DeliBebek is offline DeliBebek Post #1  July 17,2009, 5:27am
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I just got a closed message of "other" - yes the dreaded one - from someone I had gone just up to the point where eharmony assured me she was reading Dr. Warren's little letter on safe communication. I don't know what Dr. Warren told her, but it must have sounded "don't go any further."

I've read on this board that a lot of us struggle to get to that point, and a lot of us are quite accustomed to the unexplained closings.

By that point, we've had, what, 600 characters worth of open text to answer those questions? While it's not considered "open" it's plenty of room to say something.

Could there be a field like that on closed messages that occur after that point? Just enough room to say "this is what I didn't like, but I'm sure someone will." if you wanted to. Maybe even optional, under the "other" kind of like in the First Question/Answer.

Would anyone use that or would anyone like a bit of feedback, even 100 characters?

I personally am getting tired of choosing "Based on statement in the profile..." but it's the most accurate one the majority of the time."

I'm sure it's not a new thought, but just wanted to cast a line and see what bites.

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howlong is offline howlong Post #2  July 17,2009, 8:33am
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I would like Other with a place to explain. I am someone that doesnt like to just say no and thats it. Especially if you get to OC, but then again at that point you can just say sorry things arent what I want or whatever then close. But if you dont get to that point then there is little option.
 
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A close is a close. Just say NEXT!
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #4  July 17,2009, 10:51am
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DeliBebek wrote :
I just got a closed message of "other" - yes the dreaded one - from someone I had gone just up to the point where eharmony assured me she was reading Dr. Warren's little letter on safe communication. I don't know what Dr. Warren told her, but it must have sounded "don't go any further."

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Don't read too much into the whole Dr. Warren's letter stuff, and then having her Close you out.

It just happens that it the last place where she can "bail" before starting to communicate with you through email.

Some people get cold feet at that point knowing they will have to write an email, versus clicking on a couple questions, and responding with a sentence or two.

Others are sometimes on the fence, and this is the last place she can Close you without feeling "bad" about doing it.

Finally, some simply get you up to that last point, sit on it a couple days, and get a new Match they think is "better", and thus Close you out.

At least you got a Close.

I have had a number of Matches get up to that Stage, and then just sit there.
Its annoying, because you had just spent a bit of time, and wrote a nice introductory email, and then she just sits there, not willing to send her first email back.

I wish there was a "Nudge" message of a "Hey, look, if you aren't interested anymore, just Close me already and be done with it."

And heck, because you mention Closed messages, I REALLY WANT a "Close - Because you didn't fill out your Profile, if you are still there, fill it out, and then ask for a ReOpen!"
 
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