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tom1385 is offline tom1385 Post #1  August 10,2009, 11:25pm
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Or are the "matches" just another craigslist scam?

I've received about 70 "matches" - and 2 people has responded - the rest have not even "checked" my profile or closed the response. I'm assuming the other 58 are free profiles or 3 year old profiles that haven't been bothered to be deleted. It feels like false advertisement to get people to subscribe to this site.

Plus this site innately limits your ability to search and thus attempts to keep its members paying as long as possible.

Has anyone ever gotten a refund or been able to cancel their subscription? I mean, it isn't about the money to me, it is more about the principle, I don't like being cheated and I feel the service this site provides is inadequate.

I wouldn't feel so much cheated if I could search for my "matches" myself, but the system itself pairs me with people 300 miles away when I put location as "very important".

Although I must commend that the profiles on this site have much "nicer" people than the people I'd normally meet (I'm in Las Vegas, what do you expect). Too bad all of the profiles are freebies or fakes.
 
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I understand your frustration. You can get the same results or better from many free sites or other pay sites. That being said, my sister did meet her husband on this site over 3 years ago. She joined at my persistance, actually. I was on the site at that time, though and got practically no matches and absolutely no communication, so I quit. I don't think they had the non-member thing back then... don't know. I'm giving it another go. Personally, I'd rather get fewer matches and at least know they are here for the same reason I am.
 
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I think it would be interesting to see how many first posts are this complaint.

When I joined eH the first time, these boards didn't exist. There were a few sites and blogs but nothing substantial. After the first month of shock at the lack of responses and assuming "it must be me" and editing and re-editing my profile until it became totally generic and inoffensive (and indistinctive, and nothing at all like me), we realized that there were ways of telling whether a match might be a live member or not.

My estimate, which seems to be supported by many people here, is that at least 75% of your matches are Just Plain Not There. Expired members, trial members who never paid, etc. eH will drive you crazy unless you realize this.
 
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whoops.
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Yup.

Back when I was on eH last summer, I received two profiles that both said their subscriptions expired in 2007. Last summer was, of course, 2008.

I've been on these boards over a year (just for fun, since I met my fiance on another site) and yes, it's a common complaint about eH. I do know a few couples who met and married on eH. But I suspect that there are a lot more people who have left in disgust over this very issue.
 
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graceventually wrote :
Yup.

Back when I was on eH last summer, I received two profiles that both said their subscriptions expired in 2007. Last summer was, of course, 2008.

I've been on these boards over a year (just for fun, since I met my fiance on another site) and yes, it's a common complaint about eH. I do know a few couples who met and married on eH. But I suspect that there are a lot more people who have left in disgust over this very issue.
It's ashamed really because I had much higher expecations from this site...... no matter because I have faith that the good Lord will send me a mate when He's ready and I'm ready.
 
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I wish I had read this thread before I signed up for a full year.

Oh well, at least it's good to know not to get too excited about any of it. Maybe I'll meet at least a couple good people in a year.

Really does seem like false advertising though.
 
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Hello everyone:

I agree with the other members posts...i also had these "bunch" of matches that never reply back to me or just put me on hold....i believe EH should control better about our matches, or give us a way to contact our matches and if they didn't reply i guess we just better close match has i started to do.
I also feel my money was a waste on EH, because i made a few good friends in another site that was for free and for me it worked much better...i wish i could stop my 3 month payment but now i'll have to do it all the way i guess...Who knows?he might be there after all ehehehee...
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haha! Recently I got a match from a person who wrote that he was reading Marley and Me. Then he went on to explain what the book was about. I am assuming that was an oooold profile since most people know of the book. I have also had someone write that their membership expired in April yet I received the match in June. It's sad that there isn't a better filtering system. I wish there was a way I can choose whether or not I wish to receive matches with non members and members who are inactive.
 
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Met and married a man I met through EH. He passed away last year, and am seriously considering trying EH again. I personally know of at least three success stories.
 
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