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Braveslady is offline Braveslady Post #1  July 2,2009, 5:48pm
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One of my matches and I are in the GC stage. He sent his responses to my questions, but on two out of the five he added a P.S. I did not write my own questions, but picked from the list provided by EH. One question dealt with how to handle a party where you knew no one. He provided an adequate answer, but proceeded to tell me he loved my pictures. I'm a little uncomfortable by this, even though his comment was not offensive just out of place. Your opinions are welcome.
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #2  July 2,2009, 5:56pm
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I have this sinking feeling in my heart that the guy is guilty of the terrible crime of paying you a compliment.

What exactly makes you uncomfortable about that and why?

He probably would't be communicating with you at all, if he didn't find you cute or attractive, so I don't see the bad side here...

Just enjoy the experience and see what comes of it.
And do give my question some consideration because people, who cannot take a sincere compliment, usually project personal insecuity. A very simple "thank you" is all you need to say in return.

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Rob_UK is offline Rob_UK Post #3  July 2,2009, 6:04pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
I have this sinking feeling in my heart that the guy is guilty of the terrible crime of paying you a compliment.

What exactly makes you uncomfortable about that and why?

He probably would't be communicating with you at all, if he didn't find you cute or attractive, so I don't see the bad side here...

Just enjoy the experience and see what comes of it.
And do give my question some consideration because people, who cannot take a sincere compliment, usually project personal insecuity. A very simple "thank you" is all you need to say in return.

Good luck!
agreed...as a photographer (not professional I hasten to clarify) I often compliment people (men and women) on their pictures and I see a nice image I say so...what is wrong with that?

Go with the flow - would you rather he didn't like them?

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yeoww is offline yeoww Post #4  July 2,2009, 6:08pm
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I'd find a compliment appealing rather than threatening, but that's just me :-)
 
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Axmac is offline Axmac Post #5  July 2,2009, 6:13pm
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I'm a photographer also..and I compliment and comment as well.
no worries.
I would take it!
 
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Braveslady wrote :
One of my matches and I are in the GC stage. He sent his responses to my questions, but on two out of the five he added a P.S. I did not write my own questions, but picked from the list provided by EH. One question dealt with how to handle a party where you knew no one. He provided an adequate answer, but proceeded to tell me he loved my pictures. I'm a little uncomfortable by this, even though his comment was not offensive just out of place. Your opinions are welcome.
Go with your instincts on this one. If something seems iffy, then it probably is. After all, he paid you compliments twice! That is definitely overkill, plus, he is paying them to you way too early. If only there were a way that you could write a personal message in closing someone. You could take that opportunity to explain to him that what he is doing is not acceptable.
 
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Braveslady wrote :
One of my matches and I are in the GC stage. He sent his responses to my questions, but on two out of the five he added a P.S. I did not write my own questions, but picked from the list provided by EH. One question dealt with how to handle a party where you knew no one. He provided an adequate answer, but proceeded to tell me he loved my pictures. I'm a little uncomfortable by this, even though his comment was not offensive just out of place. Your opinions are welcome.
Yeah I read this 3 times to make sure I did not miss anything and I still don't see the problem. What was his answer to the party question? I think that will shed some light on this. I'm kidding. As others have said, just go with the flow and if he starts wig out just poof on him.

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Rob_UK is offline Rob_UK Post #8  July 2,2009, 6:17pm
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Go with your instincts on this one. If something seems iffy, then it probably is. After all, he paid you compliments twice! That is definitely overkill, plus, he is paying them to you way too early. If only there were a way that you could write a personal message in closing someone. You could take that opportunity to explain to him that what he is doing is not acceptable.
two compliments!!!!!???? OMG....I did not realise that......this is serious...he might really like you....yeah...I'd ditch him...after all you need to get your full moneys worth out of EH ...don't go after the first guy that pays you any compliments.



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Emmma is offline Emmma Post #9  July 2,2009, 6:21pm
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I think my heart would melt a little if a match said that to be during that stage
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #10  July 2,2009, 6:21pm
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Gasp! Hang and quarter the guy for the complement, why don't ya.

Eh, just go with the flow. If he compliments you WAY too much, then you have permission to close him.
 
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