Why do I get all the overweight women as matches?


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Carolinianjeff is offline Carolinianjeff Post #11  July 27,2009, 4:18am
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> C'mon eHarmony.. I'm paying for what? To have 5
> matches a day, all of whom are overweight?

I get lots of really attractive matches, despite the fact that I have no strong preferences in the size department beyond "generally healthy". Maybe something about your personality makes you only compatible with overweight women?

Try retaking the test while being a good person; it might fix your problem.
 
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JoeB1901 wrote :
Weight isn't vanity, it could be a valid health issue.
Are you saying that people with health issues don't deserve to find someone?

Besides ... I prefer a woman with a little bit of meat on her bones, rather than some anorexic specimen that they try to pass off as "sexy" nowadays. Personally, I'd rather have someone soft and feminine to snuggle up next to And you know what they say about a bigger cushion? Well ... I won't go there (at least not with the moderators around).
 
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They aren't being matched up with you on looks, they are being matched up on personality. If you don't have an interest in them, just close them, no need to gripe about it.
 
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domah wrote :
C'mon eHarmony.. I'm paying for what? To have 5 matches a day, all of whom are overweight? I can filter on personality traits.. I can even filter on height, but where is the weight filter?

What if the lady in question was, like me, losing weight at a rate of 1-2 lbs a week but chose not to disclose that on her profile? I know you "have heard that before", but in my case it's pretty simple: this is the second time in my life (and final) that I decide to and actually do lose weight. 27 lbs later (started losing in April) I am well on my way to a healthy target weight.

However, I do recognize that many men have no patience when it comes to this. Honestly, I don't expect a guy to wait around until I finish losing all of it to find me attractive. My best features are well beyond my skin, and my guy will be attracted to me body, mind and soul.

Just close them out and hope for the best. Worry not, there are plenty of fish in the eHarmony sea!!

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I agree close it out and move on. But for the person that said....."Overweight people in general are less attractive"............wow. Must say that I dont agree with that one. So I have more weight on me but I dare anyone to tell me that I'm not cute! Lol I dont think you can say that overweight people arent attractive because there are many things that contribute to a persons attractiveness. Because someone is thin they suddenly are beautiful? I think not and can give you some examples of the skinny that aint that nice.......
 
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rix wrote :
Are you saying that people with health issues don't deserve to find someone?

Besides ... I prefer a woman with a little bit of meat on her bones, rather than some anorexic specimen that they try to pass off as "sexy" nowadays. Personally, I'd rather have someone soft and feminine to snuggle up next to And you know what they say about a bigger cushion? Well ... I won't go there (at least not with the moderators around).
I prefer a girl with a little meat, but that doesn't mean she is "overweight". Meat, and obese, are 2 different things. I wouldn't classify a girl as overweight until she is actually obese, and not slightly chunky. At that point, it is a valid health issue.
 
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Mayne wrote :
It is okay when a woman closes out a guy for being bald or short (things a guy has no control over), but it is baaaaaaaad if a guy doesn't want to be matched with someone who eats too much and refuses to exercise.
did anyone say it was "okay" to close a guy for being too short or bald.
If the poor guy is short, bald and fat, I am sure it's got to be a lot tougher for them! Danny Devito found someone though and Rhea Perlman is not fat either!

It is simply personal preferences. You can't force someone to like a heavier person if that is not their taste. Boy this dead horse has sure been beaten a lot.
 
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I mean are we talking cushin for the pushin, or obese like Della Reese? I mean I'm 6'2 and a heavy powerlifter for years, yet ive dated women who weigh 160 lbs less than me, small petite 5 feet 100 lbs soaking wet women...yet id date a woman who was 5'7 175 just as easy. Its the person not the capsule.
 
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funnyengineergal wrote :

However, I do recognize that many men have no patience when it comes to this. Honestly, I don't expect a guy to wait around until I finish losing all of it to find me attractive. My best features are well beyond my skin, and my guy will be attracted to me body, mind and soul.

Yes ... And there is also a double-standard involved. Guys who are not exactly perfect physical specimens themselves expecting to find a pin-up gal. Also, if a person expects to find such an "ideal," they need to go out and find it on their own. If they are relying on someone else to fix them up, eHarmony included, chances are ... they will not get the pick of the litter. Therefore, the OP cannot rightfully blame eHarmony for not fixing them up with Miss July!

However, such an obsession reflects shallowness. And if the purpose is truly "compatability," then beauty is also more than skin deep.
 
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Icouldwriteabook wrote :

Boy this dead horse has sure been beaten a lot.

Yes ... the carcass has long been in a state of decomposition!
 
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