ThatGuyOU is offline ThatGuyOU Post #1  August 7,2009, 9:43pm
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Been stuck here for more than 2 weeks, what should I do?
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #2  August 7,2009, 9:53pm
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Either take Step 4 or go back to Step 2, I'd say...
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #3  August 7,2009, 10:18pm
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Not sure what stage 3 is but it may be that she needs to send the first Open Communication message.

If this is the point where stage 3 is then two things come to mind:
1. She is just not that interested in you.
2. She feels that the guy should always make the first move and doesn't understand that with eHarmony you take turns in the Guided Communication process and when you reach the point of beginning Open Communication that if she is the one who is supposed to start that off she has to and that you cannot do anything until she sends the first OC.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Not sure what stage 3 is but it may be that she needs to send the first Open Communication message.

If this is the point where stage 3 is then two things come to mind:
1. She is just not that interested in you.
2. She feels that the guy should always make the first move and doesn't understand that with eHarmony you take turns in the Guided Communication process and when you reach the point of beginning Open Communication that if she is the one who is supposed to start that off she has to and that you cannot do anything until she sends the first OC.
Should he dump her or should she dump him? And who should say "Next" first?
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
2. She feels that the guy should always make the first move and doesn't understand that with eHarmony you take turns in the Guided Communication process and when you reach the point of beginning Open Communication that if she is the one who is supposed to start that off she has to and that you cannot do anything until she sends the first OC.
If you suspect this, you could always try the fast track option, if you are on the verge of open communication anyway I would think it would be ok.
 
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ThatGuyOU wrote :
Been stuck here for more than 2 weeks, what should I do?
mmm to me if you have to ask you probably arent all that interested in her? thats how it seems
 
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2 weeks? I would close that match. She's probably keeping you hanging around just in case the other 20 guys she's also deciding on don't work out.
 
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Should he dump her or should she dump him? And who should say "Next" first?
No need for him to dump her. While she is doing nothing he should be engaging in communication with any and all other of his matches that he finds interesting. If at sometime in the future she decides to continue with communicating with him then if he is still free and interested he can continue. If he has found a girl in the mean time who was prompt in communicating and he is no longer free then it would be her loss.

When we have the next FCW I will send a nudge and then go through and clean out all of my matches that have never responded.
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mmm to me if you have to ask you probably arent all that interested in her? thats how it seems
Uh, he might be asking if there is something that he could do to get her communicating again.
 
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If you suspect this, you could always try the fast track option, if you are on the verge of open communication anyway I would think it would be ok.
Yes I suppose that would be an option.
 
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