PR_Princess is offline PR_Princess Post #1  July 26,2009, 7:21am
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I recently got a match who did not fully answer all his about me questions. What he had to say so far interested me so I prompted him through an icebreaker to finish. When I see his about me page again he has filled in the missing info and they "just happened" to fit my interests. So my question is...do I close or not? Obviously he seems eager to please but then again are his answers reflective of the real him? What would you do?
 
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"Just happened" is the key term there. Some questions I would ask is are these interests more uncommon than common? For example I have an interest in basket weaving versus I have an interest in travel?

If the uncommon ones pop up I would be hesitant on the profile, but if they are more common ones I would be ok with that.

It could be that he was still in the process of filling out his profile. It took me 2 days to completely fill out mine, and that first day all of my matches closed me haha!

Did he include a picture on his profile? Did he respond to your icebreaker? If it were me I would have responded to the icebreaker.
 
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What makes you think he is out to please you? I'm certain you are not his only match. Anyway, if you are interested then communicate. You really can't get to know someone based on a profile.
 
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How do you know that these aren't really his interests?
 
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What's the harm in keeping the match open and meeting him?
 
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I think Renee said it best in “point 2” of her article:

http://advice.eharmony.com/article/using-eharmony-5-must-read-tips.html
 
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PR_Princess wrote :
I recently got a match who did not fully answer all his about me questions. What he had to say so far interested me so I prompted him through an icebreaker to finish. When I see his about me page again he has filled in the missing info and they "just happened" to fit my interests. So my question is...do I close or not? Obviously he seems eager to please but then again are his answers reflective of the real him? What would you do?



I would Communicate at least once with him. You asked him to finish, and he did. You really have nothing to lose at this point; you can always Close him later if you're not comfortable.

I would assume his missing info "just happened" to be his real interests. It's not a big conspiracy.

Then again, it could be "magic". That would be a good thing! You never know...
 
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I agree with others, it's worth communicating with him to see where it goes. I used to fairly regularly close profiles that seemed sparse, but now I try to at least initially give matches the benefit of the doubt. I still would prefer more detailed profiles, but those don't come my way often enough.
 
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Have to admit that I was having a tough time filling out my profile and was kind of glib with a few of my answers. At one point I put under "What are 5 things you can't live without" as water.. anyhoo...low and behold under his section he puts I love water...I drink it all day long. I have changed my profile since then as I have more seriously considered continuing my subscription and see the potential here. Hmmm, I think my real reservation is attracting a mature male who already knows who he is and what he wants and needs. I'm way past that self-discovery phase. Based on your responses maybe I won't be so willing to click that close button....
 
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PR_Princess wrote :
Have to admit that I was having a tough time filling out my profile and was kind of glib with a few of my answers. At one point I put under "What are 5 things you can't live without" as water.. anyhoo...low and behold under his section he puts I love water...I drink it all day long. I have changed my profile since then as I have more seriously considered continuing my subscription and see the potential here. Hmmm, I think my real reservation is attracting a mature male who already knows who he is and what he wants and needs. I'm way past that self-discovery phase. Based on your responses maybe I won't be so willing to click that close button....
"Water, I drink it all day long", aha, great.
 
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