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lalawyergal is offline lalawyergal Post #1  August 1,2009, 3:46pm
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Hi all:
I am a EH newbie, having joined on Saturday evening. I did not have any photos up yet as I had to have EH's help in doing so.......and in the meantime, I had three matches close me because of having no photos. What's up with that?

Why not even a photo nudge?

The funny part is that I respond to all photo nudges right away and share my photos - or when I feel comfortable with the man who is writing in some cases at the very beginning - so why the hurry?

I am beginning to write those men off as impatient!

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I do this all the time. The main reason is this "insta-close" pattern is both efficient and correctable: If someone's in the position you are, and I tell you the only reason I'm closing is the photo thing, if you're interested in me presumably you'll write back to tell me the picture is up. It does happen.

Without any easy way of knowing if you're a new member, and with lots of other new matches to keep track of every day, this is a lot easier than trying to remember to check your profile again in 3 days to see if any photos have been added.

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It depends on what is in their profile. If someone takes the time to do a nice outline I may be more incline to respond. I have never nudged anyone for a picture, but I have closed people for not having one, particularly when they have very little written in their profile.

A few years ago I could understand if someone didn't have a picture, but with the price of digital cameras, cell phone cameras or even web cams, not having a picture on a date site just doesn't make a lot of sense.

There are those few exceptions where someone may want some level of anonymity, however you're on a dating site, make a little effort.
 
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Yes, friends, I committed the unpardonable sin of not having photos up bc eharmony was helping me upload them (guess they were too large for me to do myself) - and because I had not been on eharmony even 24 hours because I just joined.

I did write the "match closers" back to say my photos were up, but they never re-opened the matches. Their loss!

Give a person a break!
 
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Just have fun with it and don't take things to personally.
 
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I've had alot of matches close me because I haven't uploaded my photo yet. All I can say its their loss and someone else's gain, in the meantime I'm new to the site and I'm just checking things out.
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This is how it works for most, no photo or bad photos are automatic "close"
DeltaKing wrote :
I do this all the time. The main reason is this "insta-close" pattern is both efficient and correctable: If someone's in the position you are, and I tell you the only reason I'm closing is the photo thing, if you're interested in me presumably you'll write back to tell me the picture is up. It does happen.

Without any easy way of knowing if you're a new member, and with lots of other new matches to keep track of every day, this is a lot easier than trying to remember to check your profile again in 3 days to see if any photos have been added.

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fyi - going into my third month at EH and 8 out of 10 matches have no photos. And, most of those have one word answers on the profile. I can only assume that these are non-members doing the "view your matches for free" thing. Furthermore, I only get matches every other day or every two days instead of every day like at the beginning.

Anyone else experience this?
 
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carose wrote :
fyi - going into my third month at EH and 8 out of 10 matches have no photos. And, most of those have one word answers on the profile. I can only assume that these are non-members doing the "view your matches for free" thing. Furthermore, I only get matches every other day or every two days instead of every day like at the beginning.

Anyone else experience this?
When you first join the pool of existing matches is large and you will get more matches at the very beginning. However to be getting few matches for where you live seems a bit odd to me.
 
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I have photos posted and I won't initiate communication with someone who does not have a photo. I do send a photo nudge but rarely get a reply to that. I have even been closed because I sent a photo nudge.
 
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