Guys - if a woman mentions her cats in her profile, do you close?


View Poll Results: Guys - if a woman mentions her cats in her profile, do you close?
Any mention of a cat is an automatic close 9 21.43%
Only if she mentions cat(s) in the plural (more than one cat) 3 7.14%
Only if her overall profile makes her seem like a typical neurotic single female cat owner 12 28.57%
No 19 45.24%
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JDavid is offline JDavid Post #41  July 12,2009, 9:09am
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I do not close any eHarmony "matches" because I do not accept any. However, I am not interested in developing a relationship with any woman who devotes her life to animals or accords them a central place in her life.

I do NOT ask that anyone "give up" their pets to associate with me -- but encourage them to keep as many pets as they wish and to contact others who share their devotions.

Having animals that are not a central focus or concern can fit with me. However, I simply do not wish to have my life affected by anyone's needs and concerns regarding pets or stray animals.

That is my personal decision which is not binding upon anyone other than myself. I do not ask any pet lover (or anyone else) to accept my ideas or enter a relationship with me. The person I seek does not have pets as her primary consideration.

Would you really prefer to have relations with pets rather than to have an outstanding relationship with a human mate?
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obsession in any form is bad news, whether it be cats or sports teams.

seriously. we could cross out cats and insert the Yankees on guys profiles- I'm not opposed to people enjoying sports, i do myself, but i have no interest in men who spent the entire summer drunk and screaming at the TV or more interested in slightly pudgy guys in tight pants than *me*.

 
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scarlet13 wrote :
obsession in any form is bad news, whether it be cats or sports teams.

seriously. we could cross out cats and insert the Yankees on guys profiles- I'm not opposed to people enjoying sports, i do myself, but i have no interest in men who spent the entire summer drunk and screaming at the TV or more interested in slightly pudgy guys in tight pants than *me*.

Scarlet, I've got to disagree with ICM- that sad serial killer avatar makes me grin. I like it. *grin*

And I agree with your post. I think I said something very similar before I went all goofy on this one...

But +1 anyway!
 
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FengShuiBlackBelt[/b];671252] How about people who think all guys who own cats must be gay? :lol:
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Who cares what they think? Besides I've found many of those kind of "tough" men fall the quickest in a boxing ring.
...or at the sight of a needle in the Drs. office...
 
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One mystery solved some time ago: Often "Other" = I HATE CATS! I realized I could repulse some otherwise potential matches, which is fine. It is true: Let's take care of his dealbreakers at the very beginning. And, if he hates cats, that takes care of one of mine as well.

One of the "Five Things I Can't Live Without" is, "A Cat." I did state "A" cat, not a gazillion! My cate does not sleep with me. I keep the place reasonably (to me, maybe not to others) clean, dusted, and vacuumed. Some time back, I had quite a bit to say about this subject, which I won't repeat. (You're welcome.)

There are some critters I don't especially care for, but if he has one (two max) of these critters, I will accept the critter(s), so long as I don't have to adopt the critter(s) as if it were his child, and am not expected to do the clean up and think being bitten is a special favor.

I've lived long enough to truly understand how this issue reveals more about the potential for permanent life together than Meyers/Briggs, the eHarmony 29 areas, and many other tests/interviews/discussions relevations. This is one of the eH "personality test" questions. Maybe it should be given more weight, so it become 29 and 30 (or 17 and 18, or wherever it is). If it isn't considered important by eH, it should be! Too many relationships have broken up over this issue for it not to be.

I do have more on the subject, but I have to leave now. Kitty commands attention...
 
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Hahaha. It never even occurred to me that my cats might be a turnoff. But I'm not worried about it, because anybody who thought my having cats was a problem would be a no go for me, too.
 
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Mayne wrote :
Guys - if a woman mentions her cats in her profile, do you close?
Absolutely! When I see mention of a cat, it goes like this...

CLOSE

Reason:

[x] Cat
 
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I voted "any mention of a cat is an automatic close", but that's not because I have anything against cat owners. Rather, I'm just hyperallergic to cats. It's really helpful to know up front if I'm going to be allergic to a woman's apartment, car, sweater, and sometimes hair. That way, I can just close it out and save both of us a lot of grief.
 
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I ask again my question from post #41, Would you really prefer to have relations with pets rather than to have an outstanding relationship with a human mate?

Many women indicate that their pets "love" them and never let them down. My reaction is, "If that is the level of a love relationship that you seek, that is the level you will be likely to find". I prefer a mature human love relationship (with a woman who agrees).

A point of clarification: I have no objection to a woman having a cat or dog. HOWEVER, if one of the first things she does is to jump up and down waving her arms and screaming "I love my cats", I am unlikely to be interested in pursuing a relationship with her. Women I find interesting have more important issues than dogs and cats as the first thing on their minds to open discussion (or to describe their interests).
 
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JDavid wrote :
... Women I find interesting have more important issues than dogs and cats as the first thing on their minds to open discussion (or to describe their interests).
what if she's a veterinarian?
 
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