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PinkFlumingo wrote :
After surfing and following many many threads on here, it would appear that there are really only 20 or so active people on this entire site. Thoughts?
I stop by occasionally. Maybe once every seven or ten days. I have some research projects that take up a lot of my time.
- August 11th, 2009, 05:25 pm
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Well, personally, I do not feel the need to adhere to anyone else's business model. And I fail to see how it would be a conflict. My suspicion is that part of eHarmony's business model is luring people from this free site over to the paid side - its a marketing tool.



Thus, I migrated here. And I will not apologize for seeming harsh with some of my opinions - I do believe in self reliance and truly feel that the answers to so many questions are self-evident - if people would only stand up for themselves.

I know I scare off potential dates/mates with this attitude - but would rather wait for the one that can truly hang with me rather than settle.
The problem with trying to meet people on here, is that we are all too far apart, both in terms of geography as well as age.

You might find you have the same opinion on a lot of things with someone, only to look in their Profile, and find they are 20 years older than you, and live completely on the other side of the country.

Yes, I think there have been a couple matches created here, but those are definitely the exceptions, not the rule.

This is why I have no doubt that EH has no fear of EHA taking away business from EH proper.

As to your 2nd part...
Not at all.
Sure, you might offend a couple people, but so what?

I have pretty strong opinions on certain subjects as well, and have no problem voicing them here!

Its your opinion, and as long as its not going out-of-bounds per EHA Forum rules, there is no reason you can't state what you want.

(Its also why we have so many Weight and Height threads)
- August 11th, 2009, 06:48 pm
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There are exactly 24 of us on this website though the actual question answering is done by a staff of elite ninja underpants gnomes.
And some of them are in desperate need of a wedgie!
- August 11th, 2009, 06:48 pm
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ThePriestess wrote :
And some of them are in desperate need of a wedgie!
Or maybe just get the sticks out of their butts!
- August 11th, 2009, 09:22 pm
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PinkFlumingo wrote :
Or maybe just get the sticks out of their butts!
You don't like my impersonation of a lollipop?
- August 11th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
You don't like my impersonation of a lollipop?
How many licks does it take.....crap - TOS will never let me finish this one!
- August 11th, 2009, 09:46 pm
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FengShuiBlackBelt wrote :
You don't like my impersonation of a lollipop?
OK - my first response was bagged by the moderators....let's try this again.

How many licks does it take....oh never mind.
- August 11th, 2009, 09:47 pm
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OK - my first response was bagged by the moderators....let's try this again.

How many licks does it take....oh never mind.
LMAO!
- August 11th, 2009, 09:54 pm
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*snip* What you claim to be oh-so-obvious is anything but obvious to some people who are confused and hurting when their heart was involved. When in doubt, I prefer to err on the side of treating the poster with respect and dignity rather than a "you can't be serious" remark. There is a real person on the other end of that post... why go out of your way to belittle them?

Besides, there's LOTS of topics on here and you're free to skip over the ones you find too stupid for your consideration.
Not trying to single anyone out at all here - because this behavior is kind of widespread - but I have to say I agree 100% with this sentiment.

I have always been the type of person who gives great advice - on OTHER people's situations - but find myself reeling from time to time on my own. When there is lots of emotion involved, rational thought can fall very quickly by the wayside. Also, sometimes people just need to vent or get support.

We're all different. Good thing, too, because the world we be EXTREMLY boring if we weren't.

My #1 tip for participating here or in any online Community is: if your comment won't be a positive contribution to the conversation, pass it by. Don't post. Not to say that we can only say positive things -- sometimes respectfully disagreeing and offering facts or viewpoints to illuminate someone else's view can be the most positive thing we can do.

But a lot of the remarks I see on here are just snark and although they don't outright violate the Standards, it's really clear that the purpose of them is to make the other Member feel stupid. NOT COOL.

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As an aside, we have thousands of active Members at any given time. That number is one of the metrics I track each month.
- August 12th, 2009, 01:19 pm
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PinkFlumingo wrote :
Not to worry - I do think my life expectancy here is limited and I will move on shortly. If not by my own accord - by the hand of the helpful community organizers.
Nah, you're not doing anything wrong (at least that I have seen). eHarmony is unique in that we welcome ALL feedback, whether negative or positive. Other companies I've worked for had a "if it portrays us in a negative light, delete it" attitude, which is, in my opinion, a horrible way to do business.

PinkFlumingo, have you been in touch with Customer Care? They might have some good suggestions to help with your account in terms of getting more or more suitable matches. PM one of our Advice Hosts, Kate or Renee, they can help.
- August 12th, 2009, 01:52 pm
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