pamcam is offline pamcam Post #11  July 5,2009, 6:05pm
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If I'm most interested, I'll initiate. I'm not traditional, although I do enjoy it when he does.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #12  July 5,2009, 6:07pm
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Since joining eHarmony in late February I have always been the one to initiate communication, until this weekend. Out of the blue I got an email saying I received first questions from a match. I must have missed the email that we were even matched. It was neat seeing her take initiative as it sort of takes the pressure off some to see that she is interested enough to start communication. Way too early to see if we will be talking this time next week but we have moved on to communicate on IM and things have been good the past couple of days.
 
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jleen wrote :
Hello Tanker,
I agree with Emmma. I like the idea of waiting for the man to send me questions ... then I will respond. It is not that I am shy - it just makes more sense to me. I believe that if a guy is truly interested - he will make the first move.
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OK I went first and we'll see what happens
 
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OK I went first and we'll see what happens
Don't forget about us! We're sitting here, waiting and fidgeting!
 
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Tanker wrote :
OK I went first and we'll see what happens
Good luck with it! Just one word of advice, do not get discouraged if for whatever reason she doesn't respond. You will get other matches. I say this, because when you first join it can be a bit of a bummer to have matches not respond. Also she might have been on for the free weekend and won't be able to respond after the weekend is over.
 
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Geezzzz--it's 2009 not 1959! I waited by the phone back then, for the guy to call me.
Now, if I am slightly interested I send first questions.
Remember, so many of the matches are NOT MEMBERS and are just looking-we won't ever hear from them if they don't get encouragement to join in the way of interest.
If a profile needs some filling out, I send that icebreaker, and I always ask for a picture if it isn't posted....though sometimes they just don't have a digital one available (many men in my age group are Luddites-don't do digital cameras).
I'm here to find someone not to wait for mister right to see how wonderful I am by osmosis..no harm no foul in making the first move.
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If I'm interested in a guy, then I'll send the first questions without hesitation. I'm paying for the service, so I'm going to use it.

There's just too many variables in online dating that I'm not going to take a chance on waiting for the men to contact me...maybe they don't log on as often as I do, maybe they're not paying members, maybe they're bogged down in numerous matches, etc. If they don't respond, then I have my answer -- but at least I put myself out there.
 
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