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pussinboots wrote :
I suppose this might invoke some humorous, bittersweet comments, but has anyone been asked to leave eHarmony because they could not find enough matches for you?
I don't know of anyone who has been asked to leave, but I do know someone who was rejected as a member because they felt they couldn't find any matches for him.
- August 12th, 2009, 10:24 pm
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I don't know of anyone who has been asked to leave, but I do know someone who was rejected as a member because they felt they couldn't find any matches for him.
Ouch, What was it about him that made him unmatchable in your opinion.
- August 12th, 2009, 11:26 pm
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UMMM, hate to be a "killjoy" but I joined in March, was flooded with a plethora of incredible matches (so many that I had a hard time adjusting to becoming very "picky"), am now closed to new matches because am exclusively dating incredible girl (just got back from 11 day trip to AK).... highly recommend the sight to everyone I talk to
- August 12th, 2009, 11:33 pm
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bravethestorm wrote :
I think the standard response on that is to adjust your settings to open up more possibilities. Fact is online or offline...the more difficult the restrictions...the less of chance of success.

Never had any problem in getting plenty of matches here...it's finding a quality match that is more than a "almost right for you" that is the challenge.
I can find quality matches that are right for me but I don't seem to right for any of them.
- August 12th, 2009, 11:52 pm
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The only time that I know of when people are asked to leave is when they do not meet the standards of the site. Such as they are married, are not who they claim, etc.
- August 12th, 2009, 11:54 pm
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Tank wrote :
Ouch, What was it about him that made him unmatchable in your opinion.
Supposedly eHarmony rejects about 15% of people who apply because they don't think they'll be able to find a match for them based on their personality profile.

After knowing him a while I discovered how judgmental he was, he believed in all sorts of conspiracy theories (he's convinced we've never been to the moon or space), loves to tell tall tales (which I call lies), and he's a backstabber that claims to be everyone's friend. Yet he's very charming and comes across as very sincere... he had me fooled for a long time. He also grew up in a Protestant church, rejected that, converted to Judaism in his early 20s (but never told his family), and pretty much rejects all religion. I'm not sure which criteria got him rejected.
- August 13th, 2009, 06:55 am
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Supposedly eHarmony rejects about 15% of people who apply because they don't think they'll be able to find a match for them based on their personality profile.

After knowing him a while I discovered how judgmental he was, he believed in all sorts of conspiracy theories (he's convinced we've never been to the moon or space), loves to tell tall tales (which I call lies), and he's a backstabber that claims to be everyone's friend. Yet he's very charming and comes across as very sincere... he had me fooled for a long time. He also grew up in a Protestant church, rejected that, converted to Judaism in his early 20s (but never told his family), and pretty much rejects all religion. I'm not sure which criteria got him rejected.
It is good to know that e-harmony has a screening process that actually rejects people that actually works. What is bad is that he will just go and apply to match or other services and be accepted.
- August 13th, 2009, 11:34 am
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It is good to know that e-harmony has a screening process that actually rejects people that actually works. What is bad is that he will just go and apply to match or other services and be accepted.
He's on Plenty of Fish and craigslist personals all the time now.

I actually met him on a now-defunct dating site that was specific to my city, and had good luck on that site before. I initially liked him because he was "different," but there is a difference between the kind of "different" I want and what he is!

Ironically, his parents are nothing like that and I would have loved for them to be my in-laws! I still talk to them regularly.
- August 13th, 2009, 11:53 am
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
He's on Plenty of Fish and craigslist personals all the time now.

I actually met him on a now-defunct dating site that was specific to my city, and had good luck on that site before. I initially liked him because he was "different," but there is a difference between the kind of "different" I want and what he is!

Ironically, his parents are nothing like that and I would have loved for them to be my in-laws! I still talk to them regularly.
Sounds like you had a few dates with this guy wonderwomen. Sounds kinda like my older brother who is very opinionated when he learns something and rejects past knowledge and experiences from what he believes is true in his mind today. My brother now believe in buddhism and don't get him started on why and why all the other religions are wrong. We grew up protestant but attended both catholic and protestant churches growing up. He says he as studied so many life changing books and that nobody else knows the truth about alot of things. Does this kinda sound like this guy or what?
- August 13th, 2009, 02:42 pm
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It's really how long a person is willing to stick around for a match. A week. A month. A year. But I'd seriously doubt that they would ever ask anyone to leave because there were no matches. As someone said, the suggestion would most likely be to reset your distance meter and they'd dig up a three-legged unisexual alien-creature from the planet Ork.
- August 13th, 2009, 06:17 pm
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