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thisguy86 is offline thisguy86 Post #1  July 29,2009, 9:09am
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On eHarmony, I once read a tip that went "Don't close your matches without communicating with them first" but that's exactly what girls have been doing to me! They just click close without answering my questions! It makes me so mad!
 
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Don't be mad, it hapeens, it's all part of life

I get close as well from guys without communicating, that is how it works, just hang in there, there will be someone that won't close you very soon.

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When that situation occurs, it just means the match wasn't "the one for you". It's a part of the process. Don't concern yourself with it too much...just close those that closed on you and move on. There will be a match worthy of you down the road
 
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It happens all the time, read the reasons for closing...is it always to far, no photo,that will give some feedback. Copy and paste your profile for review, so you can see how others see it. Also review your matching criteria, distance likes dislikes, etc.
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On eHarmony, I once read a tip that went "Don't close your matches without communicating with them first" but that's exactly what girls have been doing to me! They just click close without answering my questions! It makes me so mad!
 
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I had a guy close me just as soon as we were matched. As his reason, he put "Other". Why is that even an option??? I was ticked!

I have closed out a few people upon being matched, but only because there was something there I just couldn't live with, and I've tried to at least give them the most applicable reason I can give. For instance, I closed out a guy with FOUR kids. I mean, don't get me wrong, one kid is ok, but FOUR! I am just not that much of a kid person, and I could see right away that this would not only keep him from being a good match for me, it would keep me from being a good match for him. For a reason, I picked family backgrounds. I closed out another guy who was newly sober. I just got out of a relationship with an bad alcoholic, so it's a real hot button issue for me, recovering or not.

I really am not just doing it for me, I'm doing it for them as well. I don't wish any of these men ill, but I don't want to waste their time. Or mine. I hope all of them find someone right for them.

The best advice is don't take it personally. You only want to comm with people who want to comm with you!
 
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I've just returned to eHarmony after 5 years. Yes. I have been closed on a lot in one week. I took it personally at first until I realized my purpose for being on this site is to find a lifelong mate. They were'nt the ones. I have closed out matches I reached out to after a 7 day nonresponse from the men. They missed out on a great woman!
 
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thisguy86 wrote :
On eHarmony, I once read a tip that went "Don't close your matches without communicating with them first" but that's exactly what girls have been doing to me! They just click close without answering my questions! It makes me so mad!
Haven't you seen women that you know you aren't attracted to, so communicating with them would be pointless?
 
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My favorite close was this guy who closed me when he read my profile / saw my picture - no communication requested - and checked "no chemistry"
Like how would you know that?! He must be pretty darn intuitive!
 
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carose wrote :
My favorite close was this guy who closed me when he read my profile / saw my picture - no communication requested - and checked "no chemistry"
Like how would you know that?! He must be pretty darn intuitive!

Unfortunately, I think that's EH-speak for "I don't think you're attractive." I try not to take it personally.
 
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carose wrote :
My favorite close was this guy who closed me when he read my profile / saw my picture - no communication requested - and checked "no chemistry"
Like how would you know that?! He must be pretty darn intuitive!
Hahaha, I've also gotten that one a few times, and it always makes me laugh.
 
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