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chandracloud is offline chandracloud Post #1  July 29,2009, 9:37pm
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I am new to eharmony. Today someone fastracked me and asked for my email chat address. A bit scary since he knew which email provider I use but not my specific address. I was very uncomfortable. Does this commonly happen?
 
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If it is someone asking for your yahoo messenger address or something like that....I find people less than honest often use fastrack to start professing love and asking for too detailed info quickly.

There are good people that use fast track but just be careful. If you're not comfortable...slow it down til you are. /Don't give out personal info until you're ready to.

As for how often it happens...it's usually occasional...real model like photo...fast track...and usually bad english etc....just look for those types of warning signs with pressure for lots of details.

There's not any way they can find your address through eharmony unless you give it to them. So just use the chat system there until you trust any match. If you have doubts that someone isn't looking for love but other reasons...report them to eharmony.
 
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If it is someone asking for your yahoo messenger address or something like that....I find people less than honest often use fastrack to start professing love and asking for too detailed info quickly.

There are good people that use fast track but just be careful. If you're not comfortable...slow it down til you are. /Don't give out personal info until you're ready to.

As for how often it happens...it's usually occasional...real model like photo...fast track...and usually bad english etc....just look for those types of warning signs with pressure for lots of details.

There's not any way they can find your address through eharmony unless you give it to them. So just use the chat system there until you trust any match. If you have doubts that someone isn't looking for love but other reasons...report them to eharmony.
Yes indeed to this.
 
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Unless there is something in your profile that indicates what your e-mail provider they would not get it from eHarmony.

If they were asking for a Yahoo! IM address they could have just assumed that you have a Yahoo! account because so many people do both on eHarmony and in general. This would go for any of the common free e-mail and IM services.

While safety and caution cannot be stressed enough it could be that you are getting paranoid for no reason and that the guy really does not know who your e-mail provider is.
 
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chandracloud wrote :
I am new to eharmony. Today someone fastracked me and asked for my email chat address. A bit scary since he knew which email provider I use but not my specific address. I was very uncomfortable. Does this commonly happen?
Well, as I think others have inferred, people do ask for chat IDs, and you'll just have to decide if you want to communicate via Fast Track and direct to chat.

Maybe I'm out of the loop, but I think AIM, MSN and Yahoo are still the main places for IM chat, so it's probably not unusual for somebody to name their preferred chat host and guess the same one that you're on.
 
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Did he just coincidentally mention the one you are on, such as "hey, what's your Yahoo, AOL etc."?, maybe it's whatever he's on. Guys who want to be in chat rooms and cell phone texting all the time are not usually looking for a real relationship.
Now, more to the point....are you on eHarmony to be in a chat/ text relationship?
Don't give this guy any info, unless that's what you want. Let him give you a real email address and phone number, if he doesn't, all he wants is chat/ text...which often means...married and playing around online.
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I am new to eharmony. Today someone fast track me and asked for my email chat address. A bit scary since he knew which email provider I use but not my specific address. I was very uncomfortable. Does this commonly happen?
 
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Did he just coincidentally mention the one you are on, such as "hey, what's your Yahoo, AOL etc."?, maybe it's whatever he's on. Guys who want to be in chat rooms and cell phone texting all the time are not usually looking for a real relationship.
Now, more to the point....are you on eHarmony to be in a chat/ text relationship?
Don't give this guy any info, unless that's what you want. Let him give you a real email address and phone number, if he doesn't, all he wants is chat/ text...which often means...married and playing around online.
Would this apply to women also?

I do have to disagree with this statement. Also why should it always be the guy that has to put his information up front. If I share my personal e-mail and / or phone number I expect it to be an equal sharing of information. If a girl does not also share her phone number when I give her mine she is getting closed. Had too many that did not want to be my equal in this area and it causes problems, just not interested.
 
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Yes, goes both ways. Plenty of lonely women in relationships who do this as well, which is why I suggested the test to see if he comes forth with real info. The wait to share real info was for her particular concern,.....how did he get the chat address info?. Was not debating who should disclose what first in most cases.
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Would this apply to women also?

I do have to disagree with this statement. Also why should it always be the guy that has to put his information up front. If I share my personal e-mail and / or phone number I expect it to be an equal sharing of information. If a girl does not also share her phone number when I give her mine she is getting closed. Had too many that did not want to be my equal in this area and it causes problems, just not interested.
 
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thanks for the advice - the person must have been phishing sp? around he is no longer on eharmony. I agree - I am here to find someone committed to similar goals - a long term relationship after safely getting to know them. It seems that is the most common goal.
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