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P17892 is offline P17892 Post #1  May 2,2008, 10:59pm
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Ack. I'm a bit mortified tonight. I was matched up with someone I already know in town. I feel so embarassed. I really never expected this to happen, and I'm feel well. Weird.

He closed me out, so I know he saw my profile.

Has this happened to any of you? and if so how did you handle it next time you saw that person. Did you just ignore it? Mention it? Bury your head in the sand?

One reason I like eharmoney over other sites is that you are matched and not on a general list for everyone to see. I guess I"m just a private person who wasn't expecting this.
 
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See, your attitude here baffles me. Why are you mortified?

I think it would be cool to be matched up withsomeone I know. Not only is it a great icebreaker, but it also suggests that maybe you two should have been looking at each other BEFORE Eharmony.
 
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So don't worry about it. He probablyfeels the same way - wondering what YOU are thinking... Next timeyou see him act totallynormal – no need to be awkward. You both are just looking for love… what’s wrong with that. Good Luck -

 
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The same thing happened to me, he closed me too. At first I was embarassed but now when i see him I hold my head high, ignore him and stick out my chest, ha ha.
 
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I've been matched with people whom I had dated before. It doesn't bother me, I just make sure I hit the 'close' button first and get to reject them this time around. Silly I know but it feels good for that brief moment. Then, I just go back to my life.
 
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ScottK,97221 wrote :

See, your attitude here baffles me. Why are you mortified?

I think it would be cool to be matched up withsomeone I know. Not only is it a great icebreaker, but it also suggests that maybe you two should have been looking at each other BEFORE Eharmony.


My attitude baffles me too :-). I have no idea why I feel so embarrassed. In an ideal world yes we should have clicked in real life, but that was NOT the case. He's really someone I know from an online community. We work in the same field, and turn to a local message board for networking and help with our businesses. I attended a workshop where he was present, and he knows a few folks I know. The first time i met him - I attempted to make small talk and be friendly. Yet, he was very rude and stand offish to me - I wrote him off long ago due to this.
 
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REPEAT AFTER ME, Being on EH does not make me a LOSER!
 
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The same thing happened to me, only I don't know if he knew it was me or not because you can't see my picture right away, but I could see his. It is someone I used to work with, and even though we were matched, I KNEW that he was not my type. I closed him out right away. I was embarrassed too, even though I haven't even seen him since this happened, which was a while ago. I wouldn't worry about it. He is probably embarrassed too! Plus, teena is right, you shouldn't be embarrassed about being on EH. And, you really can't be embarrassed by someone that is also on EH himself!

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I'm guessing from your post that you don't particularly like this other person. If you have to speak to him in the future and feel uncomfortable, you could always make a joke about which of the 29 dimensions you think you two matched up on!

I got matched with my cousin on another site. He didn't have a picture up yet but I knew it was him from his profile. So I emailed him and told him that, as much as I like him, the incest thing just doesn't do it for me. He couldn't believe I knew it was him, but he also found it amusing. You just never know about these things. A sense of humor works wonders if these kinds of awkward situations, in my view.
 
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Yes, it has happened to me. I was matched with one of my patients. I actually had to request to not be his nurse anymore because it was uncomfortable. The reason it was so uncomfortable was that his whole profile was basically a lie, I mean really big lies. I feel sorry for anyone who was matched up with him.
 
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