magilla1981 is offline magilla1981 Post #1  July 30,2009, 5:08pm
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I'm just wondering what people write in these, how many characters do you average, I feel like I should write a decent first letter, then just saying hey, but then the couple women who should have written me first letters write like nothing, as if they just want to throw the ball in my court. Thats so annoying I mean I write on average 4500 characters for each letter, and I get back letters which have little to nothing in them. Also what's appropriate to write in them, I think some of these woman are attractive but I hesitate to say "Hey I think your smokin hot" I guess I treat open communication as a way to get to know the girl. Then first dates I try to become prince charming, opening doors and telling her how beautiful she looks.
 
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Personally I keep the first email relatively short. Eventhough your profile gives information on who you are, what you like, etc.. I still do a formal greeting and introduce myself, give a little additional information about myself. Small talk subjects really.

From there I pick out a couple things about their profile which piqued my interest and give a question or 2 about them, but nothing overwhelming to answer.

After that email and response I then go an answer their questions and offer up a couple more. One match I had in open communication gave me a bunch of questions, when I got done answering them I believe I had written almost 8500 characters, oops

Of course that made a great topic for the next email and subsequent phone call
 
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I like to keep the first Open Communication fairly short. I will ask one or two questions such as how long have they lived in my city or related to their occupation.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I like to keep the first Open Communication fairly short. I will ask one or two questions such as how long have they lived in my city or related to their occupation.
This seems like a good thing to do, keep it short.
 
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I tend to keep mine fairly short. A little about myself and a few questions and build from there.
 
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Gosh, it looks like I'm in the minority here. My first communication normally consists of some of my background, i.e. where I was born and grew up, siblings, children, my interests, etc., followed by a few questions for the other person to answer. I think I would feel like there was little interest from the other person if I received a first communication that was only a few sentences. Then again, maybe I'm long winded???
 
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It really depends, some people love reading and writing. Some enjoy learning about some one this way , some don't like reading a long autobiography or resume. (More is not always better) You must enjoy writing, perhaps more so than your average match . Personally, I like to keep things succinct in writing. I also keep in mind that everything that is in writing is, well, is in writing. Also speaking on the phone is more of a two way conversation.
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I'm just wondering what people write in these, how many characters do you average, I feel like I should write a decent first letter, then just saying hey, but then the couple women who should have written me first letters write like nothing, as if they just want to throw the ball in my court. Thats so annoying I mean I write on average 4500 characters for each letter, and I get back letters which have little to nothing in them. Also what's appropriate to write in them, I think some of these woman are attractive but I hesitate to say "Hey I think your smokin hot" I guess I treat open communication as a way to get to know the girl. Then first dates I try to become prince charming, opening doors and telling her how beautiful she looks.
 
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