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pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #1  July 19,2009, 10:07am
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I have re-opened closed matches on occasion when it's been requested, but I have never myself requested to re-open a closed match. [Although twice I did try to have matches re-opened which I had closed myself.]
In any case it never went beyond OC.

All I have read in the posts is that re-opened matches have never led to anything, often not even any kind of response if you have been the one re-opening. I was wondering if you or your match ever re-opened a closed match and it led to at least one date.
 
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Latest update: I reopened two matches in the last week or so. On one I was waiting for her MH/CS, for the other the answers to my first questions. Both closed ME last night after making me wait several days, the former for chemistry, the latter for my profile. You've got to love it.
 
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You never really lose out by re-opening a closed profile. I re-opened a close profile 2 months ago, went through guided comm., met in person, no chemistry, closed 2 days later. But what if there was chemistry, I would have missed out. It is good to explore ALL compatible matches otherwise you are wasting your money and time online dating.
 
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Tank wrote :
You never really lose out by re-opening a closed profile. I re-opened a close profile 2 months ago, went through guided comm., met in person, no chemistry, closed 2 days later. But what if there was chemistry, I would have missed out. It is good to explore ALL compatible matches otherwise you are wasting your money and time online dating.
Hi All,

I couldn't have said it better myself, Tank!

After all, you never know what might happen if you re-open a match. However, you do know what will happen of you don't -- Nothing!

Also, keep in mind that you are looking for The One. Therefore, I encourage you not to assume that a match will behave a certain way based on the behavior of previous matches -- even if most behave that way! Don't let the behavior of matches who aren't The One, keep you from, as Tank said, from "exploring" matches who may be. Each match is unique, and, if the Right One asks you to re-open communication, you don't want to say "no," do you, just because other matches didn't work out?

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Renee, I never said I would stop re-opening matches, in fact in my update I mentioned two I had done very recently. I was just curious if anyone had gotten anything positive out of doing so. Interestingly this thread has gotten almost 200 views and Tank was the only one to add anything positive. All the non-comments have made my point.
 
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I have only had one match request that I re-open after I closed for lack of her communicating.

She said that she had a death in the family and that was what prevented her communicating. We completed GC and exchanged a number of messages in OC after which she poofed. I closed her again for lack of communication and never heard from her again.
 
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I re-opened one,, attempted communication and never heard a thing,, so I doubt I will try again.

I hate rejection , even subtle forms of it. Hahaha!
 
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pussinboots wrote :
I have re-opened closed matches on occasion when it's been requested, but I have never myself requested to re-open a closed match. [Although twice I did try to have matches re-opened which I had closed myself.]
In any case it never went beyond OC.

All I have read in the posts is that re-opened matches have never led to anything, often not even any kind of response if you have been the one re-opening. I was wondering if you or your match ever re-opened a closed match and it led to at least one date.
When I first joined eHarmony I met a girl I was matched with for a dinner date, who I initially closed after she took too long to respond then re-opened. But it didn't go far, she was a bit of a dud in person.
 
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