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pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #1  August 12,2009, 11:14am
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I suppose this might invoke some humorous, bittersweet comments, but has anyone been asked to leave eHarmony because they could not find enough matches for you?
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I think the standard response on that is to adjust your settings to open up more possibilities. Fact is online or offline...the more difficult the restrictions...the less of chance of success.

Never had any problem in getting plenty of matches here...it's finding a quality match that is more than a "almost right for you" that is the challenge.
 
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They're more than happy to take your money while not sending you new matches. They stopped sending me matches at least a week before my first (and last) month was up.
 
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
They're more than happy to take your money while not sending you new matches. They stopped sending me matches at least a week before my first (and last) month was up.
Wow, I'd suggest being a little more patient if you think the site might work for you. I've personally been on eH for over 2 years and there are periods where I get tons of matches in rapid fire, and periods where I go, like you said, more than a week without a match. As someone else said, expanding your search criteria may help.

That being said, it took me probably 2 or 3 months before I started getting matches I felt might have potential for me. I've had quite a few dates with "almost rights" but just haven't quite met the exact right one. Give the process time and good luck.
 
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fool4love628 wrote :
Wow, I'd suggest being a little more patient if you think the site might work for you. I've personally been on eH for over 2 years and there are periods where I get tons of matches in rapid fire, and periods where I go, like you said, more than a week without a match. As someone else said, expanding your search criteria may help.

That being said, it took me probably 2 or 3 months before I started getting matches I felt might have potential for me. I've had quite a few dates with "almost rights" but just haven't quite met the exact right one. Give the process time and good luck.
I don't know whether it will work for me or not. I do know that almost every date I've ever had was with someone I met in real life, not online. For some reason, my chances seem to be best when I'm not actively looking.
 
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fool4love628 wrote :
Wow, I'd suggest being a little more patient if you think the site might work for you. I've personally been on eH for over 2 years and there are periods where I get tons of matches in rapid fire, and periods where I go, like you said, more than a week without a match. As someone else said, expanding your search criteria may help.

That being said, it took me probably 2 or 3 months before I started getting matches I felt might have potential for me. I've had quite a few dates with "almost rights" but just haven't quite met the exact right one. Give the process time and good luck.
You do seem to have plenty of patience having been on Eha for 2 years. I've tried them for three months and the quantity and quality of matches are far below that of other sites.
 
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
They're more than happy to take your money while not sending you new matches. They stopped sending me matches at least a week before my first (and last) month was up.

My first thought too.

I've never been asked by eHarmony to leave because they didn't have enough matches. I've usually been the one to complain about not getting enough. The answer I usually got was to adjust my settings.

To fool4love - patience is good advice for some people. It won't work for me though. I've been on eHarmony for about three years now with no success. I've tried other sites and only received losers. Either I can stick with the other sites and continue getting losers or I can continue paying eHarmony loads of money and not have any success. Either way I'm scr*wed.
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nancymargritangelita wrote :
My first thought too.

I've never been asked by eHarmony to leave because they didn't have enough matches. I've usually been the one to complain about not getting enough. The answer I usually got was to adjust my settings.

To fool4love - patience is good advice for some people. It won't work for me though. I've been on eHarmony for about three years now with no success. I've tried other sites and only received losers. Either I can stick with the other sites and continue getting losers or I can continue paying eHarmony loads of money and not have any success. Either way I'm scr*wed.
I wouldn't say that. Some of us make a good impression in real life but none at all on the Internet. I'm not the least bit photogenic myself. Images don't capture my personality, nor probably anyone else's. A photo has about as much life and energy as a corpse. So unless you're very beautiful or have a particularly stunning smile, they're practically useless. There's not a whole lot you can say in a profile to differentiate yourself from the crowd either. The vast majority of dating profiles I've read are interchangeable, for all intents and purposes. The only sure way to convey who you are and what you're about is to be out there in the world doing something in plain sight of a bunch of other people.

Now, if I were to renew my eH subscription, I'd wait a few months for the stockpile of matches to build back up. I certainly wouldn't let them trickle in a handful per month on my dime. That would be throwing money away.
 
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As I have stated in other posts, I am heading back to the bars and the shooting ranges (in that order) - always had good luck there!

If I am asked to leave eHarmony, it will be because of my general trouble-making personality!
 
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I wouldn't say that. Some of us make a good impression in real life but none at all on the Internet. I'm not the least bit photogenic myself. Images don't capture my personality, nor probably anyone else's. A photo has about as much life and energy as a corpse. So unless you're very beautiful or have a particularly stunning smile, they're practically useless. There's not a whole lot you can say in a profile to differentiate yourself from the crowd either. The vast majority of dating profiles I've read are interchangeable, for all intents and purposes. The only sure way to convey who you are and what you're about is to be out there in the world doing something in plain sight of a bunch of other people.

Now, if I were to renew my eH subscription, I'd wait a few months for the stockpile of matches to build back up. I certainly wouldn't let them trickle in a handful per month on my dime. That would be throwing money away.
I thought I saw your picture the other day and it looked alright to me. I prefer matches with pictures myself because it helps me identify with the person I'm communicating with. This picture thing has been dealt with in other places though.

I agree with you that it's important to get out there and show people who you are for them to get to know you.

I come from Edmonton, Alberta which is a fairly big metropolitan area - almost a million people in my region - but I still don't get very many matches if I limit my settings to Edmonton. As it is now, I've set the distance so wide that most men close me because the physical distance is to great. I keep the distance set where it is because there are a few that I've made contact with that I'm still communicating with because we've become good friends. Marriage may not be in the cards, but I enjoy emailing with them and talking on the phone with them.

I just don't have any good answers for this at the moment. I suppose it's important to use as many tools as possible so you can meet as many people as possible. Putting all your eggs in one basket can lead to problems.
 
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