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View Poll Results: Why do men leave matches open?
Too lazy to close the match 6 33.33%
Too busy to close the match 3 16.67%
Why bother? 3 16.67%
Thinking about responding, but waiting 3 16.67%
Hoping the woman will take the initiative 7 38.89%
None of the above 3 16.67%
Other-write in possible ans? 6 33.33%
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eH's policy is to make money for its stockholder(s) while providing a service. One of the means to achieve that end is to match up non-paying members with as many people as possible (including paying members who foolishly try to communicate with the non-payers who can't communicate) to entice them to pay for a subscription. The more people that sign up, the greater the revenue.

Every time the eH staff starts a thread about improving the service, the number one response, and just last week nearly unanimous, was differentiating the non-paying members. It ain't gonna happen. If they do that, no paying member is going to request communication and bait them to pay up.

As long as there are inactive profiles, there is potential for someone to pay up so they're not going to disable a potential revenue producer. The paying members probably wind up being the biggest enticement for freeloaders to buy subscriptions.

Brilliant, isn't it? Get it now?
Yeah I got it now, but it seems to me that this kind of business venture operates on pyramid scheme. To enhance credibility, most such scams are well equipped with fake referrals, testimonials, and information. Clearly, the flaw is that there is no end benefit. The money simply travels up the chain. Only the originator (sometimes called the "pharaoh") and a very few at the top levels of the pyramid make significant amounts of money. The amounts dwindle steeply down the pyramid slopes. Of course, the worst off are at the bottom of the pyramid: those who subscribed to the plan, but were not able to recruit any followers themselves.( thats us, the subscribers who paid money to join ). Eventually one day the pyramid will crash down as less and less people are going to join in.
The good: Reading all that we smile.
The bad: We know people in similar situations.
The ugly: We were some of these people.
- July 8th, 2009, 03:26 pm
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I currently have about 300 junk matches, either in my new matches or as non-communicating deadbeat matches. I just don't have a full day or so to dedicate to cleaning up all these non-viable matches.
I'm sure that, unless these people are selling male enhancement pills or fake watches, THEY do not consider themselves to be "junk".
You may want to tighten up some of your parameters to narrow your list down a bit, such as reducing the distance that you're willing to go for a date. Worked for me. I now have fewer, but much more suitable matches.
That way you get more pertinent matches and don't have to spend time "cleaning up".
- July 8th, 2009, 05:43 pm
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Zev wrote :
I'm sure that, unless these people are selling male enhancement pills or fake watches, THEY do not consider themselves to be "junk".
You may want to tighten up some of your parameters to narrow your list down a bit, such as reducing the distance that you're willing to go for a date. Worked for me. I now have fewer, but much more suitable matches.
That way you get more pertinent matches and don't have to spend time "cleaning up".
You're new here, aren't you? OMG, what did we ever do without you to give us all the answers, solve all our problems, AND cut us down all at the same time?

By the way, I'd like to set you up with one of my matches. He lives in Florida, but he grew up in Europe. He has a son in private school in Germany. He is a self employed entrepeneur, sometimes selling stocks and bonds, and sometimes he owns his own business.

I think you and he would make a great match!
- July 8th, 2009, 07:34 pm
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Well LavenderFields, I for whatever reason thought if I viewed a match anonymously then tuned on show my name and location to communicate with a match, the other match wouldn't know I'd viewed them until I clicked on them again...???

I preferred that method so matches I am only somewhat interested in didn't wonder why I kept looking at their profile but not communicating or closing them out.

Maybe eH could step in here and clarify this or maybe someone could find a post that deals with this.
- July 9th, 2009, 07:15 am
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BSLS wrote :
You're new here, aren't you?
Well, actually, I'm not, but I can see why you've been here so long.
Sorry you're having a bad day.
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One of the reasons I didn't close matches initially was I didn't want to hurt the feelings of the other person. However, after being on the site for a bit I came to believe that rejection here is just like it is in the real world, it's part of the dating game. Some people are not matches and it is better to reject them as soon as you know that the individual is a bad match.

The ones I have left open are people that are borderline interesting to me.
- July 9th, 2009, 06:43 pm
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