PWR is offline PWR Post #1  July 11,2009, 2:33pm
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I am running into blank pages. In guided communication I will start off great and by must/haves communication is just shut down. One thing I
purchased was secure call. Yet, when I mentioned secure call dates shut me down. If I do icebreaker,nudge,or fasttrack forget it conversation/communication is over. I am glad I have many activities other than eharmony and when i go on vacation the computer stays home and eharmony is on hold for two weeks.The issue i see is blank pages and no response. Eharmony assures me my bio is great but It has been one year five months and I am glad that I have other activites besides eharmony. PWR
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  July 11,2009, 3:51pm
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PWR,

I am not sure about "secure call". I have never used it. I have never had a match request it. To me it's really throwing off the timing. The normal progression of Guided Communications to Open Communicates to Email to Phoning seems to work well.

Many, many of us have experience long droughts and much failure. I average one date per year from EH.
 
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NinaSky is offline NinaSky Post #3  July 11,2009, 4:01pm

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PWR wrote :
I am running into blank pages. In guided communication I will start off great and by must/haves communication is just shut down. One thing I
PWR wrote :
purchased was secure call. Yet, when I mentioned secure call dates shut me down. If I do icebreaker,nudge,or fasttrack forget it conversation/communication is over. I am glad I have many activities other than eharmony and when i go on vacation the computer stays home and eharmony is on hold for two weeks.The issue i see is blank pages and no response. Eharmony assures me my bio is great but It has been one year five months and I am glad that I have other activites besides eharmony. PWR
WoW! I've not be on Eharmony but a few weeks. Prior to my being a paying customer, I was just doing the free weekends. But that was the problem there. Start communication and either the matches didn't respond at all by the end of it, or if they did, they'd get to the must haves and poop out. So I was left hanging and walking away empty handed.

I was under the impression that this was just because a weekend
didn't give members enough time to respond in between all
the activities they had going on. So what I did was join for a few months. But now, after the experiences I've had, I just may give it up.

I'm really sorry to hear that this is happening to you. I really don't think it's your profile or even you. I think it's the cold feet of the
people responding. Seems that they may be afraid of the unknown
coming into real life. I'm finding it's that way on most of these sites.

It's so easy to be annonymous online when no one knows who you "really" are or what you are truly about. But when the moment of truth comes or is imminent, it's frightening. So they chicken out.Then too, some folks like to see photos of the person they're communi-cating with. If you don't have any, that could be it. I must admit, I certainly like to see who I'm talking to because I have been
bold enough to reveal myself.

Really, I have no solution to offer. I just wanted to say I kinda know
how you feel. I'm seeking answers too. My 2nd questions seem to get a closed communication(s) message too. I hope things turn around for you. With me, I'm definitely considering canceling my membership.

Best wishes
 
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Reading PWR and DDjr post make me feel like Romeo incarnate.
 
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chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #5  July 11,2009, 6:04pm
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I was on for 3 months and had 2 dates which were decent quality. One turned into a relationship that didn't end so well.

On the other hand, I've been on Match for 4 months. Plenty of "winks" and emails (cheaper, too), but most of them are pretty bad. Like "Thank you God for this special woman i found - I can't thank him enough for the love and beauty that I found" - from a man I've never even communicated with. Or the one that I IM-ed with, who asked if I was typing nekkid. Just scary. Lots of poofers, too.

But I did go out with some matches that seemed more reasonable at the time. I've dated 6 Match guys, but 4 of them were just a horrible mess, 1 of them agreed we had no chemistry (so we're good friends now) and the last one I'm dating right now.

So I guess my point is that Match is cheaper and you get more action... but do you really want it?
 
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