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jayjay wrote :
You get matches???

LOL Guess that answers that
- August 7th, 2009, 09:00 pm
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The big thing you have to remember here is profiles go live immediately upon signup instead of when the match says that it is completed. So the longer you are on eharmony...the more likely your matches will always be new members that have few or no pictures...incomplete profiles etc.

Quality matches...just like quality people that are a good match for you are few and far between. Sometimes they'll come all at once and other times weeks, months, or even years apart.

All in all eharmony takes both patience, luck, and good timing for both you and your match. So as you long as you put your heart and time in it...you can have the hope that many others did the same and you'll be matched with one that is right for you.

Good luck!
- August 7th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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goldengirl7676 wrote :
I know this subject is nothing new here on the eH boards, but I just feel like grumping a little about the quality of matches (or lack of) that I've received lately. Today's matches included a fellow who barely had anything written on his profile, no photo and his name was listed as "unknown." Unknown? This is what eH is sending me for all that money I paid?

Then I get another one who says some really odd things, overuses exclamation points in his profile and says he enjoys arts from the Italian Reminiscence (not Renaissance, of course). I think that one was one of those foreign scam-artist profiles everyone is always talking about.

And last but not least, I get another one in which the guy liberally peppers his entire profile with LOLs and several times uses "there" when he means to say "their." He also lists his occupation as "professional male in ***** industry."

I don't mean to be such a whiner, but is it too much to ask for eH to send some matches who have a complete profile, who can spell properly and who are just regular guys? Seems the only ones I get anymore are the scam artists, the incomplete profiles and the odd ducks ( and I don't mean odd in a good way).
that's because some of these matches, or maybe most of them are not paying members. I have also wondered, they are very much fake.
good luck..
- August 7th, 2009, 10:25 pm
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Julie09 wrote :
I gotta add to this rant. I'm new on eH and one thing that bugs me since I've joined is guys who very early on (first or second email) feel we could get to know each other sooo much better if we communicated through our personal email addresses instead of through eH. This is a real turn off for me. I feel that what they are really looking for is a way to circumvent whatever screening tools that available on this site and send inappropriate emails to my account. Am I being overly suspicious here?

And jayjay: with a sense of humour like yours, how come no one has snatched you up yet is a mystery to me!
It can be rude, but I consider it acceptable to offer my personal email. Assume we met on a free weekend communication ( it lasts only 48 hours - usually). Is that meaning we're not going to continue communicating after? I consider it politeness, to offer my email and to ask first which way my match prefers to communicate . If she is paid member and wishes the security of web page of EH - not a problem for me. However if she is a not a paid member then why( although some freebies often do that) restrict our communication to the weeknd only? I like what neardc mentioned -since it's free you can establish more than 1 email accounts and use them for different purposes- communication only from Eh, junk mail only, business correspondence etc.

P.S. Many other disccussions participants mentioning their concern that someone would get their email. Why getting so paranoic about it?
There are so many more important things to worry about rather than giving your email address, in which hopefully you are not submitting credit card info and any other financial info thru your emails. There were some records on the boards here, that scamers-(misspelled bc of moderation) got emails of members. So what's the big deal? I just dont bother answer it. Overall they are all the same. Last year someone managed to clone my ATM card (and of many other people too who used the same ATM). They withdrew 3 digit sum, but eventually got caught. Isn't that something more important to worry about, than giving your email?-again as I mentioned, I assume none of us use their email to submit important financial info. Or if you do follow the advice of neardc and give not the primary email.
- August 7th, 2009, 11:18 pm
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Julie09 wrote :
I gotta add to this rant. I'm new on eH and one thing that bugs me since I've joined is guys who very early on (first or second email) feel we could get to know each other sooo much better if we communicated through our personal email addresses instead of through eH. This is a real turn off for me. I feel that what they are really looking for is a way to circumvent whatever screening tools that available on this site and send inappropriate emails to my account. Am I being overly suspicious here?

And jayjay: with a sense of humour like yours, how come no one has snatched you up yet is a mystery to me!
On the one hand I would say that you are being overly suspicious. However if you feel more comfortable using the eHarmony Open Communication system then that should be what you do and your matches should be willing to respect that. If they won't then you don't want them anyway. I will also say that most personal e-mail programs work better than the eHarmony system for following along with a conversation.

Uh, no one has snatched me up yet either
- August 8th, 2009, 11:38 am
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goldengirl7676 wrote :
I know this subject is nothing new here on the eH boards, but I just feel like grumping a little about the quality of matches (or lack of) that I've received lately. Today's matches included a fellow who barely had anything written on his profile, no photo and his name was listed as "unknown." Unknown? This is what eH is sending me for all that money I paid?

Then I get another one who says some really odd things, overuses exclamation points in his profile and says he enjoys arts from the Italian Reminiscence (not Renaissance, of course). I think that one was one of those foreign scam-artist profiles everyone is always talking about.

And last but not least, I get another one in which the guy liberally peppers his entire profile with LOLs and several times uses "there" when he means to say "their." He also lists his occupation as "professional male in ***** industry."

I don't mean to be such a whiner, but is it too much to ask for eH to send some matches who have a complete profile, who can spell properly and who are just regular guys? Seems the only ones I get anymore are the scam artists, the incomplete profiles and the odd ducks ( and I don't mean odd in a good way).
Seems that you have been getting some real winners

I, too, have noticed a great many of my matches have mostly empty profiles the past few weeks. Of course those don't have any photos either. Generally you would expect that these people are non-paying members who just signed up on a FCW or Review Your Matches for Free. But I have actually had a couple of these communicate.
- August 8th, 2009, 11:42 am
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- August 8th, 2009, 11:50 am
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I am new to EH and not impressed to date...lol. I have not been attracted to any matches (sigh) - both physically or otherwise. I noticed that not one of the matches on EH had similar educational or incomes levels. Are my standards too high? I can say from past experience, issues such as education and income typically rear their ugly heads as a relationship progresses.
- October 7th, 2009, 08:03 pm
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Hi Mari3434,

Welcome to eHarmony matching and eHarmony Advice! I’m glad you’re bringing up your concerns about your matches at the beginning of the service. You may want to contact our Customer Care department at http://help-singles.eharmony.com and inquire about the pattern you are perceiving and what options you have.

Something you should know about the service is that for some it can be a process of getting some matches that you like and some that you don’t – communicating with some and not others. Our goal for each member is to help you find the one special match that’s right for you.

We want to make sure that everything is set appropriately in your settings and profile to help make that happen.

All the best,

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- October 7th, 2009, 09:50 pm
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I'll add my 2 cents to the frustration here (nothing new, I know). I was a former member, passed on renewing, and came back to it ("one more try") after a 8 month or so absence because I deluded myself into believeing that some new matches I received even while a non-member seemed pretty decent.

They weren't... was the same old stuff. I really resent EH's policy of "matching" paying members with the obviously non-serious people who post a half-a$$ profile during one of those free weekend offers EH apparently makes. The paying members deserve better than to be used a "bait" for EH to try and entice a few tire-kickers into coughing up the dough. Very few of these people (even those who actually post a decent profile) ever bother to respond if you initiate GC.

My other main gripe (among the true paying EH members) is about---you guessed it---photos! I have no problem with the fact that the text may be mundane, routine, or indecisive (that's what GC/OC can help you fill in), but I LOATHE when someone cannot even be bothered to post a few decent pics of themself. Some examples of what I have seen recently in matches:
1) No pics (automatic close)
2) One small, grainy (cellphone?) pic
3) One super closeup face shot only (hiding something?)
4) Pics of her dog, cat, friend, etc. (who cares?)
5) One pic showing 2 women (friend? sister?) with no caption--how the heck do I know which one you are????
6) One pic of the match at a large family gathering--no caption and way too small to tell anything
7) Pics that are obviously way old or have another person (ex?) cropped away...except for his arm around her waist. That is your best effort??? Gee, I am sooo impressed!
8) Multiple pics with no variation in subject matter. I.e., a bunch of closeup shots that show nothing beneath the neck. Ladies, if you want to date someone, HE IS GOING TO SEE YOUR FIGURE/BODY so don't hide it! If he is not going to be attracted to you, wouldn't you just rather know that right away without wasting the time of either of you???

It really gets old. I don't understand why seemingly so many people pay for and join EH, but don't bother to make an effort to "advertise" themselves appropriately. It's sort of like handing out business cards that don't contain your full phone number!

I have come to regret my decision and now I'm stuck with the bill--I definitely won't be back after my current subscription expires....
- October 11th, 2009, 12:15 pm
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