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lil_lamb wrote :
scandanavia isn't third world. it's easier to be a doctor (as opposed to just having a medical degree) and in your 20s in europe, because you don't necessarily have to stop for an undergraduate degree (i've probably put that badly). i had a boyfriend who moved to sweden when his parents divorced at about age 12 - he'd never make either an english or a swedish major.

i suppose the real question is why she's talking to someone so far away.
I think you misread his post...

"...she is working out of a third country where she is presently."
- July 7th, 2009, 11:16 pm
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brneyedangel wrote :
I think you misread his post...

"...she is working out of a third country where she is presently."
if you read down, vinlukin also says she's working in scandanavia now.

the point is, it's not clear where she is.
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- July 8th, 2009, 12:59 am
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Umm...are we still on topic here?
- July 8th, 2009, 01:11 am
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vinlukin wrote :
Ok, she probably joined because of the free weekend and now I am in open communication outside of EH with her. She is a very beautiful woman and she has sent me multiple pictures. But I am starting to believe the too good to be true line is coming into play here.

Says she grew up in a Canadian border state (I know which one but I'm going to omit certain details that have no bearing on the discussion), and that at an early age her father (American) passed away so she moved with her mother to her mother's home country in Europe. Now she is in her upper 20's and is in the field of medicine, she is working out of a third country where she is presently.

Also my settings are very broad as far as what countries I will accept matches from, I have been to a decent amount of countries and I believe I can meet someone from another side of the globe and it doesn't present an issue for me. So the distance thing is not an issue, I'd rather meet someone from Poland than California for example.

So here is the deal, I'm trying to determine if this is for real. I'm hoping I'm not a mark for some scam. There has been no mention of sending money or anything like that yet. She uses broken English, not bad for someone who uses English as a second language but I would think it would be better since she lived in the states for some time.

I'm relatively new to EH, only have been a member for less than two months, and I am a paying member. My question is if there is any prior history on the site that have had scams lead this way. I am not interested in the being the next victim of some Africa send me money type scheme.

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Hey dude. I think you might be getting scammed.
I had a similar experience around a month ago.
"She" wanted to communicate outside of eharmony right away.
Same story about "her" father dying and she lives with her mother. Only she said she was living in Nigeria not Europe. She wrote in broken english too."She" seemed to be rambling and never really asnwered my questions. "She" sent me multiple pics too. Let me ask you, do the pics she sent you look professionally done? Is she wearing a blue hoodie in one of them? Does she have red nail polish on? Perhaps its the same scammer.

I knew it was a scam but you know how it is. We hope that there is a chance that it might be true. Thats how they take advantage of you.

A couple of days later Eharmony sent me an email saying that "she" was deleted but they couldn't say why. And sure enough I never heard from her again. So you might want to email eharm about it.

Hopefully yours is true, but I had to write you because its just like what happend to me. And mine was BOGUS!
- July 8th, 2009, 01:31 am
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Well I've decided to play this out and see what happens. I won't give too many personal details either. I'll know it has gone south if I get hit up for some cash.
- July 8th, 2009, 02:55 am
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lil_lamb wrote :
if you read down, vinlukin also says she's working in scandanavia now.

the point is, it's not clear where she is.
I have been given specific countries, I was just leaving them out because I figured the exact one didn't matter. I thought the general area would be good enough for conversation.
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- July 8th, 2009, 02:58 am
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My thought is this person sounds like a scam to me...can't say for sure, but the MO is very familiar. If you want to check the IP addy or her emails, pull up the full header of the email & reading up from the bottom of it there should be an IP of received from...you can then take that IP & go to the website w w w. dnsstuff. com (take out the spaces) & you can find out where the email is originating from, Good luck!
- July 8th, 2009, 05:32 am
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Just don't send her money! For the love of god. Don't send her a scan of your passport or drivers license!
- July 8th, 2009, 06:16 am
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vinlukin wrote :
I have been given specific countries, I was just leaving them out because I figured the exact one didn't matter. I thought the general area would be good enough for conversation.
ah. well, it matters a little. if she's *in nigeria,* drop her like a hot potato!
- July 8th, 2009, 09:44 am
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OP from what you have said there just are too many little things going on here that don't add up to me and I smell a hint of s-c-a-m coming on. But you said you are going to be very cautious and you know what you are up against so go for it.
- July 8th, 2009, 09:58 am
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