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Has any other ladies using EH notice that most of the fellows say on their About Mes that honesty is the most important quality in a mate ? Or is it just me, maybe some of the guys out there could weigh in on why this is a priority.

I'm not arguing against desiring honesty, I just think it's curious that it is frequently used to answer this question.
- July 3rd, 2009, 04:04 pm
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In all honesty it is probably because we can't think of anything to put there

An interesting mini article on honesty :
http://advice.eharmony.com/article/w...e-profile.html
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- July 3rd, 2009, 04:11 pm
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It's my opinion that most men list as desirable qualities, the opposite of all of the undesirable qualities of their last relationship. When you get to his MHCS's, you can practically see what kind of woman his last one was based on the can't stands.

I only say "most men" because I only see men's profiles--But I am guilty of the same thing, which I only realized quite some time later. It's an unconscious thing.

If we have been with someone who has lied and cheated, it's only natural to desire honesty.

This is only my opinion of course, and it is interesting that so many use that as their answer, I agree, I also bet that most women have something similar as their answer.

On the other hand, honesty is something that we as human beings need in a mate for our own sense of security. We've all been hurt in some way or another, at some time in our lives and naturally want to avoid that.

- July 3rd, 2009, 05:14 pm
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My thought on seeing a statement like this on a profile is that the person has baggage.

I think one should not write about what they’re looking for by referencing things which ought to be qualities everyone possesses.
- July 3rd, 2009, 05:56 pm
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I see that A LOT in their profiles and it doesn't bother me that they put that
- July 3rd, 2009, 06:01 pm
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SMRTRTHNU wrote :
It's my opinion that most men list as desirable qualities, the opposite of all of the undesirable qualities of their last relationship. When you get to his MHCS's, you can practically see what kind of woman his last one was based on the can't stands.
I share your opinion on this subject and not just regarding their last woman, but all the previous one's too
- July 3rd, 2009, 07:47 pm
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I don't know guys, maybe I'm an idealist, but I choose to believe that particular statement.

I think honesty should be important to all of us, men or women. No relationship can survive, if it's not based on honesty, proof of that honesty, and the ensuing trust.

But it does not mean dumping all of that honesty all at once. Slow and steadyover time works much better for me, personally.
- July 3rd, 2009, 07:55 pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
I don't know guys, maybe I'm an idealist, but I choose to believe that particular statement.

I think honesty should be important to all of us, men or women. No relationship can survive, if it's not based on honesty, proof of that honesty, and the ensuing trust.

But it does not mean dumping all of that honesty all at once. Slow and steadyover time works much better for me, personally.
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- July 3rd, 2009, 08:08 pm
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My thought on seeing a statement like this on a profile is that the person has baggage.

I think one should not write about what they’re looking for by referencing things which ought to be qualities everyone possesses.

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- July 3rd, 2009, 08:12 pm
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Hmm, I get a lot of matches that list Honesty on their profile. Oh and my matches are women.
- July 3rd, 2009, 09:25 pm
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