Why do I get all the overweight women as matches?


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domah is offline domah Post #1  July 26,2009, 2:31am
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C'mon eHarmony.. I'm paying for what? To have 5 matches a day, all of whom are overweight? I can filter on personality traits.. I can even filter on height, but where is the weight filter?
 
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Welcome to the club!

I've written this up for EH a couple of times. If we're allowed to say that we worship cats and only will date cat worshipers, why are we not allowed to each self-select our own body type, and then be allowed to filter matches based on this?

Just be happy that they have accurate pictures and you were able to close them immediately. The really sad story (for both sides) is when you work all the way through the EH process to maybe meeting and THEN find out that their weight is likely to be a complete show stopper.
 
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BlueLady2 is offline BlueLady2 Post #3  July 26,2009, 9:35pm
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Alrighty then, how much do you weigh? Is that something you really worry about? Aren't we a tad on the vain side?
 
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What age range are your matches?
 
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waltercl wrote :
What age range are your matches?
why does that matter?
 
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JoeB1901 is offline JoeB1901 Post #6  July 26,2009, 10:29pm
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Weight isn't vanity, it could be a valid health issue. Overweight people in general are less attractive. If you aren't physically attracted to someone, then you can't be in a physical relationship?

Age is important. Weight tends to go up with age.
 
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JoeB1901 wrote :
Weight isn't vanity, it could be a valid health issue. Overweight people in general are less attractive. If you aren't physically attracted to someone, then you can't be in a physical relationship?

Age is important. Weight tends to go up with age.
True, there are exceptions of course, but these women also deserve some love!
 
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domah wrote :
C'mon eHarmony.. I'm paying for what? To have 5 matches a day, all of whom are overweight? I can filter on personality traits.. I can even filter on height, but where is the weight filter?
It is okay when a woman closes out a guy for being bald or short (things a guy has no control over), but it is baaaaaaaad if a guy doesn't want to be matched with someone who eats too much and refuses to exercise.
 
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domah wrote :
C'mon eHarmony.. I'm paying for what? To have 5 matches a day, all of whom are overweight? I can filter on personality traits.. I can even filter on height, but where is the weight filter?
What, do you think you are better than these women? Do you honestly think you can do better ? I myself am obese and my last two relationships were with overweight women. I think it would be very unrealistic and immature on my part to expect a supermodel thin woman when I am obese and don't work out a whole lot.

If you are not overweight, maybe you just are not the best looking guy appearance-wise - deal with it. No big deal and life goes on. We are all dealth different hands and we have to play them the best we can. For me, my overweightness is due to bad eating habits and lack of exercise. I am fortunate enough where I still can lose weight. At the same time there is an obesity gene in my family, so I will have to work harder to lose weight and keep it off. But that was the hand dealt to me and I am dealing with it.

If you are truely a great looking, fit guy making lots of money , then you have a right to gripe. But its hard for me to believe that a complete stud would not be getting thin and fit women reponding to their profile, too.

Maybe what you need to to analyze and work on yourself more. Figure out one or two core things about yourself you could definitely improve, and go work on it. Or else just focus on your strengths and be happy and confident and just make the best of it.
 
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