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View Poll Results: Guys - if a woman mentions her cats in her profile, do you close?
Any mention of a cat is an automatic close 8 20.00%
Only if she mentions cat(s) in the plural (more than one cat) 3 7.50%
Only if her overall profile makes her seem like a typical neurotic single female cat owner 12 30.00%
No 18 45.00%
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timeless2 wrote :
I mentioned my cats in my profile cause I don't want to waste the time of those who are hyperallergic. I was once asked, which is more important, your animals or the health of your allergic partner? While my animals are with me, they will stay until they pass. They are an expression of my love of life. Their independence and devotion amaze me. However, I will probably not replace them as I am travelling more often. My understanding is that an allergy can be treated/managed, so the question becomes what can be done in the meantime for this to work?
I completely agree, and this is the reason why my cats are mentioned on my eH profile, as well. Why go through the whole process of meeting and finding that we really like each other only to find that he can't come anywhere near my home because of an allergy to my cats? Since so many people I know are allergic to them, I think it would be insensitive of me to not say something about them on my profile. This way, they can just close me out if this is a deal breaker and move on to meet someone else.
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- July 9th, 2009, 09:35 am
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Mayne wrote :
Guys - if a woman mentions her cats in her profile, do you close?
my cat just peed on your thread. sorry.
- July 9th, 2009, 10:16 am
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I love cats and some dogs. Isn't a problem for at all if she has cats.
- July 9th, 2009, 12:21 pm
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Of course not. Cats are awesome! Their like friendly ninjas.
- July 9th, 2009, 02:27 pm
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I like the way this thread has turned out! Very reassuring.
- July 9th, 2009, 06:46 pm
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I don't close out a girl because she has a cat. That said, I do think "pets" should be a sorting type question for the initial matches.

Some people don't like them, some are allergic to them, and some people have pets of their own that can make the relationship more complicated.
- July 9th, 2009, 06:51 pm
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It sounds as if you are threatened by the cat. Have you had a negative experience with a women who dotes on her cat too much? Or perhaps you just don't like cats and have negative conotations of cats that you find hard to separate from the owner.
If this is a reason that you are closing out matches, I think you need to examine your expectations of what you want in a partner.
While I agree that some people can be a little overzealous with their animals, most of the time it is a method to show affection to a creature that will never judge or rebuke you when all you need is a cuddle. Cat/ Dog/Snake/Rat,,,,whatever, if a person loves their critter then it is a good sign that they can love, tend to, and be responsible for another life. All great qualities to have in a partner.
- July 9th, 2009, 07:56 pm
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grlnxtdr wrote :
It sounds as if you are threatened by the cat. Have you had a negative experience with a women who dotes on her cat too much? Or perhaps you just don't like cats and have negative conotations of cats that you find hard to separate from the owner.

If this is a reason that you are closing out matches, I think you need to examine your expectations of what you want in a partner.

While I agree that some people can be a little overzealous with their animals, most of the time it is a method to show affection to a creature that will never judge or rebuke you when all you need is a cuddle. Cat/ Dog/Snake/Rat,,,,whatever, if a person loves their critter then it is a good sign that they can love, tend to, and be responsible for another life. All great qualities to have in a partner.
*snick snick snick* out come the claws
Cat: stay away from my human, or I’ll cut you in ways that make you useless to a woman.
- July 9th, 2009, 08:20 pm
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Mentioning pets can be useful. Saying "I have 12 cats" would be a bit of a red flag for me, though

I had a match who mentioned his dogs in several spots, including "can't live without". Two of his pictures showed him with them. Pitbulls.
I love dogs and I get along with all animals but pitbulls scare the bejeezus out of me. From his profile, I got "love me, love my dogs" so I closed him. He needs someone braver than me
- July 9th, 2009, 08:40 pm
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The next thing I am going to here, those of us that have horses or like horses are going to be closed because of that? I think things are getting too nit-picky, if people are not wanting to accept partners with a free mind, what are they doing looking for a partner?
- July 9th, 2009, 09:38 pm
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