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The second round of questions on Eharmony really feels like the "make or break" time in the Eharmony process. So, I am curious to what questions all you fine people out there ask... specifically unique questions (as to say, not on the Eharmony generated list).

My favorite question to ask is for the person to "Tell me 5 fun/random things about you." This question is almost impossible to give a canned answer to, and actually gives you a lot of insight on the person... not to mention some great things to talk about once you do start speaking in a more open context.

Who else has a really good question to ask?
 
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I like the '3 wishes'. It also gives some insight to the person... [even though its not very original]
 
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One of the questions I always ask is: Tell me about your last relationship. How long did you guys go out and who ended it and why? Are you still friends with the other person?

Okay, I know it's like 4 questions in one, but it gives a lot of insight about the other person and how they answer the question. If they come out bitter and bashing the other person, I think twice about going further in communciation with them as if they bash their ex, what makes you think they won't bash you if things go wrong. Also, as it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make it end, I like to see the person admit that and wish their ex all the best.
 
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skip9824 wrote :
The second round of questions on Eharmony really feels like the "make or break" time in the Eharmony process. So, I am curious to what questions all you fine people out there ask... specifically unique questions (as to say, not on the Eharmony generated list).

My favorite question to ask is for the person to "Tell me 5 fun/random things about you." This question is almost impossible to give a canned answer to, and actually gives you a lot of insight on the person... not to mention some great things to talk about once you do start speaking in a more open context.

Who else has a really good question to ask?
I agree w/ the 5 random things question. I hadn't really thought about this until one of my matches asked me it, and I let her know that IMO it was the best short answer questioned that I had been asked.
 
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I like "If I were to sit down with your friends over drinks when you're not around, what would they say about you?"
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #6  July 8,2009, 7:35am
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I like asking where she sees herself in five years. Personally, someone that can't begin to answer that question may not be for me. I mean even if their answer leads to me finding out they are the kind of person that lives day by day and they explain why they can't answer with an actual answer (if you get what I mean).

Another good question is to ask is what she would do with a million dollars. It is an interesting question and again one can learn a lot about someone (only if they are honest and don't lie about giving the money to charity if they are not really the type of person that would do that).
 
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The 5 random fun things question is now on my standard list. It is nicely open-ended, and inherently positive. Thank you.

The last relationship question was better worded than the one I was using. Thanks for that also.

I use a variation on the 3 wishes question. "What are your hopes and dreams? And what will fulfill you, as you strive towards them?"

Now I'm tempted to start yet another thread, for both practice and entertainment. "5 random fun things about each of us." (I'm off to do just that. Is that a fun thing, or just an indication of my gullible and mischievous natures?)
 
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I have recently started asking this question:
"What are you ultimately looking for from a relationship?"
 
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stevex wrote :
I like asking where she sees herself in five years. Personally, someone that can't begin to answer that question may not be for me. I mean even if their answer leads to me finding out they are the kind of person that lives day by day and they explain why they can't answer with an actual answer (if you get what I mean).

Another good question is to ask is what she would do with a million dollars. It is an interesting question and again one can learn a lot about someone (only if they are honest and don't lie about giving the money to charity if they are not really the type of person that would do that).
Maybe it is an age thing but I am hoping that I will still be right here in 5 years.

If I had a million dollars I would invest it. Oh wait I am doing that already
 
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I like the 5 random facts question too. After a while you get tired of answering the relationship/philosophical questions. Sometimes I will pick out something from the profile to ask. But to be honest, I don't place a ton of emphasis on the communication process. I'd much rather get to know someone through conversation and interaction.
 
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