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I am looking for to find out if there are still some people who are paying for Eharmony. Obviously Eharmony customer service are never going to share the truth about who pays and who does not.
However since last but one free weekend (Memorial day May 24th weekend) I have zero matches that answered questions sent for initiating communication. From the 60-70 matches received, 6 or 7 have closed me, the rest did not take any action- neither looked my profile, nor closed it. And the matches I am still getting (most of them), look like they are non paying members or posesss the signs of non paying members- scarce profiles, no pictures, not acting at all etc

Apparently Eharmony lacks paying members in huge quantities, in my opinion they do matching with non payers first to encourage them to sign up (despeartely genereate some revenue for the company) and second it's done because the lack of paying members available. This way everybody will complain about not being matched or insufficient matches -depending on their settings. My settings are wide open- for the all 50 states incl. Alaska and Hawaii- yes I got matches from these states too. So as I mentioned above, I have not encountered that much of paying members within the 50 states. That said so, rises the question - Is there anyone outthere that is still paying/willing to pay for Eharmony (except for ones who paid, and waiting for their term to expire)? On average the chance to encounter paid member is I would say 50/50. However the chance that any of these paying members to become your match and communicate with you is may be about 1-2 %.
Finally as Eharmony will continue to keep the truth for themselves, is there anyone who paid for the services - not mislead by the motto in the commercials "It's always free to look at your matches".
But not free to communicate. I'm in doubt if it would be cheaper to buy a magazine and I can also look at pictures free there (yes I can see actual pictures this way) instead of hidden pictures from EH.
So what do you think about renewing your membership or joining Eharmony for the first time- anyone willing to take the risk of "bungee jumping"?
- July 16th, 2009, 09:55 am
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I'm currently a member (although I'm not sure why...lol). I, too, have quite a few matches who never even view my profile (which doesn't make them very active).

This may seem odd, but try changing your distance to more local and see if that helps. I've seen others report that they've done better when they've done that. In fact, it may work best to change the distance settings periodically so you tap into different match pools...
- July 16th, 2009, 10:29 am
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I am a paying member and as neardc said I am not sure why since I have been paying my money for a long time and have only gotten first dates except for two matches and they did not last very long either.

I get many more matches than you but have about 90% that don't respond in any way.
- July 16th, 2009, 10:39 am
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when i last had eharmony, i would go weeks without any matches and then all of the sudden i'd get a couple dozen matches all at once since it was renewal time LOL.

i let my paying membership expire and have not, nor will i ever, renew.
- July 16th, 2009, 10:41 am
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txbubba wrote :
when i last had eharmony, i would go weeks without any matches and then all of the sudden i'd get a couple dozen matches all at once since it was renewal time LOL.

i let my paying membership expire and have not, nor will i ever, renew.
I was a paying member for 6 months; that was long before the first "free weekend". I met my wife on E/H. She was actually one of my "original" 8 matches; of these 5 reached OPEN. The week before my subscription was due to run out I received over 20 matches; One of my OPEN matches with whom I comunicated by regular E-mail had the same experience. Both she and I were a little "perplexed" by this to say the least~!
- July 16th, 2009, 11:03 am
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GILKEY wrote :
I was a paying member for 6 months; that was long before the first "free weekend". I met my wife on E/H. She was actually one of my "original" 8 matches; of these 5 reached OPEN. The week before my subscription was due to run out I received over 20 matches; One of my OPEN matches with whom I comunicated by regular E-mail had the same experience. Both she and I were a little "perplexed" by this to say the least~!
Would you mind stating which year that happened? All the stories read and seen on TV are from about at least 2-3 yrs ago, some dating back to the Y2K. EH worked better at that time, however no recent stories from the last and current years. I wonder if it's all due to the recession in the economics as EH also suffers recession, and they can't invest anything to further improve their service.
- July 16th, 2009, 11:11 am
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Would you mind stating which year that happened? All the stories read and seen on TV are from about at least 2-3 yrs ago, some dating back to the Y2K. EH worked better at that time, however no recent stories from the last and current years. I wonder if it's all due to the recession in the economics as EH also suffers recession, and they can't invest anything to further improve their service.
eH was bought out a few years ago, and that's when I noticed a dramatic change for the worse. I think the original owners operated with integrity and an honest desire to see couples matched, but the current owners seem only interested in exploiting singles in the interest of financial gain.

I'm currently a paying member, and have been a member at fairly regular intervals since they started. I will echo the sentiments expressed by others here- I don't know why I'm still a member. I've thrown away good money on this service over the years, and I have yet to have one face to face meeting with just ONE person who even meets my minimum criteria.

Currently, they have not been sending me matches. I have also noticed the same phenomenon expressed by others here- when my subscription is due to expire, all of a sudden I will get a communication, or an interesting match...but if I renew, nothing ever seems to materialize.

I have also noticed that when I do get new matches, they are not new to eH. If they have been in the system for months or even years, why do I only get them toward the end of my subscription period...as if they had just joined and were suddenly discovered to be compatible.

I think that while eH started out as a legitimate service, over the past couple years its credibility has deteriorated
- July 16th, 2009, 12:10 pm
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txbubba wrote :
when i last had eharmony, i would go weeks without any matches and then all of the sudden i'd get a couple dozen matches all at once since it was renewal time LOL.

i let my paying membership expire and have not, nor will i ever, renew.
LOL! After having almost no matches since the last free weekend, with my membership having one week left to go I got 4 "flexible matches" delivered to me yesterday (4 is a LOT for me to get at once.) So far none of them have looked at my profile, so I assume they're non-paying members.

In one year I've had a total of about 90 matches delivered to me. Most have never even looked at my profile. Most that I started communication with never responded. I can count on one hand the number of Open Communications I've gotten to. And I have never met, or even talked to, anyone from eHarmony.

I will let my paying membership expire, and just check back in on free communication weekends. I'm going to guess there will be another one of those around Labor Day. If I should get a really, really interesting sounding match before then, I can always sign up for a 3-for-1 month deal.
- July 16th, 2009, 12:40 pm
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That is what got me to sign up, I received a communication request from someone that looked interesting in her profile. By the time I had finished my profile questionnaire and joined, she must have found someone and never responded again. But, I did meet my current gf soon after that and her e-harmony was about to end and she was not going to renew. I had many matches, to many and was in communication with a few until I set the date for my current gf. First date was all I needed and told everyone I found someone and closed my account. E-harmony tried to get me to join again for REAL cheap a couple times but found my girl so... I was still getting matches and request even though I had closed and shut them off, go figure. Funny thing is I got a com request from a girl with first name of my gf, we had a laugh over that one. No, I did not reopen or replay even though I still had a couple weeks left.
- July 16th, 2009, 02:00 pm
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Oh, I was in e-mail communication with another and I told her about my date, they both knew I was talking to the other, just one went further then the other. Could have been either one because I was really interested in both of them.
- July 16th, 2009, 02:14 pm
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