Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Using eHarmony If you have questions or comments about eHarmony's matching process, post it here. Or, lend your guidance and support to a fellow eHarmony member.

Reply
Page 1 of 7 1 2 3 Last »
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
PinkFlumingo PinkFlumingo is offline
PinkFlumingo's Avatar

PinkFlumingo knows her coworkers will run around like orangutans when she is on vacation

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 92

See profile

After surfing and following many many threads on here, it would appear that there are really only 20 or so active people on this entire site. Thoughts?
- August 9th, 2009, 03:29 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
lilypad1212 lilypad1212 is offline
lilypad1212's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jun 2008

Posts: 40

See profile

I've noticed it too. I read the boards regularly, but do not post. I don't find this to be a very supportive environment in general. I also don't appreciate the flippant remarks that some posters frequently make. It devalues the other posters' comments and usually doesn't add anything.

There seems to be a lot of negativity and one upmanship here and while I will read, I don't post or ask for advice for those reasons.
- August 9th, 2009, 03:59 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
PinkFlumingo PinkFlumingo is offline
PinkFlumingo's Avatar

PinkFlumingo knows her coworkers will run around like orangutans when she is on vacation

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 92

See profile

lilypad1212 - I am probably guilty in the flippant remark category. But it is because I can't believe people actually ask some of these relationship questions - like DUH! I think I am on the wrong site - I am not looking for support for common sense problems - I am looking for a mate for an already good life (and I already have a pretty good head on my shoulders - so the DUH! questions irritate me).

I was hoping this side of eHarmony would be more flexible and give members more control in meeting people (with the ability to search out potential mates rather than wait for the matches eHarmony sends me - none of which have been even remotely close to what I am looking for).

I am going back to the bar scene or the shooting range - fewer whiners there!
- August 9th, 2009, 07:57 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
FengShuiBlackBelt FengShuiBlackBelt is offline
FengShuiBlackBelt's Avatar

FengShuiBlackBelt can't win for losing.

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 158

See profile

If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.
Last edited by FengShuiBlackBelt; August 9th, 2009 at 09:47 pm.
- August 9th, 2009, 09:43 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
PinkFlumingo PinkFlumingo is offline
PinkFlumingo's Avatar

PinkFlumingo knows her coworkers will run around like orangutans when she is on vacation

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 92

See profile

FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.
Angry much? Oh dear!
- August 10th, 2009, 06:05 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#5   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

CreolePrincess CreolePrincess is offline
CreolePrincess's Avatar

CreolePrincess It is so complicated, ya'll, and it doesn't even have to be.

Virtuoso

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 2,573

See profile

FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
If the forums enforced a rigid standard of seriousness (or whatever your idea of the opposite of flippancy might be), there would be even fewer posters. The forums aren't intended to be a pick-up joint either. If you do happen to find a match on the forums, that's fine, but that's really not what we're here for.

And oh yeah, there will always be a certain percentage of people who think they're so much smarter than everyone else, too good to bump elbows with the rabble, or whatever. Such people tend to make a forum as dull as dishwater in a hurry. If this describes you, I, for one, certainly won't miss you.

Oooooohh ouch!!! This one scorches, so I'll stand back in case I get the hot melt, too..

But I do agree with you on that I don't think the boards here are intended to find possible matches. I think the purpose of it is to sometimes be informative, meet "friends" not possible dates, a source of entertainment and fun (e.g., games and random posts), sharing interests, and as a venting agent. As with anything, I think there are some who post far more than others, and yes, way more people browse but never post. Like anything else, there are slow weeks for the boards. There even may be a lot of private boards going on, too. (I don't know about that part). But if you're wondering about how many people are posting, check out their numbers and not just who currently are popping on the boards.

Okay, send the flames my way. I'm suited up now.
- August 10th, 2009, 06:17 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#6   Reply With Quote
FengShuiBlackBelt FengShuiBlackBelt is offline
FengShuiBlackBelt's Avatar

FengShuiBlackBelt can't win for losing.

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 158

See profile

PinkFlumingo wrote :
Angry much? Oh dear!
Not at all. Troll much?
- August 10th, 2009, 06:22 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#7   Reply With Quote
Fancypantz Fancypantz is offline
Fancypantz's Avatar

Fancypantz is ecstatic!

Quick Study

Join Date: Mar 2008

Posts: 110

See profile

PinkFlumingo -
I've been a member for quite a while and as you can see from my post count I rarely post. I'm not one for advice as it is better for me to figure out things myself. The vibe in this place has really changed from the earlier days of the board. It was more friendly back then when suddenly last summer a lawless bunch decided to shake things up a bit and things have never been the same. I miss some of the regular posters. Now we have moderation and some of the regular posters don't seem to give newbies the benefit of the doubt when they seek advice.

There are all sorts of people here, some of whom make very insightful posts and I always look forward to their posts. And as you can see from the above poster, some like to make snippy comments without adding much to the conversation.
- August 10th, 2009, 07:18 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#8   Reply With Quote
Fancypantz Fancypantz is offline
Fancypantz's Avatar

Fancypantz is ecstatic!

Quick Study

Join Date: Mar 2008

Posts: 110

See profile

.................
Last edited by Fancypantz; August 11th, 2009 at 01:27 am. Reason: EHA froze and double posted
- August 10th, 2009, 07:20 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#9   Reply With Quote
PinkFlumingo PinkFlumingo is offline
PinkFlumingo's Avatar

PinkFlumingo knows her coworkers will run around like orangutans when she is on vacation

Quick Study

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 92

See profile

Thank you Fancypantz. I am with you on the figuring out stuff on my own for the most part - its a character building thing. My point initially was that I really can't believe some of the questions people need advice on - "he said we were buying a house and doesn't have any money - should I dump him?" or "why would someone go back to their wife after being separated and dating me - should I dump him?" Those questions really don't need a forum of strangers to figure out the answers to do they?

As for using advice.eHarmony as a pick up joint, I am merely trying to find some return on my investment in eHarmony. I have 145 closed matches (closed pretty much immediately because they were nothing like what I am looking for - old, overweight, whiny and ready for retirement is not my idea of a mate). Hence, my being on this side of the eHarmony universe. I see no reason why this forum can't be used to meet people. You are allowed to have friends - private emails - set up groups for social events - and all in real time - unlike the other part of eHarmony. So what's your problem, Fenshui? As far as the troll comment (I actually had to look up what that meant in the blog world) my experience with trolls is usually its the pot calling the kettle black. I am not a troll - I merely like to shake the common sense tree from time to time.
- August 10th, 2009, 08:45 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#10   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Reply
Page 1 of 7 1 2 3 Last »

Bookmarks

« wading back into the gene pool | Array | Question about updated profiles »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
dating someone in a 12 step program rei818 Dating 19 December 10th, 2009 09:42 pm
Do people actually get dates with strangers? stevex Dating 42 July 11th, 2009 10:23 pm
Looking for social websites for people over 30 simpletonHeart70 Everything Else 0 July 2nd, 2009 11:10 pm

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I never been married but it is great if you can have a civil realation ship with you ex, it is rare only a few mature people can keep it civil...and not let others put their negative point views on ... ” – misswright

Join the “civil relationship with ex” discussion

“No regrets.....to me..there isn't any difference between online and in real life, everyone has a story to tell and it just takes time for the truth to be revealed.... I just keep on wondering what ... ” – legend29

Join the “What lessons have you learned from online dating?” discussion

“ I've been here long enough, and some people are confused enough, that the same person has accused be of mutually-exclusive opposite attributes - sometimes on the same night.” – D_Lion

Join the “He said She said” discussion

“Okay, I have a question. I am in pre-menopause. I haven't had a period in almost a year. I went to the doctor and after we had a discussion about this and I had told him about my divorce, etc., I ... ” – newbie40something

Join the “argued about birth control methods” discussion

“So true, Suzyblueeyes.” – LizziePooh

Join the “When a guy says he's not looking for a relationship...” discussion

“Always your heart, always.” – BlueHeron

Join the “In relationships: heart or head?” discussion

“I am not a fan of living together if your end game is marriage and theirs is not. I know many people who gasp at the idea of not living together prior to marriage and believe that people need to ... ” – LizziePooh

Join the “co-habiting with no engagement... smart or not?” discussion

“Lindsey, the people that know even a little bit about you know better. The ones that never took the time? There's no reason to value their opinions. You're an amazing, caring, beautiful woman. ... ” – chawks64

Join the “It's over.” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:23 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2010, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0