passat1 is offline passat1 Post #1  August 2,2009, 2:37pm
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Very very often I got closed without ever getting an answer of the questions I sent. All conditions of good profile are fulfilled and pictures are posted. Yet more than 75%, do the instant close, without even taking in consideration looking at the profile whether is good or bad, pictures or no pictures etc. Excluding the non paid members of EH, (as it is understandable that they cant do anything unless they pay for the service), is it normal to be closed without reading at the profile first?
It seems like let's say you are preparing for an exam, you have read and studied for 1 year, and on the day of your exam or casting you get failed before even having opened your mouth? Just like in the American Idol show everyone is given the chance to perform and only after his performance is done is judged. No one is told before given a option to perform- Sorry but you got no talent. Related to this I wondered what the effect would be if close button occured later in the process of communication. Let's say for instance to be able to close match but only after you replied to the questions received. Better even if it occured just before/after you made it to open communication. To be closed without ever getting any kind of response is very much unfair. Would this lead to more communication or not?-excluding the unapid members. Does it make sense to wirte and update your profile when closing is rarely baased on what you said in the profile - the best reason for closure based on your reading the profile then will be: "based on statements in his profile...." Only occured 2-3 times out of 800 closures. Matches although having Premium Profiles hit close button very often without bothering to reply the questions and /or looking at the profile.

This I think would make more people reading profiles and do some active communication, rather then be like fast and furious to hit the Close button and without even bother reading the profile/s.
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FengShuiBlackBelt is offline FengShuiBlackBelt Post #2  August 2,2009, 4:59pm
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People are shallow. If they don't like your photo, they won't delve further. That's just the way life is.

I closed one match because she lived in a distant state. She requested that I re-open the match, which I did. Then she closed it again because she determined from glancing at my profile that there was "no chemistry". Go figure.
 
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passat1 wrote :
To be closed without ever getting any kind of response is very much unfair.
Dating isn't about being "fair", and eharmony makes no claim of changing the rules in that regard.

If everyone was obligated to talk to all their matches, far fewer people would use the service.
 
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