passat1 is offline passat1 Post #1  July 22,2009, 9:09pm
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Eharmnoy is setting up matches! Is it True or False?
Monday morning, I received 3 matches all of whom replied to the communications request and brought it to 3 rd level (before reaching open communication).
Wednesday night all 3 matches closed for: I am pursuing another relationship.
So yes, can you believe it that those were not set up matches?
My membership is set to expire next month and they (EH) are pushing me hard to squeeze more money. They may see none of it.
I am giving the money, and I decide!

P.S. The following is a quote from Kate form another threat:
"Also, remember that by design, eHarmony is an elimination process. So if you can help it at all, don’t take getting closed personally. Ultimately, the goal is to close every match but one".
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #2  July 22,2009, 9:57pm
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My membership expires next week, and I've gotten more matches in the past week than I have in the past two months combined. The quality of matches isn't any better, but the quantity had picked up.
 
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TallGuy65 is offline TallGuy65 Post #3  July 22,2009, 10:31pm
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When I was a member I recall things going somewhat like this:

1. Big push at the beginning...which is when your profile is initially matched against everybody in the system based on your prefs.

2. Small pushes here and there, depending on the frequency of people joining, your prefs, and whether you allow the eH matching time frame to work its cycle or you shortened it by being impatient and constantly clicking to search for new matches.

3. Larger pushes on free-weekends or large advert drives (in which case alot of times I would turn my matching off so as to avoid getting the freebie matches who would never subsribe or respond to communications).

4. As my subscription was ending, I think I don't recall picking up any more matches than at previous times, but by then I had already made my prefs more rigid and was about to stop matching, because I didn't want to do the disservice of getting matched with someone and then not be able to communicate (my little do unto others rule).

Anyway, that's my little $0.02 take on it...

And in regards to the I am pursuing another relationship reasoning, I am guilty of having used that when I had been delivered a few too many matches and was trying to limit my communication stages. Perhaps I closed someone that way that I really should have been talking to. Who really knows. Doors open and doors close. Sometimes by others and sometimes by us.

If you desire, take a small break and don't renew your subscription right away. Don't feel that any matches you receive close to the end are teasers to get you to renew. As you said, it is your wallet, so you decide.

For me, at this point, I am still happy raising my teens...there's still plenty of time after high school for me to hop in my Winnebago and drive cross country...either solo or with someone by my side... Best of luck to you in whichever path you decide to take.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #4  July 23,2009, 5:33am
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Both Kate and Renee have said numerous times, that EHarmony does NOT hold back matches until the end of your subscription.

They have also said they do NOT make fake Matches to try to persuade people to rejoin/keep paying for their membership.

And I believe them.

If EH memberships were high hundreds/thousands of dollars, I would definitely think differently.
There, they would want to do ANYTHING to keep you paying.

But since we can get deals for 10-20 bucks a month, the time and effort involved in sending fake Matches to us, and have them respond just isn't worth the money.
(Yeah, yeah, they could have a bot/program do it, but I just don't see it)

They have enough people joining and paying full price that I just don't believe need to resort to such chicanery.
 
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That's why eHarmony sent me a model for a match yesterday ... my subscription expires tomorrow.

Next time, I suggest they move her a hundred miles closer.

More seriously though, my matches often come in spurts (often after a weekend: Mondays, and more so after a free weekend). It's no surprise that more people sign up on weekends. I don't see a pattern in you getting matches a month before your subscription ends. What would they do with people who subscribe for only one month?
 
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I really don't think there is any conspiracy with EH.

All EH does is match you with people. What those people do is not something that EH can control. While it may be frustrating to you that people do not respond, respond and suddenly close you out, come in batches or not at all.....well....that' all life. It can be frustrating but that's life too. People are not obligated to do anything with you just because you show up as one of their matches.

The reality is that your matches are live human beings, leading active lives, going out, dating, etc. It is not unreasonable at all to be suddenly closed out for "pursuing another relationship" because that actually happens. The thing is that since you are getting many matches from all over, it is statistically probable to get hit with those kinds of clusters.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I really don't think there is any conspiracy with EH.

All EH does is match you with people. What those people do is not something that EH can control. While it may be frustrating to you that people do not respond, respond and suddenly close you out, come in batches or not at all.....well....that' all life. It can be frustrating but that's life too. People are not obligated to do anything with you just because you show up as one of their matches.

The reality is that your matches are live human beings, leading active lives, going out, dating, etc. It is not unreasonable at all to be suddenly closed out for "pursuing another relationship" because that actually happens. The thing is that since you are getting many matches from all over, it is statistically probable to get hit with those kinds of clusters.
Obviously nobody got the point. How come in last 6 months there were 0 initiating comminication probably all non-payers) and suddenly I got 3 who replied on the questions sent? Can't you see that those matches were hold back and when I got matched to them, turned out they are all pursuing another relationships. Ya -you think if I joined today I will be that lucky to pursue my relationship already?
 
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passat1 wrote :
Obviously nobody got the point. How come in last 6 months there were 0 initiating comminication probably all non-payers) and suddenly I got 3 who replied on the questions sent? to them, turned out Can't you see that those matches were hold back and when I got matched they are all pursuing another relationships. Ya -you think if I joined today I will be that lucky to pursue my relationship already?



I'm afraid I didn't get your point either.

But I do believe a person will believe whatever it is they choose to believe. If you're looking for a conspiracy, I think you can find one. Whether or not it really exists is quite another thing entirely!

I also think you had your mind made up before you even bothered to ask anybody else's opinion.
 
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i didn't get a huge rush of matches when my subscription was about to end.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i didn't get a huge rush of matches when my subscription was about to end.
Nor did I. I was expecting it, frankly, because I'd heard it so many times on this site. There were a couple more than was typical, but "the big rush" didn't fully materialize......I renewed, met my now-fiance on another site 4 weeks later, and turned matching off for the last 2 of my 3 month subscription..
 
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