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This is purely just a discussion/conversation topic, but something I thought would be interesting to talk about:

How many of you out there pay attention to the "last book read" part of a match's profile? And how many of you think of this as a vital part of your profile?

For me, I find this to be a really helpful tool in getting a picture of who my match is. As an avid reader myself, I like to see that my match reads at least semi-regularly. That isn't to say that if they read a book I don't like or am interested in, or don't have anything listed at all, that I lose interest in the match - it's just more of an advantage, I guess.

Oddly enough, I think one of the things that I try to have sounding the best in my profile is my "last read" - it just seems like a great way of showing your matches another side of you that the other questions don't get to show.
 
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I don't pay much attention to what my matches read. A good many of them don't have anything listed and I suspect that some of the ones that have listed a book read it years ago.

While I do read some and used to be an avid reader I don't really expect to be having discussions with my match on a book that we both read.

I have noticed that most of my matches on Match would list books by Joel Osteen, Rick Warren and similar authors yet my eHarmony matches rarely ever mention such books. They usually either list something from the romance genre or mysteries. Just some hmm data that I noticed.
 
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I do look at it as interesting, because sometimes, I think it says something about the person. I mean, if the last book listed was "How To Make A Bomb In Thirteen Days", I'm fairly sure I would like to stay away from that person. Many times, after I start chatting with the person, I ask them about their reading interest further. Since I like to read anyway, discussing books is a great way to start to get to learn a little something about a person as well as share an interest. Sometimes, I get a recommendation for a god book if he's really clever. But I will admit, if the person's reading list sounds dull or there's an indication that the person doesn't read much, my red flag goes up. I know what I'm about to say is a gross generalization, and at least I do recognize it as one, but I've found that recently the men that I've met who don't read have a very poor attitude towards education and career. The last such man don't I was completely wasting my time with a book, when after all, I could be racking up DUIs or smoking something illegal. Yet, if a person has an interesting profile and that's the only thinkg that is lacking is the book section, I still give him a go. Why not? You're not supposed to judge a book by its cover, right?
 
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I do look at it as interesting, because sometimes, I think it says something about the person. I mean, if the last book listed was "How To Make A Bomb In Thirteen Days", I'm fairly sure I would like to stay away from that person. Many times, after I start chatting with the person, I ask them about their reading interest further. Since I like to read anyway, discussing books is a great way to start to get to learn a little something about a person as well as share an interest. Sometimes, I get a recommendation for a god book if he's really clever. But I will admit, if the person's reading list sounds dull or there's an indication that the person doesn't read much, my red flag goes up. I know what I'm about to say is a gross generalization, and at least I do recognize it as one, but I've found that recently the men that I've met who don't read have a very poor attitude towards education and career. The last such man don't I was completely wasting my time with a book, when after all, I could be racking up DUIs or smoking something illegal. Yet, if a person has an interesting profile and that's the only thinkg that is lacking is the book section, I still give him a go. Why not? You're not supposed to judge a book by its cover, right?
Yes this is a rather gross generalization. I have, I think, a pretty decent education. I have had a successful career in a field that I love. In junior high (middle) and high school I averaged reading a book a day. However, now reading makes me sleepy.

Besides reading is a solitary activity. If you are an avid reader then you are not going to be spending much time with your SO.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Besides reading is a solitary activity. If you are an avid reader then you are not going to be spending much time with your SO.
That's really an assumption. It is entirely possible to read on a regular basis and make time for your SO. I was in two relationships over the course of three and a half years (not at the same time, of course!), and I managed to read regularly while devoting plenty of time to my respective girlfriends.
 
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I've purchased a book because one of my matches made it sound so interesting.

We're in step 3 right right now. I'm hopeful it will get to OC and I learn more about her because she seems really cool. However, even if ended now I got something from the contact.

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Besides reading is a solitary activity. If you are an avid reader then you are not going to be spending much time with your SO.

Yes and no. It is nice to sit there each reading their respective material quietly enjoy the company. Also, if the book appeals to both, you can take turns reading it and then discuss it.
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bclfgrd2 wrote :
That's really an assumption. It is entirely possible to read on a regular basis and make time for your SO. I was in two relationships over the course of three and a half years (not at the same time, of course!), and I managed to read regularly while devoting plenty of time to my respective girlfriends.
I had a boyfriend who was an avid reader and always looked at the NYT book review and would suggest books to me. Sometimes they were things he had read and sometimes things he knew I would like. I wish we still kept in touch and he could create book lists for me. I have read too many disappointing books lately. So I think it is a great thing to have in common.
 
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I had a boyfriend who was an avid reader and always looked at the NYT book review and would suggest books to me. Sometimes they were things he had read and sometimes things he knew I would like. I wish we still kept in touch and he could create book lists for me. I have read too many disappointing books lately. So I think it is a great thing to have in common.
Yes, there is that too - my first girlfriend and I had some similar reading interests, so were able to suggest books to each other.
 
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I just finished The Winter of our Discontent, now I'm in the middle of a mystery called Run a Crooked Mile. On tap after that is something non-fiction. I recommend Team of Rivals if anyone is looking for a good non-fiction book.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Yes this is a rather gross generalization. I have, I think, a pretty decent education. I have had a successful career in a field that I love. In junior high (middle) and high school I averaged reading a book a day. However, now reading makes me sleepy.

Besides reading is a solitary activity. If you are an avid reader then you are not going to be spending much time with your SO.
Actually, I've find that I've spent more time with other avid readers than non-readers. It doesn't have to be solitary at all. Once a group of friends read the Left Behind series. We read them aloud at lunch.

But let me clarify, it wasn't my intention to say that all me who don't read are uneducated or have lacking careers. Just the ones that I have met recently have taken a poor attitude towards career and education.
 
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