September 4th, 2009, 01:13 pm



To Jon Canuck,, I am very active thank you,, and as for stacked I simply meant someone with a "coke bottle figure and not the 2 litre" LOL. You seem very tense. No judgement call there either. But in all honesty, that's mostly what I see in a lot of the profiles and I have nothing at all against any guy who is fit or woman either for that matter. But it is a turn off when that is all you ever see, it feels like no one is imperfect or truly being themselves. And that is merely my view.
Tense?! LOL.. I wouldn't have never thought that! I constantly (almost daily) have people, friends and people I deal with in business, say they wish they could be as relaxed, open, and optimistic in life as I am.

As for the "active lifestyle" - I have friends (and have met women) who claim to be very active, but really aren't all that fit as they seem to think they are. For me a perfect match is someone who enjoy a week adventuring with me on vacation doing some pretty tough (but fun!) physical things. If she isn't able to keep up even one day on the ski slopes (because she gets tired, not skiing skill - that's not nearly as important) or can't do a decent one day scramble (that's mountain climbing), then she isn't physically fit.
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Well, you got me there, Jon,,I am nowhere near a mountain or I might give it a try. Heck, we don't have any hills here either. If you see a hill,, someone's buried in it. LOL! Good luck in your search and adventures.
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I don't claim to be expert with the language, and I might be considered guilty of run-on sentences. There are related things, however, that make me inclined to close a match.

1. Not writing enough in the "about me" section. Not completing it.
2. Lousy spelling, grammar, or punctuation.
3. Hypocrisy. You left out a word in your post.
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Dear one, I shall try to be charitable, as that is what is expected of me as a faithful Christian.

Simply because there are Christian and Catholic Dating sites does not mean they are as good as eHarmony. I have gone on them, to check them out and have been utterly dissatisfied. Also, eHarmony was begun by an ordained Christian Minister/Pastor. I honestly do not think it is possible for a person to completely hide their beliefs when working/starting and running a company. Well, I guess it is possible for a spy or terrorist but then, usually, even a normally educated person can see through that person's lies.

I hope you or anyone else does not feel attacked by my responses, for this is not my intent whatsoever.
No offense taken, and understood re: the difference in quality between sites. But alot of what some evangelical folks may take for granted among themselves, may also need to be moderated on a much more mixed site like eHarmony (albeit founded by "an ordained Christian Minister/Pastor").

Just as you'd like your sensitivities respected, note that some of us may instead regard matters of religion as a very personal & private affair. So that the subtle (and not so subtle) proselytizing of evangelicals (or just "wearing their religion on their sleeve") can sometimes feel uncomfortable (if not rude). But that's obviously less of an issue when amongst "your own" in a specifically "christian" site.
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Quoting from: This is in response to Ming_on_Mongo's reply: "Those folks?" By the way, EHarmony is known to be a Christian site. It was started to help people meet other Christians. Grant you they will not reject others, I think, but just a reminder that it was started for that purpose.




Thank you. You may want to see my reply to the same posting as the one to which you are referring.
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