bclfgrd2 is offline bclfgrd2 Post #1  July 28,2009, 10:33am
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Hey all - first time poster! I had actually registered awhile ago, but for some reason, always met with some errors when I tried posting.

Anyway, to the question at hand. I recently got to open communication with a match. She had started contact, so she sent the first message. She had plenty to say (in a good way, it sounded like she was interested) and finished by giving me her email address, saying that she checked that more often. Since she did, I emailed her directly in response, instead of sending her an email through eHarmony. It's now been two days, and I haven't gotten any response from her.

I know some people have their own response times and such, but since I didn't message her back through the site, I'm wondering if I should maybe send a short message, just saying that I emailed her, in case somehow it went to spam or something? What do you guys think? I don't want to be pushy or anything, and I am very interested in getting to know this woman some more, so I don't want to lose my chance because of some potential hiccup in technology.

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I would send a message on EH saying that you sent her an email. It is possible it got sent to spam or you mistyped her address.
 
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Thanks for the response. I shot her a short message saying that. Now, only time'll tell!
 
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I say yes...try again...it probably did go to spam if its a new address...
I never check my spam, until this wk...& saw that I had gotten something from EH that went to spam...Who knows may have lost my prince...LOL SURE hope not.
 
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Maybe she did get your message. Maybe she didn't...
Electronic communication is great, but has a lot of glitch potential.

Do you have her number by any chance, so that you can give her a quick call to confirm that she really is *getting* your message, loud and clear?

I know it sounds unconventional, but that's what I would do at this stage. Just to be sure...
 
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Joyce: lol, yeah, that's exactly what I'm afraid of.

IceCreamMoon: No, I don't have her number yet. We had only just gotten to open communication the other day Sunday. She gave me her email address because she said she checks it more often. I know it's only been two days, but if she wasn't planning on communicating too quickly (and hey, that's fine, everyone has their own timeline), then why would she give me her email? Ah, tricky stuff.

Thanks for the responses, guys!
 
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I've just posted something similiar to this.I'm almost totally convinced after hours of reading post's even from way back that theres something going on here.I had almost the exact same thing happen to me four times now.I was given an email by one of my matches a few days ago and still I dont hear from her.I've seen this on both sides,women have had the exact same post as well,they get to the open communication stage then all of the sudden they just vanish or you rarely ever hear from them.
 
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Oh,and you will never get a phone number offered to you.At least that's been the case for me.I get the eery feeling that some of these people dont really exist.I know now I'm not the only one this happens to.
 
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I don't know if this is considered taboo or not but at the very end I put:

FYI: If for some reason you choose to head strait to the close button please do me a favor? Tell me why.

This way I know what I did wrong and won't repeat it and can learn from my mistakes. I have not yet had this utilized for I am in the beginning of my first OC in which I included that and am waiting for a response.

I will update if something happings in accordance to the FYI.
 
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