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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #1  July 17,2009, 2:32pm
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I mean the ones that are sent in email to you with "Good Luck with your Search" junk?

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Meh. It's just a formality to wish them good luck. It's not as if the canned messages come close to what you'd really say anyhow.
 
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Personally I do send the "good luck" final message to each guy who closes me. Why be rude when it's just as simple not to be? I think the extra good karma I accumulate by doing this will, in time, return to me!!

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I think you should be able to respond in your own words...something like Hey moron, if the distance is a problem , go back and choose local or indicate certain states. Or I don't think the chemistry is there? What a crock...how can you possible decide that from a photo and a profile? Or my favorite Based on something in their profile.......at least let a person expand on that....too self centered, don't like kids, would never date a person who has 12 photos all holding fish. I guess that would open up the field for someone to put something truthful if they did allow comments. Like Man you look really OLD for a 30 year old..
 
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Personally I do send the "good luck" final message to each guy who closes me. Why be rude when it's just as simple not to be? I think the extra good karma I accumulate by doing this will, in time, return to me!!

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Nanette wrote :
I mean the ones that are sent in email to you with "Good Luck with your Search" junk?

I used to when I was first on eharmony, but I have since started just deleting them. I guess I kinda see the point, but it just seems like if you closed them, they should stay closed.
I have had a match go dormant and I then closed her after a month or so. I got a request to re-open and did. Turned out that she had a death in the family
 
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I keep seeing the "good luck" message as a bit of sarcasm, as in "yeah, well, good luck to you in your search for a supermodel"
 
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Nanette wrote :
I mean the ones that are sent in email to you with "Good Luck with your Search" junk?

I used to when I was first on eharmony, but I have since started just deleting them. I guess I kinda see the point, but it just seems like if you closed them, they should stay closed.
When a match would close me, I would get a email, log in, see that they closed me, then choose the "Good luck with your search" option.

I did this for two reasons. First, treat others like you'd like to be treated. Second, I think that if you send that message, they then will have the option to reopen the match. I'm not sure if they have that option if you don't respond.

It didn't really cost anything timewise.
 
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I would not send anything for a close of "other" because they just closed me and did not bother with any reason. I would also not bother for "I would rather not say" because that just says to me that they are rude and unwilling to be honest.

If they put anything else I would send a polite "Good Luck with your search" or if I thought they had potential, I have been known to put "Please reconsider" or whatever that other one was. (I only used it once and it made no difference so I never used it again.)
I regularly close because of "no picture" and several have responded that they posted a picture. And I could see that they might have added more info in their profiles. I then re-opened and chatted. But later closed for reasons usually of chemistry.
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I have had a match go dormant and I then closed her after a month or so. I got a request to re-open and did. Turned out that she had a death in the family
I'm very sorry for her loss, but I still am going to leave them closed.
 
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