Wootz is offline Wootz Post #11  July 3,2009, 9:00pm
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The whole "Can’t Stand" list shows things we’d want to avoid in a partner, doesn’t it? I mean, some people could tolerate some qualities on there, but not all (not even close). Betrayal of trust is a big deal. I’d take it as a given that everyone wants honesty, and if they put that in their profile, I don’t have a problem. If that keeps coming up, I’d think paranoid/baggage- problems. As SMRTRTHNU said, this maybe an indicator they’ve been burned by this in the past. My MHCS list reflects that, and I set it up that way intentionally. There are a few things on there that *really* bug me, or that I really need to see in a partner… The rest is just common sense, IMHO.
 
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j0hn8andy wrote :
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Are you trying to get the Frog and the Moon into a flight?

We do that well without any provocation
 
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hawqeye is offline hawqeye Post #13  July 3,2009, 9:31pm
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For me trust is more important than honesty. I mean we all lie to an extent, however if the trust is not there in a person then for me it all goes downhill.

Yes I will admit that my past relationship had a trust issue, that is why I really want to avoid it again in the future. I am already gullible enough :P
 
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hawqeye is offline hawqeye Post #14  July 3,2009, 9:58pm
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Honestly, albeit important is not the number one on my list because we all are not completely honest all of the time .

My numero uno policy is trust, if I cannot trust my potential partner then the whole relationship will fall apart. It can be said that honesty and trust are the same, but they are different.

Any yes trust was an issue with one of my past partners, so that will be a big one for me to avoid with future relationships
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Are you trying to get the Frog and the Moon into a flight?

We do that well without any provocation




LOL

It had more to do with following ChasMD post. WAY too hard to resist!

Just sign me,
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passerine wrote :
Has any other ladies using EH notice that most of the fellows say on their About Mes that honesty is the most important quality in a mate ? Or is it just me, maybe some of the guys out there could weigh in on why this is a priority.

I'm not arguing against desiring honesty, I just think it's curious that it is frequently used to answer this question.
Not just men, women put that in their profile a lot as well. It's only natural to want to be with someone who's going to be honest with you rather than someone who's going to lie, cheat, steal, and screw you over. Of course a lot of women seem to be subconciously drawn to those types, so I don't know...........
 
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I recall posting a thread on the honesty issue some time ago. I was shocked that almost every woman...at least 99.9% listed it. I just figured it was women in my age range or personality...only my matches did it so much.

I thought about using mirror psychology and putting it in my list of what I'm looking for in a partner but couldn't bring myself to do it.

Obviously women and men have been lied to and scarred, plus I think if someone wants "honesty" they really are saying I don't want you to BS me and waste my time.
 
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I just want to know that I can always trust my partner and I believe that honesty and trustworthiness go hand in hand
 
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