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I often see profiles that literally repeat their entries from "What are you most passionate about?" This seems to be a waste of space. Perhaps the other profile segment needs change, unless leisure time is your ONLY passion.

I try to fit in as much material as possible, talking about numerous activities. Listing them in some rough order of preference can also help. Making sure that a variety of things are listed helps to show diversity, and perhaps flexibility.

I agree with the repeation being a problem or annoyance. I don't think people really answer the question about their passion accuratly. It asks for the one thing they are most passionate about and I often see people list the things they enjoy, as you said, which belongs in the leisure time segment.

As for me, I have a problem with the leisure time question because the things I did in my leisure time up north in Jersey are not the things I can do in Florida. So now that I moved it's hard to answer, because what I want to be doing is not always what I'm actually doing in my leisure time. For example, I love to hike mountains and did all the time when living in Jersey, but there really aren't any mountians or even hills in SW Florida. Any ideas how to bridge the gap...
- September 12th, 2009, 08:07 pm
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It's interesting that you are working on this step...er...question, because I've been thinking about it lately. I am a female so I read the male responses. If I were to believe what I read, it would seem that all men cycle, surf, golf, boat, dive, etc, and that they seek a woman as active themselves. In my own life, I don't know many guys who are quite that active. I know a great number who watch sports on TV or used to play sports in high school. I swing dance twice a week, hit the gym three times a week, and walk about 6 miles a week, yet I'm completely intimidated (hence turned off) by the uber-jock pose. I don't believe these guys unless their picture shows a set of abs you could iron a shirt on. Equally phoney is the "walk on the beach at sunset" speech. It's so unoriginal. Plus, I live at the beach and I don't see a lot of middle aged guys strolling at sunset. I would so prefer to read about genuine interests. I would so prefer to read something from the heart about something they love.
- September 18th, 2009, 07:41 am
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I think this needs to be answered in the context of the other answers in your profile. It should compliment your passions and other answers, it's what you do when (if) you have time between all of your other obligations. In my case, this is what I do when I am not being "Dad". FYI, I definitely look at this response carefully to see if there are compatible (or seriously incompatible) activities.

Anyway, here is my response:

I enjoy dinner, drinks and good conversation with friends; playing golf (when I can find the time), skiing and sporting events (live or on TV). I also enjoy watching movies, Daily Show/Colbert Report, Chuck, House, Fringe and reading...
- September 18th, 2009, 11:33 am
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My answer for this question (open to comments, suggestions) - Walking or playing with my dog Lucky, watching movies, playing volleyball, traveling, enjoying my home.

w_elissa: I don't know how much space there is for this question, but I think you can distinguish your pastimes (will hike any mountain - within reason, loved that about NJ, but now I enjoy ... in my new home of FL)
- September 18th, 2009, 03:35 pm
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I put what I felt was right in there, and pretty much what is done during my free time if it's "just me." This from a guy.

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Painting my figurines or playing games of some sort. Those of the online nature are a good deal of fun! I like to be interactive. Though watching a great TV series is always good. Stand up comedy too is awesome! Bill Baily is my kind of humor. Mrrrr.
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Though I agree with what other people said about Passions, but I guess I tend to break that rule as well now that I look at it. I said I am absolutely passionate about creating games and painting these models I work with.... to play games with. It's something I spend a lot of time on, learning new techniques to apply the paint to get the right affects I desire and also learning some color theory in the process...

Is that considered a passion? I think it is. Or should I just say I have a passion to be creative and leave it as short as that. *Shrugs.*
- September 18th, 2009, 05:10 pm
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Don't rattle off a long list of things that you haven't done in years. I see a lot of profiles that appear to list everything done since birth.

As I have written in other profile-related questions, I like profiles that give me a clear picture of the person. List a couple of favorite activities... things that are almost "passions" but didn't make it into question #1 (what you are passionate about). For that matter, don't be afraid to re-mention stuff from #1 - some people have hobbies that are their passion AND take up a lot of their leisure time.

Use active words that let your match imagine what it would be like to be around you. And as with #1, try to think of things that make you unique and stand out from the crowd of boring matches that everyone gets. Don't talk about spending time online, and watching TV. We all do it, so there's no real value there.

And don't go into tremendous detail - give your match the opportunity to discover more for himself/herself.
- September 18th, 2009, 06:52 pm
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leeannrichards wrote :
Equally phoney is the "walk on the beach at sunset" speech. It's so unoriginal. Plus, I live at the beach and I don't see a lot of middle aged guys strolling at sunset.
I have to disagree. I DO take beach walks at sunset, because I really enjoy them. You can call me unoriginal or generic, but it's the truth.

I particularly enjoy staying around for the Sea World fireworks (9:50pm summer, 8:50pm otherwise), if I have the time. That's been a real hit for some long-distance phone-dates.
- September 19th, 2009, 07:34 pm
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GregoryK wrote :
This from a guy.

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Painting my action figures or playing games of some sort.

Fixed it for you.
- September 19th, 2009, 07:50 pm
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illustrator wrote :
Fixed it for you.
I'm trying to decide if this is where I get really "geeky" about this or not and define what an action figure is as compared to a figurine/model =) But we boys love our toys! And I'll not be shy!
- September 20th, 2009, 09:57 am
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Don't rattle off a long list of things that you haven't done in years. I see a lot of profiles that appear to list everything done since birth.
Agreed. Just because you went parasailing or hang gliding or scuba diving or whatever on a vacation 10 years ago and you've never done it since doesn't mean you should list it here. I'm sure you enjoyed it, but it isn't something you typically do.

The question is what you typically do, not what would you like to be doing. Give me an idea of who you are, not who you want to be.
- September 20th, 2009, 12:45 pm
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