By far my number one complaint about E-Harmony


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booklover85 is offline booklover85 Post #51  July 16,2009, 5:55pm
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I almost wish that instead of "rather not say" or "other" we could write in our own reasons...

I choose other for a different reasons, but I will respect someone that does put "other". I would rather see "other" than "I'd rather not say"
 
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If it were up to me, nobody would have to give a reason for closing. You could just close a match and that would be it.

There are times where I wish there could be more insight. When I see the "based on statements in this profile..." close, I wish I could find out specifically what "statements" those are so I could improve my profile.

There was a point where I really cared about being closed, but after being closed by thousands of matches, I really don't care at this point.
 
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MicMan wrote :
There are times where I wish there could be more insight. When I see the "based on statements in this profile..." close, I wish I could find out specifically what "statements" those are so I could improve my profile.
I personally would not have a problem being rejected for this particular reason. I see it as disagreeing with the content ather than the presentation of my profile. And I wouldn't want to date anyone, who disagreed with me anyway (joke). But really, if they have a problem with what I have to say about myself, my lifestyle choices and/or my prioities, then it's good that they closed me anyway.
 
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MicMan wrote :
If it were up to me, nobody would have to give a reason for closing. You could just close a match and that would be it.

There are times where I wish there could be more insight. When I see the "based on statements in this profile..." close, I wish I could find out specifically what "statements" those are so I could improve my profile.

There was a point where I really cared about being closed, but after being closed by thousands of matches, I really don't care at this point.
I think you're on to something here. When I first got started, every match I got was a new potential. The first few closes I got actually stung my feelings. After awhile, I came to understand there were plenty of reasons, many of which had nothing to do with me, that I might be closed.

Shock: You mean it's really not all about me????

So without adequate feedback about reasons, I had to let it go and ultimately found I could go on living without him. Or him. Or that one, ...or oh...him!
 
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tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #55  July 17,2009, 5:32am
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[quote=MicMan;676862]There are times where I wish there could be more insight. When I see the "based on statements in this profile..." close, I wish I could find out specifically what "statements" those are so I could improve my profile.

I have been tempted to use " based on statements in this profile" These were guys that were a really bad match for me-into guns, cars and hunting. Non match for me but hopefully there is someone out there for them. I do not think they should change their profile if that is who they are - they just are not compatible with me.
 
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MicMan wrote :
There was a point where I really cared about being closed, but after being closed by thousands of matches, I really don't care at this point.
I totally agree, I could care less if someone closed me, its those matches that linger until I decide its time to close them!
 
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I have been tempted to use " based on statements in this profile" These were guys that were a really bad match for me-into guns, cars and hunting. Non match for me but hopefully there is someone out there for them. I do not think they should change their profile if that is who they are - they just are not compatible with me.
I totally agree. Some of their interests that may be okay with other matches are not okay with me. Like hunting...some girls might be into someone who likes to hunt, but that's an automatic closer for me...
 
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MicMan wrote :
If it were up to me, nobody would have to give a reason for closing. You could just close a match and that would be it.
They should have that. It's basically what "Other" has become.

I could understand that individuals who don't post a photo or are slow in responding to communication requests may need some feedback that tells them to post a photo or get on the stick and reply to communication requests. However, let's say the person is into X or is a devout member of some religious group and the match hates that. Telling an individual he or she was rejected based on statements in the profile is useless.
 
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