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I was wondering if there is any consensus here on the significance of a person keeping the match open after the first meeting/date. Does that mean he/she is interested in being contacted again for a second date, or have you been unable to detect any rhyme or reason regarding matches that are left open?
- July 22nd, 2009, 12:50 am
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I keep all matches open with whom I am communicating. I am communicating with more than one currently and I like to go back and read the details of our email conversations and refamiliarize myself with their profiles.
- July 22nd, 2009, 06:13 am
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Don't read anything into it because there is no rhyme or reason. If you are interested, then call her and if not move on. If she is interested she'll call you back and if not she won't. Whatever you do, don't wait for her to contact you first.
- July 22nd, 2009, 06:13 am
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I keep matches open that I am communicating with no matter what stage that may be. That could even be that we have been on 10 or 20 dates. I may want to review some point in their profile, answers to questions, MHCS or soemthing in Open Communication. Being able to go back and review is one of the reasons that i would prefer to use e-mail for the exchange of information rather than the phone. It give a record of what they answered and when you are communicating with more than one person it helps to be able to go back and review.
- July 22nd, 2009, 07:27 am
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DancingFool wrote :
Don't read anything into it because there is no rhyme or reason. If you are interested, then call her and if not move on. If she is interested she'll call you back and if not she won't. Whatever you do, don't wait for her to contact you first.
Excellent advice, DancingFool! Many members tend to be passive about closing matches (regardless of communication stage), and the only way to find out where your match is really at is to communicate and find out. You have nothing to lose.

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- July 22nd, 2009, 12:17 pm
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