Stay At Home Mom...Good or Bad??


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Teacherman25 is offline Teacherman25 Post #1  July 19,2009, 10:19am
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I was wondering if anyone thinks its a good/bad idea to put occupation as "stay at home mom or homemaker" in their profile. Not to knock stay at home moms...my mom was one and it made all the difference for my brother and I growing up. But, my dad supported us, so my thoughts on this are two things...1) Who is paying the bills...it looks bad if you are still totally dependent on your parents for everything.....2) Is the woman looking for a man to come in and pay all of her bills even from the start?

All I am saying is that is seems a little odd to me that single ladies can be stay at home moms without it reflecting poorly in their profile.

The only plus I can see is that they really love their children and that usually means that a woman is going to be good with family life..

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I can think of a few circumstances in which a woman can be single and a stay-at-home mom. Perhaps she divorced an exceedingly rich man, or her own family had money that she could use. It's also possible she planned it this way by working hard and saving for this time of her life (like I'm doing now that I'm single). I guess it's all about not judging too quickly based on "superficial" facts and getting to know the person behind the letters. If only people did that a bit more, I'm sure we'd all be complaining a LOT less about the quantity of communication we're getting, or aren't...

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I certainly think that you make some valid points, but I really doubt that a 23 mother of two who is single did a lot of planning for these circumstances. Not that it would matter to me. In my match settings, I have checked that kids are fine. I guess my main question is how in the world are there SO many of these "girls" that aren't working.

Ok...I get it....yes...some of them might have married rich. Some might have planned....some may even have family money...but if we look at it logistically for a second...there is no way that all of these women fall into one of those three...

I get around 10-15 matches a day and out of those.....7 or 8 are stay at home moms.... I don't think there are that many rich people in the world looking for LOVE.....HAHAHA
 
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Ah!! Yes!! I neglected to factor in the age range... In that case, I'd say you should look for non-moms... At your age a girl with two children already might mean she's not too savvy about planning ahead for the future! Either that, or she didn't pay much attention on sex ed...

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The only important question here is do YOU want a mate who will be a stay-at-home mom? If not, it's best to close these.

As to who's paying the bills, especially for young stay-at-home moms? That's not too hard to figure out. Unless the daddy is paying generous (more than required by law) child support or her family is subsidizing her, in most cases the government (meaning you and me - taxpayers) is paying the bills.
 
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Or it could be the husband died and left a large life insurance policy. Or there was a wrongful death settlement somewhere. Either of those could carry a young family several years...

I agree it's better to focus on whether you yourself could accept a ready-made family.
 
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While being a "stay at home mom" is an option I'd want for my spouse, I agree that it's a bit of a red flag in a single person on a dating site. But it does suggest a need for follow-up to find out what she means by the term and how she's managing it. It could be that she means that her motherhood is her top priority and she works off hours to maximize time with her kids. Or it could mean she's just looking for a provider for her chosen lifestyle.

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You want them to write “welfare queen?”
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[quote=D_Lion;679542]You want them to write “welfare queen?”
 
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Out of context quote!

Do you have a suggestion for what they should write in the "occupation" field?
 
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