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jaybird80 is offline jaybird80 Post #41  February 6,2010, 1:42pm
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going through the motions..scuse me, pardon me, oops sorry-your heart?

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Ohhhh! Just got a match:

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scandalous is offline scandalous Post #42  February 6,2010, 2:20pm
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nwchptr wrote :
I joined eharmony because I thought it would provide more meaningful matches, but at this point thinking of going back to match.com. It's like they are picking the total opposite of what I am looking for.
Hi nwchptr! Welcome to the boards!

Yes, I joined for the same reason, and I just cancelled my subscription today. I am baptized Christian, and put Christian on my profile, even though I am actually open to and respectful of other religions. The Christian men that I was matched up with seemed like their goals in life were to either become a pastor, or a missionary, and were looking for a woman who would devote her life to being at church every day or going on endless mission trips. Not to say there is anything wrong with that, but not what I was looking for.

I also felt, that after communicating with some of the matches, they seemed to be very judgmental of me, like I am not "Christian enough" for them. My experience was nothing like what they advertize on tv. Out of 100+ matches, I only met one in person, and only emailed one or two others. The rest either I closed after waiting too long for them to respond to my first questions, or they closed me before even answering my initial questions.
 
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hankscorpio is offline hankscorpio Post #43  February 6,2010, 3:02pm

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california_girl wrote :
Hi, I'm a nonpaying member, one of those "junk" people you speak of.
I spell well. I have three college degrees. I don't post a photo.
You probably closed me.
Thank you. ))
Good luck with your search.
Hey, I'm sure you're a great catch.

I'm also not sure how anyone is supposed to know what a great catch you are if you're not disclosing it fully. (and not posting a photo is not full disclosure)

However, I will say I have a greater appreciation of non-paying members than the paying ones.

The paying ones of eligibility seem to immediately close me as a match the vast majority of the time. (I don't count people 5+ years older than myself or who appear to be 50+ pounds overweight as eligible)

The non-payers (apparently by virtue of not making snap judgments based on pictures) seem much more willing to actually talk with me once the free weekends come around.

Also, I have attempted communication with quite a few interesting sounding women without pictures. I haven't received a response from one yet. Though I wouldn't meet with any of them if they weren't comfortable sending a picture at some point.
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JustAskGloria wrote :
My question is .... to others on the board....do you think that the EH formula for matching works?
NO!

I came across this thread just after posting the following in another...

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I'm in the Twilight Zone Edition of eH. My few-and-far-between matches are either jet-setters, Olympic athletes or candidates for "The World's Biggest Loser" TV show. Only one match shares a significant percentage of my interests. Also it seems about 75% were dead profiles, and of the remaining 25% about half were no-photo and wouldn't post one. Furthermore, most of my matches have "tiny" profiles, very little has been written, which to me indicates a poor communicator, and that's been proven to be true in the communication phases -- conversing with a cement block would have been more satisfying. This is over the course of the last four months.

Honestly I've met better matches by chance IRL than on eH, and even my two ex-wives were better matches than all but one eH match. I was VERY careful when I answered the questions and the personality profile does reflect my actual personality, with only two moderate divergences. SO... it seems to me that one of eH's matching dimensions IS the Twilight Zone.
The problem with eH is there's no feedback when problems like this occur, so there's no investigation and subsequent corrective action taken -- it'll never be "fixed" (if it can be) until there is. Sigh...
 
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