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This is in response to Ming_on_Mongo's reply: "Those folks?" By the way, EHarmony is known to be a Christian site. It was started to help people meet other Christians. Grant you they will not reject others, I think, but just a reminder that it was started for that purpose.
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GypsyWillow wrote :
What does that mean? OK you like baseball games so she should like sporting events, but the ball gown. In todays world what kind of event are you going to take your date to where she would be able to wear a ball gown. Just curious.

Well if you live a metropolitan city, there are plenty of dress up events/fund raisers. That's what I love about living in San Francisco, we can watch the Giants or the 49ers, but then we can also get dressed up and go to a function.
 
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If you're going to invest the money in a dating site ,why would'nt you complete the questions?It's as if they are bored or in a big hurry to finish the thing.No pic bugs me and women who say looks don;t matter,I would have dates every night!
 
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texastee wrote :
"I want a woman who can go from ball gown to ball cap."

What does that mean?
I know what it means. My problem with the statement is that is overused. I''ve seen variations of that statemet more times than I care to count.
 
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charlie990 is offline charlie990 Post #115  September 4,2009, 8:32am
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texastee wrote :
"I want a woman who can go from ball gown to ball cap."

What does that mean?

It means versatility... and a willingness and flexibility to accept differences... (ball gown = very formal dress code ... Ball cap = informal and very American..)
 
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Turn off= scary pics.....
 
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ming_on_mongo is offline ming_on_mongo Post #117  September 4,2009, 8:39am
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lajollasands wrote :
This is in response to Ming_on_Mongo's reply: "Those folks?" By the way, EHarmony is known to be a Christian site. It was started to help people meet other Christians. Grant you they will not reject others, I think, but just a reminder that it was started for that purpose.
Perhaps, although it's certainly not clear in their marketing and Dr. Warren has also been quoted in interviews saying they are broadening their original focus, and even re-thinking their opposition to gays.

Regardless, my point is that a profile's mention of "God" or "Christian" often seems to me to indicate an insistence on someone whose Christianity is more of the "fundamentalist" persuasion (rather than simply Protestant or Catholic). And if that's such an important requirement for them, why not just go to one of the many sites that are dedicated to that exclusively?
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One of the first things that will cause me to close a match almost immediately is the "lack of photo" or a severely inadequate one. (I just love the ones that are taken at 50 yards away so you cant even make out their face! lol) It is actually very annoying to me. The next thing is a generically filled out profile or one that is very incomplete. For every five matches I get, probably four out of those are incomplete, generic, and/or lacking a picture.

My thought is this, I took alot of time to properly fill out my own profile. I thought long and hard about how to best represent myself. I dont believe it is too much to ask for the same in return.....I mean, is it??
 
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sheerpictures wrote :
When you're skimming a person's written info, what do you see that makes you want to close a match instantly?

As someone who has closed many matches and who has been closed by many matches, I am curious to see why others choose to cross people off their list of potentials.

After all, although there are a few basic "Do's" and "Don't's" involved in filling out your Introductory Information, profile evaluation is very subjective. I don't think there is a universal Ideal Profile. Different people are attracted and repelled by different qualities.

There are two things that make me close a match almost instantly.

1. Poor or sloppy writing. As an English teacher and a lover of literature, I can't help but recoil when there are glaring spelling mistakes or clunky sentences.

2. Even more stomach-churning than grammar mess-ups is banality. When people answer questions with meaningless declarations like "I am passionate about living life to the fullest!" or hybrids of various cliches such as "Life is full of its ups and downs so I always pick myself up and start again and have great hopes for the future" or bemusing run-on sentences in the manner of, "I am hoping to better myself every day and gain new experiences and knowledge that will help me better able to support my family, friends, and future partner and become more successful at my job," I start popping Pepto-Bismol.

Men who sound like fortune cookies or inspirational Christian bookmarks = not sexy.

Men who sound creative & quirky = sexy.

What about you? Why close a match? What does he or she write, or how does he or she write, that turns you off?
people are incredibly different and seek those who have commonalities .. so poor grammer is a turn off for the educated ... I tend to avoid those who strongly indicate "Christian" beliefs as in my experience, it indicates an inability to think critically,meaning poor judgement... it really comes down to :- what type of personality do you seek ? many make the mistake of trying to find a partner who thinks as they do and shares the self same values.. its far more interesting to have an equal and opposite in my view.. On the journey of life, challenges allow us to grow..
 
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I will quote Vince Vaughn in Swingers, "Certain people don't like me I don't like certain people." As brash as that sounds, I think it is accurate. You can't please everybody and don't take it personal. However, when texting or emailing alot gets lost in translation. I would recommend not being brief. Being short gives the impression you are not interested. And try to express yourself the way you normally would without the hand gestures and body language. Articulation gives the inpression you are interested
 
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