Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  July 19,2009, 9:38pm
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I got an Ice Breaker from someone who does not show up on my "looked at you" list.

How is that possible? Doesn't someone have to look at your profile before sending an Ice Breaker? If not, they should have to!
 
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CA_Gal_2009 is offline CA_Gal_2009 Post #2  July 19,2009, 9:57pm
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Do you have any anonymous views? It is possible to set it up so that you don't show up on someone's list, rather you show up as an anonymous view. If you scroll down to the bottom of the 'who's viewed' list, there is usually a line that says something like '10 anonymous views in the past 2 weeks' or something like that. So if you show even one anonymous view, it could be that person has their account set up that way and that is how they viewed your profile.
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #3  July 19,2009, 9:58pm
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This is one I can actually answer, even without having my Matches turned on!

Under "My Settings" then "Basic Preferences" then "Profile"
you can "Show my views as anonymous views"
then "Save".

Now you, too, can sneak in there undercover!
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #4  July 19,2009, 10:22pm
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No. Look, maybe Ice Breaker was their coded way of saying that they would like to share some Ice Cream with you, without ever needing to look at you in "profile"?

All a matter of perspective, from the Friendly Loving Moon
 
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Anytime a communication is sent the person will not show up as having viewed you but will show up as having sent a communication. An IceBreaker is considered a communication.
 
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I should also point out that if a guy sent you an IceBreaker instead of sending First Questions then he is a loser or a non-paying member.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I should also point out that if a guy sent you an IceBreaker instead of sending First Questions then he is a loser or a non-paying member.
Dude, you're gettin' tough in your old age.
 
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Comedian is offline Comedian Post #8  July 20,2009, 4:29pm
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So, sending an IceBreaker is not a good idea? I've been using them to signal interest, but not be pushy. Should I go straight to questions? I do not View anonymously, so the man should be able to tell I've looked at him.
(In my youth, 'ladies' did not ask men out. Of course, I've been asking men out for years, so I guess I am not a 'lady!')
 
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Comedian wrote :
So, sending an IceBreaker is not a good idea? I've been using them to signal interest, but not be pushy. Should I go straight to questions? I do not View anonymously, so the man should be able to tell I've looked at him.
(In my youth, 'ladies' did not ask men out. Of course, I've been asking men out for years, so I guess I am not a 'lady!')
If you're paying for the service, take full advantage of it and send questions. Many men on here have said that they don't mind having a woman initiate and many welcome it. I can't recall any ever saying that would be an instant close.
 
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