Are there really only 20 active people on advice.eHarmony?


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PinkFlumingo is offline PinkFlumingo Post #1  August 9,2009, 2:29pm
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After surfing and following many many threads on here, it would appear that there are really only 20 or so active people on this entire site. Thoughts?
 
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I've noticed it too. I read the boards regularly, but do not post. I don't find this to be a very supportive environment in general. I also don't appreciate the flippant remarks that some posters frequently make. It devalues the other posters' comments and usually doesn't add anything.

There seems to be a lot of negativity and one upmanship here and while I will read, I don't post or ask for advice for those reasons.
 
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lilypad1212 - I am probably guilty in the flippant remark category. But it is because I can't believe people actually ask some of these relationship questions - like DUH! I think I am on the wrong site - I am not looking for support for common sense problems - I am looking for a mate for an already good life (and I already have a pretty good head on my shoulders - so the DUH! questions irritate me).

I was hoping this side of eHarmony would be more flexible and give members more control in meeting people (with the ability to search out potential mates rather than wait for the matches eHarmony sends me - none of which have been even remotely close to what I am looking for).

I am going back to the bar scene or the shooting range - fewer whiners there!
 
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If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.
Angry much? Oh dear!
 
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.

Oooooohh ouch!!! This one scorches, so I'll stand back in case I get the hot melt, too..

But I do agree with you on that I don't think the boards here are intended to find possible matches. I think the purpose of it is to sometimes be informative, meet "friends" not possible dates, a source of entertainment and fun (e.g., games and random posts), sharing interests, and as a venting agent. As with anything, I think there are some who post far more than others, and yes, way more people browse but never post. Like anything else, there are slow weeks for the boards. There even may be a lot of private boards going on, too. (I don't know about that part). But if you're wondering about how many people are posting, check out their numbers and not just who currently are popping on the boards.

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Angry much? Oh dear!
Not at all. Troll much?
 
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PinkFlumingo -
I've been a member for quite a while and as you can see from my post count I rarely post. I'm not one for advice as it is better for me to figure out things myself. The vibe in this place has really changed from the earlier days of the board. It was more friendly back then when suddenly last summer a lawless bunch decided to shake things up a bit and things have never been the same. I miss some of the regular posters. Now we have moderation and some of the regular posters don't seem to give newbies the benefit of the doubt when they seek advice.

There are all sorts of people here, some of whom make very insightful posts and I always look forward to their posts. And as you can see from the above poster, some like to make snippy comments without adding much to the conversation.
 
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Thank you Fancypantz. I am with you on the figuring out stuff on my own for the most part - its a character building thing. My point initially was that I really can't believe some of the questions people need advice on - "he said we were buying a house and doesn't have any money - should I dump him?" or "why would someone go back to their wife after being separated and dating me - should I dump him?" Those questions really don't need a forum of strangers to figure out the answers to do they?

As for using advice.eHarmony as a pick up joint, I am merely trying to find some return on my investment in eHarmony. I have 145 closed matches (closed pretty much immediately because they were nothing like what I am looking for - old, overweight, whiny and ready for retirement is not my idea of a mate). Hence, my being on this side of the eHarmony universe. I see no reason why this forum can't be used to meet people. You are allowed to have friends - private emails - set up groups for social events - and all in real time - unlike the other part of eHarmony. So what's your problem, Fenshui? As far as the troll comment (I actually had to look up what that meant in the blog world) my experience with trolls is usually its the pot calling the kettle black. I am not a troll - I merely like to shake the common sense tree from time to time.
 
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