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Psycue is offline Psycue Post #1  July 13,2009, 4:41pm
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I have been on eHarmony for about a month now and I am not having any luck with 'good' matches. Good for me is someone who I find attractive and have similar interest. Starting out I had a lot of matches sent to me and I was communicating with 8 matches at one point. Of the 8 I sent out a communication request to one. The other 7 were very nice but were either significantly shorter than I (I'm 5'10") or have more than three kids. Having kids is not the issue but my first being his 4th or more is.
I feel I have a lot to offer someone and upon meeting a few matches, I have recieved positive feedback but the chemistry was not there. I don't know if I'm being too picky or I'm not being patient.
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I was very attentive and honest in completing the assessment parts and for the most part my matches do, per their profile, share similar interests.
 
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maybe...need more time. One month is not enough. Plus each day new ppl register. So keep smiling and enjoy the journey....
 
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One month is short.
 
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This site picks matches based on personality, not looks or interests. There are plenty of other sites that let you pick and choose your own matches. You're presumably here because you wanted to try a more scientific approach.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
One month is short.
One month is long.


How do we pick the winner?
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
One month is long.


How do we pick the winner?

Looks, of course! I am an original Frog, while you are sharing your pic with the OP.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Looks, of course! I am an original Frog, while you are sharing your pic with the OP.
But what do you think would happen, if you looked a little deeper into that mirror, behind the shallowness of first apperances, and deep into the layers of substance?

Could you possibly change your mind then?
 
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My comments in bold,
Psycue wrote :
I have been on eHarmony for about a month now and I am not having any luck with 'good' matches. Good for me is someone who I find attractive and have similar interest. Starting out I had a lot of matches sent to me and I was communicating with 8 matches at one point. not bad!!! Of the 8 I sent out a communication request to one. The other 7 were very nice but were either significantly shorter than I (I'm 5'10") you have to go to the "must haves" and specify what your height is, and then slide that indicator over to very important" or have more than three kids. Having kids is not the issue but my first being his 4th or more is. There's plenty of places to make that clear; use the paragraphs you can write to specify no kids or just one as a limit, if that's your limit.
I feel I have a lot to offer someone and upon meeting a few matches, I have recieved [watch your spelling] positive feedback but the chemistry was not there. I don't know if I'm being too picky or I'm not being patient.
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I was very attentive and honest in completing the assessment parts and for the most part my matches do, per their profile, share similar interests.
Remember EH has a gimmick; they match for you. Be patient; this weeds out the impatient, and gives you better chances. Keep searching these sites and send lots of comments, maybe start new threads or even new groups. That way you get practice communicating and interacting, as well as a little practical knowledge.
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
But what do you think would happen, if you looked a little deeper into that mirror, behind the shallowness of first apperances, and deep into the layers of substance?

Could you possibly change your mind then?

I checked, and a month is still short.
 
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Be patient. I was on EH for about 6 months before I met my special someone. I almost didn't give him a chance because he did not look like my type in his pictures. But I had made a promise to myself that I would give all of my matches a chance if they got to the open communication stage. About 4 months after we were matched we met. We had a great time and continued to date. We have been together for over two years and were married last month. There is noone in the world I would rather look at more. First impressions on appearance aren't everything! Try some new people out. You might be surprised.
 
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