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GypsyWillow is offline GypsyWillow Post #21  August 18,2009, 4:07pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If you are a paying member you should never send an IceBreaker. Send First Questions. The reason to never send an IceBreaker is because this is an indication that you are a non-paying member. An IceBreaker is the only form of communication that a non-paying can do.
I hear what you are saying but unfortunately an Icebreaker is the only way to communicate without you being the one to start or open full blown open communication. I don't want to be the one that always starts the communication. I would like the man to start the communication with me once in a while. With an Icebreaker, it's a way of letting him know you have viewed his profile and he interests you and that you are open to his communications. In other words you wont close on him. It's too bad it is assumed by this that you are not a member.
 
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I usually send an ice breaker. If she replies with another ice breaker I'll inititate communication. Some even reply with a communication request right off the bat, I don't mind that at all.

My problem is that most of these matches just stop communicating altogether, very very few make it to open communication. Either their subscription expired or they saw I'm not afraid to take initiative and now aren't sure they want me going after them. And if that's the case I much rather they close me than leave me hanging for weeks (months?).
 
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I am a woman and I never initiated any communication with my matches. But I replied to almost all that contacted me.
 
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tom1385 is offline tom1385 Post #24  August 18,2009, 11:39pm
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I reply to everyone I see that I find physically attractive.

I close every match without a picture (after asking for a photo) or any that I don't find attractive.

Not to be shallow or anything, but going through life with a person and not finding them attractive is just a recipe for disaster.

Of course, I wouldn't know about the success rate since every communication I've had is basically a non-paying member or fake profile.
 
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tom1385 wrote :
I reply to everyone I see that I find physically attractive.

I close every match without a picture (after asking for a photo) or any that I don't find attractive.

Not to be shallow or anything, but going through life with a person and not finding them attractive is just a recipe for disaster.

Of course, I wouldn't know about the success rate since every communication I've had is basically a non-paying member or fake profile.
Yeah, I do something similar - send questions to any match I'm even slightly interested in. As for the ones with no photos and/or virtually no profile information filled out, I wait a day, in case they're maybe new members. I've had a number of matches who originally had no photo, or only half their profile completed, but then a day or two later, a photo was up, and the profile was finished. After a few days, if still no photo, I close them.
 
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I was quite liberal. Although I'm no longer on EH, when i was on EH, i pretty much spent the morning opening almost every match i got. I do read the profiles, but the profiles become generic after a while and very little stands out.

The only time I waited for a match to initiate, was because I had more than enough Open communications flying around that I could afford to wait and be "picky" about who else to open communications. It became an experiment to see if anyone would actually initiate contact with me.

Out of 1000 matches....only ONE match ever initiated contact. We did end up in OC, but because I was already busy with a lot of other matches and didn't open communication with her, she didn't make it to the finish line because I had decided to be exclusive with another match, she lost out.
 
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I initiated contact with a match and he just actually responded!! I have only before had contact with guys who initiated it. I am letting my subscription end at the end of the month. I have met several really interesting guys, including one I hope to get serious with
But I might as well communicate with as many as possible, until I get a ring on my finger
 
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I initiate contact immediately with each new match that I'm interested in. I agree with one of the previous posts, that I paid for this subscription and I'm going to take advantage of every opportunity. So far, only one has responded to over 40 initial contacts. Who knew online dating was such a numbers game?
 
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